There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Thank you so much for the advice. Im new to the website and it seems it’s full of great tips and secrets to maximize wonderful transition outcomes. I am definetly signing up to the newsletters. Once again thank you.
Hi sweetie just wanted to say hi this is a TS from Modesto CA
Just be yourself. know that you are a woman now and so you need to conduct yourself as such. don’ overdo it. let it flow naturally. there is nothing worse than a person trying to be something they are not. female vocabulary is really important. remember ladies…men are more physical and woman are more emotional!
An easy, quick trick I picked up from an actress:
To sound higher raise the sides of your tongue to press against your upper teeth at the back.
Try to sing a bit more as you speak, allowing a little more breath into your tone.
With only a little practice this is a big leap forward.
Before you step out rehearse some standard lines in the car, Please, thankyou excuse me etc. and lines
like:”Maybe a little blonder. Trim the ends. And can we do a cute roller set like last time?”
Informative article…
Thank you so much for the tips. The voice is by far the hardest thing to change or feminize.
Your advice is perfect for me as I work entirely with women and have a great opportunity to listen to their conversations. I’ve probably picked up some of your advice tips already, just through my job…
xJan
Hi Lucille and all our Gurlfriends
Something I learned quite a while ago, was when a man talks the sound forms in the top of the larynx. When a lady speaks, her voice forms at the bottom.
It takes practice but our voice can be found by making the sound come from the bottom of our thought. Touch your larynx while practicing.
Hope this helps
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
I totally love this article and post. Changing my vocabulary seems to be really important and I’m trying to do it more and more. I kinda feel like when I just loosen up and quit taking myself so seriously, the words just kinda flow and then I seem to just relax. I’m even doing things in my online communication like using hearts <3 and cute little flowery emojis. I don't know if it works, but it makes me feel like it does.
Steph