Age is a popular topic around here and I’m occasionally asked…
“Am I too old to crossdress?” or “Am I too old to transition as a transgender woman?”
My response?
NO, of course not!
Whether you are a so-called mature crossdresser – or an older MTF woman beginning her transition – it is NEVER too late to be your true female self.
I believe that the true desires or your heart are meant to be expressed – no matter how long they’ve been buried.
Is it true that your age may have an impact on hormone therapy or surgery? Yes, that’s possible. But a good doctor will guide you on your best and safest options.
The fact remains that you can transition and/or present yourself as a woman at any point in life.
In fact, embracing your feminine side can give you a whole new lease on life…
I see it all the time: People seem to grow years younger when they make the decision to be themselves fully.
Having the courage to express your true self also inspires others to do the same. The world needs more of this!
In the words of Laverne Cox:
“It is revolutionary for any trans person to choose to be seen and visible in a world that tells us we should not exist.”
I’ll say it again: You are NEVER too old to be your true female self.
So, I encourage you to take that next step and do whatever it is that you’ve been holding back on.
You deserve it. And it’s not too late!
Do you agree that age is just a number?
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic…
How old were you when you decided to fully embrace your female self? (Or are you still waiting?)
Let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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The funny thing about transitioning at this point in life is that I find it hard to want to dress my age. I have to fight the urge to wear mini’s and show my cleavage as I did years ago. So I reserve that for private times and try to dress like a mature woman in public. Life is made up of amazing twists and turns, not to mention bumps and curves. They say beauty is skin deep, but I say it comes from inside us all.
Love, Bobbi.
Learn to accept yourself and imbrace who you have become. Don’t let age deter you from finding happiness.
Thank you Marcy, that is very nice of you to say. I’m 64 also, but I feel much younger. Love, Bobbi.
Hello Bobbi,
Your are so beautiful! I am 64 and would love to wear mini’s
and high heels but just don’t have the courage.. I usually stick to “Old Ladies clothing”.. 🙁
Hugs,
Marcy
You are very similar to me as in you are truly a woman was born into a male body. I did transition one year ago and am now happier than I’ve ever been living as the bisexual woman I’ve always been inside. Yes the meds. are expensive and I’ll never have my uterus fallopian tubes and ovaries I was shorted at birth but do have lovely d cup breasts. My testicles and penis that I loathed are no more and I say good riddance to the horrible things. Now when I have sex I am in euphoria rather than ashamed and enraged. I first identified as a lesbian but have mellowed to bisexual since SRS and have no problem finding willing partners of both genders.
Hi Daphne. I’m Karen.I just wanted to say that I think that you have such courage to transition all the way. You are the envy of a lot of us that haven’t transitioned yet. You definitely seem to have a happy life now and that’s great! I hope to one day do the same and find someone who wants to be with a gurl like me.
Hi Karen71, Thank you for your kind words. My life hasn’t been all ups since SRS but whatever comes is easier to take in the body your mind was made for. I’ve had to give up family and friends but have new ones who accept me as me not a façade that I am no longer willing or able to conform to. My only regrets are of course not being born into a female body from the start. I regret missing female puberty, pregnancy, motherhood and menopause. I also hope you find someone to be with you. Best Wishes, Daphne
This was meant as a comment to julie lisa but applies to all of us mis-bodied women.
Thanks girlfriend for responding. So I take it you are post-op? If you are I do envy you. I just wish that I would have gone ahead and went through with my SRS on one of the occasions. Are your Ds natural or did you have augmentation? I was thinking of a boob job to get a D cup but my C cups are working for me so I will leave them as they are. Yes we do have much in common!
As far as I am concerned there is no age limit, it all depends on what you want to do with your life.
I am in my mid 60s and I am living totally and full time as a woman. This is after from retiring from working as a male most of my life, and before I retired I started preparing for my new life as a woman. That day came that I was officially retired and when that day did come I tossed all my male clothing and everything else male that I owned. I would not need any of that anymore. I now only wear clothes that are made for a woman to wear. That goes for everything else I buy also such as deodorants, perfume, soap, shampoo, lotions, etc., are all things that are women’s products that a woman would buy. I go shopping as a woman for women’s clothing, in fact I do all shopping as a woman.
I will be as and live as a woman for the rest of my life. My husband, who is 10 years younger than me knows that if I pass I want to be laid to rest as a woman. I am legally married to a man and am his wife. We had to marry ‘same sex’ to make it legal but had a wedding at a chapel and I was a bride. We even had the little plastic bride & groom figures on our wedding cake and I had bridesmaids (other transwomen). Even though it had to be a ‘same sex’ marriage we consider it a marriage between a man and a woman, and I am the woman of course and the wife.
There were several other times in my life that I was able to live full time as a woman when I could work as a woman, and was a woman 24/7 but always had to go back to being male. Now there is nothing holding me back and I have everything arranged so that I can be a woman full time for the rest of my life. I have no problem passing as a woman because I was first feminized when I was 6 by my babysitter. The seeds of femininity were planted in me than and they took root and grew. I have had lots of practice being a female and have perfected my illusion and deception. I have been told that when I’m dressed and madeup as a female that I look 10 years younger than I do as a male. The makeup helps. I did have my struggles as I grew with gender identity and went back and forth from male to female.
In my early 20s, which was in the early 1970s I did get approved for SRS. The psychiatrist and the surgeon that I spoke with both approved me after I took some tests that the results were that as a female I had passed the point of no return and was the green light for continuing my journey into womanhood. I had already lived the required one year as a woman while on HRT. I started this process then just because I wanted to be a woman but then I finally realized that I was going to have to live the rest of my life on HRT and I had not yet figured out a way to keep myself supplied with the necessary female hormones. At that time the hormones were very expensive and not covered by insurance for a sex change. So I backed out and halted the surgeries. They wanted to do my breasts and my vaginoplasty in 2 separate operations. I did get a very rare second chance in the 1980s and I was in my 30s. They are very strict on SRS/GRS and a second chance is very rare and one has to be very convincing. I was living as a woman in a fantasy marriage with a man and I fell in love with him and he said that he loved me too. We wanted to be legally married but that was well before the SCOTUS ruling and before same sex marriages. The only way we could get legally married was if I became a woman. I was granted a second chance based on that because I told them that I would continue to live with him as a woman anyway. I had started my year as living as a woman while on HRT and moved back to my home, he was in Northern CA and I had lived in Southern CA and my surgery date was set and I was looking forward to it. This time they would do my boobs and my vaginoplasty all in the same operation. My future husband changed his mind and dumped me right when I was in the middle of things. I had to cancel my surgery because he was supposed to help me pay for it. Now a third chance at SRS will never happen.
But I now do have my own hormone induced breasts that I developed naturally. The last bras I bought are a 38C.
I have a doctor that knows I’m a transwoman. I have a beautician that knows the type of woman I am and she does my hair, nails and some waxing for me. I wake up every morning and take off my baby doll nightie and get ready for my day as a woman. After I shower I put on my bra and panty and do my makeup and hair. I get dressed as woman everyday and for all day. I love from now on to live fully and totally as a woman, I love being a wife, and a housewife at that. I am a happy housewife. I am told that I do look much like Kathy Griffin.
I am now 33 and my supportive wife helps me change nearly 5 out of 7 days. I hope someday to spend my days and nights as the woman i love with the woman i love. Congratulations on retirement and freedom.
I’m 48 years young and started my transition 3 years ago. I have never been happier with myself. I knew I was transgender since I was young. When I grew up you didn’t talk about people like me and how we were different. 4 children’s and several years later I love the real me and no one can ever change that. Be brave and courageous. Be you no matter who you are.
Hi, I’m Caroline. I’ve experienced myself being a transgender woman from early childhood. The feeling grew more intense at puberty. Being introverted with an overlay of shyness, I learned to deny/suppress so much. Over the decades I slowly acquired the confidence to express my feminine person more and more. Then retirement gave me so much more freedom. Now at age 78 I often think of transitioning, and wonder if it’s too late. Other life situation inhibit that decision, mainly being married to a wonderful woman; we love each other deeply and care about each other. But, she has health needs she couldn’t handle without me; she doesn’t want to feel she is married to a woman, but she understands my being TG and gives me time to express it (I have a little apartment, my home away from home) where I can go to be the woman I feel I am. I’m on estrogen therapy and she knows and accepts that. And so we compromise–she gets to have me as a husband but I get to be Caroline 2 or 3 days a week, when I can live like a woman and be accepted as a woman. We don’t know who will die first, but we have talked about it. If she goes first, we have agreed that, if I then decide to transition, that is OK with her. Chances are I would then live as a woman, whether I’m 80 or older. My parents lived to their late 80s; if I manage to live a little longer due to medical advances that will be icing on the cake of life. I would physically transition (i.e. the operation) even in my late 80s, but only if my health permitted it.
Sounds like your wife and yourself have a lot of love. Good luck and prayers to you both.
I asked my therapist, at one point, this very question on age. I am 63, and spent my life earning a living as a truck driver. When I realized how strong my desire to become a woman was, it was at a point in life where that transition would have disrupted home, extended family, and financial security, so I made a consicious decision to subvert Stephanie for the remainder of my working years. I did the less obvious things, of course, the shaving, the underdressing, the stolen moments at home when I could “let it rip”. I am blessed, because my wife was not one of those who would have been disrupted; she had known from before our marriage. But I live in the same small town my father and grandfather lived in, and the “family name” and all that that entails, had to be at the forefront of my decision making process.
I started the hormones about 7 months ago. I live in the same small town, with the same concerns about family I’ve always had. But I am now retired, and need not worry so much about the financial aspects of appearing more fem. I can throw on a big sweatshirt if I need to deal with lifelong aquaintances, or I can display when I go 15 miles to do the marketing. Strangely, my new boobs (which are still growing, I hope!) have neither schocked nor intrigued me. They feel wonderful, but at the same time, feel as if they have always been part of me! I have determined not to have bottom surgery; God blessed me with easily tucked and hidden man parts for tight jean displays.
So… like everything… you’re never too old to start, but you wish you had started sooner. For we women, unfortunately, age steals our attractiveness quickly, and unfairly adds it to the men many of us seek. I, for one, would love to have had cleavage before I had “turkey neck”!
Back to my first therapist, who was trans, and had an older significant other. “Never” she said. “My partner is 75, and started at 70.” On to my electrologist, who said ” 40 percent of my clients are trans and they are your age or older.” (I was 57 at the time)
I think the need just becomes overwhelming, before we act on it, and as Angelique pointed out, that is a shame. But it is reality.
Hi, I totally agre age doesn’t count. I am allmost 42 right now and never made any seriouse decision yet, to express my feminine nature fully. This is because IF I decide to turn into a woman I will have to say goodbye to the one I am right now forever. For one hand I would love to be a real woman and never felt like a typical man. I don’t identify myself with my biologic gender surely. Even my body’s proportions are more feminine by nature (e.g. I have curved hips and girly waist). I wear bras and lingerinne, like to paint my nails… For other hand I somehow feel strange to be a “fake” woman. I have very well developed sense of beauty and know that turning myseflf into a woman would rather make me some kind of monster, than a really beautiful woman. Plus I can’t imagine I would date man instead of woman … I am lucky because women like me very much and… I wouldn’t want to loose it!
So I feel I am somewhere in the middle of nowhere…
PS. The avatar is real me enhanced in PS.
You are a dream
It is hard for me to answer the simple question of when I started transitioning since in fact I started decades before I admitted that I did. It is perhaps even harder for me to access the pain I felt and still feel of being in a male body though I still hate to admit it. I hate to admit it as I do not understand my so feelings about it. Since I have started HRT for transsexual women in 2016 I have become a nicer person and the hatred of my body which is not exactly hatred has lessened. I say this as I am proud of my athletic prowess yet ashamed of myself at the same time. I do not say that age is just a number: it is not, however, a given age means something different for every individual. It is unfortunate that in our society one does not celebrate health from a medical standpoint but instead views someone according to the presence or absence of some disease! Anyway, I look forward to reaching out to happiness before I pass on and although I am already 69yrs. I must still have a long life ahead of me. I sincerely hope that in the not-too-far-off future the essential understanding of transsexualism increases as I feel it is still sorely lacking in our time despite of the increased trans awareness!