Have you ever felt like it might be too late to begin crossdressing or embark on your male to female transition?
If so, I’m here to tell you that it’s never too late to pursue your feminine dreams!
Regardless of your age or circumstances, there’s no better time than NOW to fully embrace your inner woman.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 7 reasons why it’s not too late for your MTF transformation or transition. Let’s get started!
1. There Are More Positive Transgender Role Models Than Ever Before
In today’s world, there are more positive trans role models than ever before.
From Janet Mock, transgender author and advocate, to Danica Roem, the first transgender woman to win a state seat, now is the perfect time join these role models in raising awareness.
2. With Age Comes Wisdom and Experience
While we might all wish to be forever young, age brings with it valuable wisdom and experience.
Your male to female journey can benefit greatly from the insights and knowledge that come with time.
3. 50 is the New 30 and 70 is the New 50
Despite our youth-obsessed society, there are many fabulous female icons in their 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, and beyond who prove that age is only a number.
Candis Cayne, Alexandra Billings, Tracey Norman, and many other trans celebrities prove that beauty and femininity have no expiration date.
4. You Care Less About What Others Think
As you grow older, you tend to care less about other people’s opinions. And that is a beautiful thing!
Spending less time worrying about what people think of you can definitely enhance your MTF journey.
5. These Pioneers Prove it’s Never Too Late to Reinvent Yourself
Countless late bloomers have achieved remarkable success by starting over later in life. Here are examples of transgender women who reinvented themselves after age 50:
- Rachel Levine, who serves as the 17th Assistant Secretary for Health for the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, began her transition when she was 54.
- Jennifer Pritzker, notable for being the first transgender billionaire, came out as transgender at age 63.
- Caitlyn Jenner, American media personality and former Olympic gold medal-winning athlete, came out as transgender at the age of 65.
6. It’s Better to Dare Than Have Regrets
When you reflect on your life one day, would you rather look back on a life that was lived to the fullest, even if it ruffled a few feathers, or be filled with regrets?
The choice to embrace your true self is yours to make TODAY.
7. There are More Resources Than Ever Before
Today, there is a wealth of resources available, including transgender and crossdressing support groups, websites, books, and specialized products and procedures.
These resources can go a long way in supporting your feminine transformation or transition.
In conclusion
I hope this post has convinced you that it’s never too late for your MTF transformation or transition. Now is the perfect time to pursue your feminine dreams, whatever they may be.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic, so please share your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi, Lucille.
You’re so kind. You’re truly inspirational. Great words. I’m convinced that now is the perfect time to pursue my feminine dreams. I’ve already taken my first steps in this direction. I’ll follow my heart.
Thanks for your support.
Gioly
I celebrated New Years Eve & New Years Day Dressed as a woman! What an exhilarating time. I am 68 years young and my New Years Resolution is to be more of a woman every day. Life is too short to delay it any longer. I wish I had the courage to years ago! Happy NEW Year everyone!!
You go girl, follow your dreams ❤️
You are soooo right, I will start hormones in 2018 at the age of 58 and have never been so happy and loved my self so much. I love the transgender individuals in politics and I also have an amazing support team. It is never to late to be your true self.
And let’s not forget the tremendous help Caitlin Jenner gave us by coming out so publicly. She really softened a lot of people who had negative feelings towards us. Please, do not snub her because she’s a Republican. I am 63 and have worked hard for 40 years for my transgendered friends, and I too, am a Republican. When any of us reject our transgendered leaders because they are not democrats, we are making a big mistake.
Debbie, I/we do not reject the republican leaders, They reject us as a group by their actions, comments & legislation. I can not accept any leader that has complete disdain for our community & most R leaders do this openly & harshly, hence an increase in the violence & harsh speech. When their attitude becomes more accepting, mine will too.
very well spoken Debbie
I wish that was true but due to looks,health and finances my only way is online and fantasy
Never too late.
I finished my college degree at age 50. It was such fun talking with the young kids and not having the “spawn or die” mentality working. And the younger kids are even less concerned about what clothes I wore than I was.
I agree that I no longer give a rat’s elbow what someone thinks about my style, as long as they are not rude or threatening to me.
I wish I was a female most of the time, but doesn’t know where to start
If your employer offers an employee assistance program (EAP) that’s usually a free service you can take advantage of. Call the number and tell them you need to speak with a therapist. You don’t really need to tell them why. You can also take to your doctor. I’d look for one that is trans friendly/knowledgeable in your network and see if they are accepting new patients. Or just try the one you have. They can help you get into the right place.
Local LGBTQ centers may be able to assist and Planned Parenthood is another resource. Google is also your friend. 🙂
Hi Lucille honey goodness girlfriend I’m not sure what to do in order to gain a little more breast development I’m not sure I’m even a Bcup I just bought a black 38Bcup bra I don’t really fill it out large breasts don’t run in my family but I had hoped to be at least a Bcup lol or maybe a Ccup like my late wife I’m considering trying more fenugreek as it’s about all I can afford and that’s pushing it on my income I’m trying to lose weight again which helps me appear better endowed lol I am losing weight I’m just still rather stocky built up on top broad shoulders at times I feel like a crossdressed ape not as hairy thank goodness lol I do have some padded bras which help of course I do feel better than I did replacing my red panties so I have matching bra and panties again nothing fancy for this poor girl for now my projects are at a full stop except for playing guitar electric that is I did get a whopping 2% increase in my benefits wow where will I spend it all Wal-Mart of course lol anyway I Love You Lucille goodness girlfriend my journey continues at a snail’s pace Love You and all my Sister Girlfriend’s here too Love MJ aka DragonLady
Hey Julie,
My name is Kellie, I wish I had it like you , I live in a small town that has nothing like the club you were apart of, I wish o was so lucky
Hi Kellie,
I do assume you were replying to me being it was right above my post?
Which club were you referring too? Did you mean the nightclub I worked at as a cocktail waitress? If so that was in the very liberal city of West Hollywood, CA. There are other transgendered clubs around the Los Angeles area. One that I used to go to often as a customer and woman was the Queen Mary that was in ‘the valley’ (San Fernando Valley) and in Studio City but that is closed now. Yes, I was a ‘valley girl’ for awhile. The club I worked at was a gay nightclub that was drag orientated. It was great getting ready for work as a woman fixing my makeup and doing my hair and going on the floor carrying my cocktail tray. I lived full time as a woman then and wanted to be a woman. I did get approved for SRS and had my surgery dates arranged but had to halt it because of a few different reasons. I do wish that I would have went through with it.
Hang in there, girlfriend! xoxo Julie
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Hi Julie! Some of the happiest nights if my life happened at the Queen Mary! My first kitten heeled steps were taken there, hanging out with a tough but darling Chas and getting confidence from the Countessa beforehand. I would love to chat with you about your experiences back then, if at all possible. Thx, Kayla
Hi Lucille,
I do not respond to all of your blogs but do to ones that are of a particular interest to me. The 7 reasons for transitioning are all good.
First I want to give a little of my history and how I became feminine.
In my personal life I have actually been transitioning just about all my life since I was a child of 6. My parents divorced when I was 6 and I lived with my mom who worked day shift as a card dealer in a Reno casino. Mom would drop me off at my babysitter’s house 5 days a week while she went to work. The babysitter’s name was Ruby and had a daughter that was just a bit older than me but she was a tomboy and not the feminine little daughter my babysitter desired. The daughter’s name was Allison but wanted to be called Al and her I would play house in her playhouse but I had to be the woman, mom and wife while ‘Al’ was the husband, father and man. She had a boyish haircut, wore blue jeans, T-shirt and sneakers, and was the type that would rather be out catching frogs or chasing grasshoppers
Al had dolls that we used for our kids and she also had some of her mom’s old clothes and makeup in the playhouse. Things had to be the daughter’s way or no way at all. I wanted to be accepted and have someone to play with so I submitted to her way. I dressed in some of the old clothes that were way too big for me and Al and I tried to put makeup on me but I wound up looking more like a clown. There was a day that that Ruby came out to the playhouse and caught us with me dressed in the clothes and with the makeup on my face. She kind of laughed and I felt humiliated but the next day when mom dropped me off Ruby had a talk with me and told me it was alright. She then talked me into being a girl when I was there and this became a daily thing. This continued during 6 and 7 and until mom and I moved. I was sworn to secrecy and mom never knew of the activities at Ruby’s house, I was back to being a boy when mom came to pick me up. It just felt so right being a girl!
Mom and I moved into a house with 2 other women that she worked with that each had a teenage daughter. This was between the ages of 8 to 12. The reason for the move was cuz there was always someone around to watch me. I never got to be a girl during that time but I did get a learning experience and watched how the females did things including applying their makeup. I was the only male in a house full of females and wanted to be one of them just so I would fit in. I guess I was a product of environment.
At the age of 12 mom bought a small 2 bedroom house for us because at that age she felt that I was old enough and mature enough to take care of myself while she was at work. This was when my urges and desires got the best of me and I started prowling through mom’s closet and drawers. I found a shoe box with some of her spare makeup. Mom and I were about the same size at that time and her clothes fit me just fine, including her shoes. I wore her panties and bras that I dug out of the laundry hamper and also was wearing dresses, garter belts and hose, and used her makeup. I started spending many days as a girl at home while mom was at work.
I got to the point to where I was neglecting sports, which I was a good athlete playing football and baseball on my high school teams. When on the football field I would look over at the sidelines and see the cheerleaders jumping and bouncing around in their outfits and I would get kind of a rush and wanted to be one of them. One day in the spring after baseball practice I stopped to watch the girl’s tennis team. I saw them practicing wearing their short skirts and occasionally their pantied bottoms when they bent forward and the outline of a bra when under their T-shirt top. Most of them had a ponytail on the back of their head. I had this rush of desire to be one of them. Then there was the girl’s volleyball team. Their uniforms then were not as sexy and alluring as they are now cuz they just wore baggy gym shorts and T-shirts but still watching them made me want to be one of them. I noticed on some of them their breasts would bounce. I did get to be a good tennis player and was also one of the better volley players when playing with the boys. Many times I wanted to be dressed and made up as a girl until mom came home from work and have a talk with her, “Mom, I want to be a girl and would rather be your daughter instead of your son. We could have a happy life together living here as two females and a mother and daughter. You can teach me how to be a girl and take me shopping to buy me my own girl clothes.” I always chickened out before she got home and changed back to being a boy. This was in the early and mid 1960s.
When I was 18 I moved out on my own into an apartment, mainly so I could be a girl more often. I started building my own female wardrobe and cache of makeup. I first went out in public as a young woman at 18 and passed. That was a confidence builder for me. I had a job as a male but spent all my free time as a girl. This was in the late 1960s.
Since then I have lived off and on as a girl and woman all my life. Sometimes denying my feminine side to the point of being a very masculine macho male but my fem side would always take over and I would revert back to my stronger fem side. Talking to others like me it was very common for that to happen and many did the same as I did because they had guilt feelings about their fem side and would become overly masculine. Those were shorter periods of time for me, mostly though even when I had to work as a male I was a female on my own time. Except for work I would live as a woman and even sleep with my makeup on and in a baby doll nightie.
I did have some jobs as a woman. One being a cocktail waitress in a gay drag nightclub in West Hollywood and had to wear a skimpy uniform that would display my pantied bottom at the slightest bend at the waist or tilt of the hips, I would love to have been a playboy bunny! All of us ‘girls’ that worked there had to live as a woman full time. There were men that worked there; the bartenders, bouncers, male entertainers and managers but us girls were the cocktail waitresses and chorus girls were born male but lived as women. I wanted to be one of the showgirls and was next on the list but the owner was arrested on drug charges and the club closed. What was amazing was that all of us ‘girls’ that worked there looked like and passed as real women. The only genetic woman that worked there was a middle aged woman that was kind of like our matron and ran the dressing room and made sure we girls had what we needed. The showgirls and the cocktail waitresses shared the same dressing room, and it was said that being in that dressing while we were all getting ready for work was just like being in a room full of young women. A couple of times I got to go on stage in my cocktail uniform when one of the entertainers wasn’t able to perform and do lip sync and dance. I did a lip sync of “I Enjoy Being a Girl” from Rogers & Hammerstein’s “Flower Drum Song”.
I did have a couple of other jobs as a woman; one was as a secretary for a man that knew what I was.
I do not consider myself as gay or as a transwoman anymore although that would be what I am in the public eye and by society standards but I am so deep into womanhood that I consider myself a heterosexual woman!
The 7 reasons:
1: There are more positive transgender role models than ever before. Yes there are many more today that have celebrity status and also many more of us now, or seems to be anyway. One theory I have read is that estrogen is being injected into our daily lives more now. PVC pipe that many of us get our drinking water from, supposedly secrets estrogen into our water that we drink. Many of us eat a diet that raises our estrogen levels. I have read more than once that marijuana raises estrogen levels and can cause gynecomastia, breast development in young males.
There are many more places on the internet where transgendered, transsexuals and transwomen can be found and many of them appear very much as a cis woman. Also now with the changing times many more of us are coming out.
I came out to only a few but mainly I just started once again living as a woman.
2: With age comes wisdom and experience.
I can say that I have a full lifetime of experience. My first feminization was when I was a child of 6. Now I am in my mid 60s and much of that time span has been being a woman. I will not say just pretending to be a woman cuz I felt like I was actually a woman. My feminine traits such as; mannerisms, movements, gestures, talk (speech) and walk came fairly easily to me, I learned to walk in heels just as well as any woman.
3: 50 is the new 30 and 70 is the new 50.
As a man I would probably look closer to my real age but as a woman I have always looked at least 10 years younger. Makeup does wonders! I am in my mid 60s now but most folks think that I am in my 50s. I have learned many tricks to being a passable woman. My first time in public was when I was 18 and passed as a real and genetic young woman and have not had any problems passing as a cis woman in all those years. I like it when younger girls ask for advice or guidance. I am retired from working now and am a stay at home housewife.
4: You care less about what others think.
I did not really come out to many people but there are those now that do know I was born male. I just started living as a woman (again) after I retired and most that know I was born male are those that I met after I transitioned. People that my husband works with think I am a cis woman and he has introduced me to them as his wife. The ones that do know that I was born male are other women like me and our circle of friends. Ones that do think I am a cis woman, well that is all they need to know! My doctor and his staff also know what I am.
5: These pioneers prove it’s never too late to reinvent yourself.
I do admire the women that have reinvented themselves later in life. I personally have reinvented myself many times switching back and forth from female to male. There were times that I tried to deny myself of my feminine side. I went back to living full time as a woman again in my mid 60s and after I retired from working. I started setting up and arranging my life for the future as a woman years before retirement. I have 3 credit cards that I had under my male name. I had my female name added to those accounts years ago as a spouse. It was easy back then. Now I use them when I shop. My retirement accounts are sent to my bank (actually a credit union) in my male name but all my bills are paid online and I have changed my utilities to my female name using my checking account. The internet has made it easier to switch identities. My bank ATM card is still under my male name but I can use it as a woman and get up to $400 in cash daily from a machine. So other than bank info, I am a woman! I do not do anything maliciously but just what I need to do to be a woman.
6: It’s better to dare than have regrets.
We only have one life to live and that life can be shorter for some than others. Experience your life the way you desire and live it to the fullest! I was born male but have surrendered to my stronger feminine side. In my early 20s and early 1970s I read a book called “I Want What I want…That is to be a woman”. There was also a movie made about it but I never saw that. It was about a young English man that felt he was really a she. I like being referred to being a ‘she’ and a ‘her’. Maybe there is a reason that my feminine side was the stronger and being fem came easy!
7: There are more resources than ever before.
The internet is rich with resources for the transgendered; M to F and also F to M. Just look and you will find them. I wear clothes made only for a woman to wear now but there was a time that I bought special clothing that was female attire made for a male to wear to appear as a female. Now I only wear clothes made for a woman to wear. I found those sources on the internet. There are also counseling services available and places to learn to be a woman.
I attended a sissy academy back in the 1970s and that was before the internet and I had to find that info a different way, through underground sexually orientated newspaper type publications. I was already living a double life of working as a male but being a female on my own time and saw an ad for a sissy academy. I was part of a class of 16 ‘girls’ and some went to learn more and others were novice. I went to fine tune my skills of being a woman and the class was a month long. We had a graduation and were given a diploma saying we were a ‘woman’.
Oh Ms. Julie
Please be my fairy godmother, your an inspiration to all of us younger girls, I really appreciate your heartfelt story and if I could, I would create an amazing character based on you for my book.
If you have any further questions please email me at
rachelle.dufrans@gmail.com
Hi Julie Lisa thank you for being yourself I haven’t read your entire story yet and I will I’m not sure how much we have in common except for knowing we’re women I might be a little younger than you I appreciate every story here I have a ways to go before living my life as a woman on a full time basis I am working at it very slowly after losing my wife a second time only this time she passed away due to illness you’ll have to forgive my lack of punctuation and endless run on sentences at times I think my life might have been easier in some ways if I’d been attracted to the male form sexually why I’m not is a bit of a mystery but I’m glad to see others telling their stories I’ve certainly been attempting to tell mine in bits and pieces I’m such a mess very slowly moving forward with my life and journey Love MJ aka DragonLady
Hi Julie Lisa thank you for being understanding and the condolences for sure I’m so glad your enjoying your life as a woman full time being married to a man is perfect for you it seems I’m not quite ready to live as a woman full time yet I have passed quite a few times in the past as well as just being out as a male I’ve been mistaken for female so many times in the past as well as recently my late wife tried so hard to be understanding of my feelings it was so very saddening to lose her as I did it’s such a long story not to mention painful as far as your question of my sexuality I’m not attracted to men I’m not really curious about them either but that could change if I ever get on HRTs I do believe I’m transgender and my wife agreed but she didn’t push me in that direction she tried to assists me in being myself more much to the dismay of our son who had been taught by her brothers to hate me during our separation I’m moving forward very slowly towards living as a woman full time but I’m having difficulties with my Sister being my representative payee in charge of my disability benefits she pays my bills and buys my groceries with my money of course and after that I have nothing left for being myself it’s my fault somewhat as I purged after my wife’s passing getting upset feeling guilty and have almost all I had gathered to charity and now I’m struggling to rebuild a wardrobe on top of that my son pistol whipped me knocking out a few teeth which I’m trying to have patience in getting them fixed I feel awful about them but in time I’ll get it done I do cherish any communication with my girlfriends here I too wear clothes made for women as I can’t afford or shop anywhere but Wal-Mart here it is great that California is so much more accepting of our kind whatever we are human I think lol I’m not sure about why I’m not attracted to men perhaps due to my upbringing in a Christian household with all women who constantly degraded men and then moving to Oklahoma in my teens eventually meeting my future wife ex wife and 2nd wife it is messy lol I’m very grateful for your reply I don’t communicate with many of the girls here I think we talked once before but it’s been quite a while back you seem such a sweetheart I can only hope to be as sweet as you and girly too I’m working at it trying to lose weight I still have so much to learn I feel so manly in so many ways still my sister refuses to help me my late wife was too I’ll to help much I wish I could afford a finishing school to learn better to be a woman even though I’m still attracted to women and their clothes among other things lol I do appreciate you girlfriend for writing me I do hope to continue to communicate with you and others too anyway I Love You Julie honey Love MJ aka DragonLady lol
Hi MJ and thanks for the reply to my post girlfriend! Sorry to hear you losing your wife that is a very sad thing. You mentioned something about attraction to males, are you still thinking about that? For many years I have wanted to be a girl for males. I have had boyfriend/girlfriend relationships with men and I was the girlfriend in these relationships. A few times I have had shack ups (live in as man and woman) with men and of course I was the woman. Thanks to same sex marriage I am now legally married to a man but to us it’s not same sex and we consider it a marriage between a man and a woman and I’m the woman and wife. I consider and think of myself a woman and my husband also sees me as a woman and as his wife. I luv my life as it is now. Do you feel you can pass in public as a woman and if you can are you able to live full time as a lifestyle woman? If you can say yes to both then why not give it a try? You will not know if you desire the female, girlish and womanly lifestyle unless you try it. Be with a man when you feel comfortable about it.
Good luck and I hope to keep hearing from you.
Julie