Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I enjoy blending in with some accent – just enough to show I’m a cut above the rest. I do blend in while I’m out quite nicely and have had the door held open for me many times, among other little things guys do for us ladies, and even thanked the gentlemen that have done so. I’m still rather shy about being flamboyant or sticking out too much and don’t want to stick out like a sore thumb, but I do want to attract some attention in case a certain guy might be around who would find me attractive enough to ask out. I have come to learn that if you act your age, keep it real and just act normal people really don’t look at you that hard. Like the first time I was at a mall, I was fine until I went into a jewelry shop and the lady behind the counter asked if she could help me and I said no thank you and just kept shopping but was scared when she called her friend over and met and told her “That’s a guy” and I left immediately and realized it was my voice that was the issue. That was many years ago, but now, I don’t let it bother me. It’s important to me that I do pass as a woman as I have plans on going thru with SRS someday when I can afford it and keep my job.
curtsey
Dear Ms Sorella,
This sissy is scared to death to go out in public. The few times my late Wife/Mistress forced the issue, terror was the order of the day. No one seemed to notice, though, so all went well. Either people really did not notice or were too polite to make it an issue….
Lately, this sissy has been trying to summon the courage to once again
make a foray into the public glare, and then, make it a regular thing to do. No luck so far….
sigh!
Thank You, Ms Sorella for always providing provocative questions, and offering solutions to many of them.
This sissy is very much in Your debt.
Most sincerely,
Gratefully,
Your obedient,
Carol ‘sissyriki’ Jorgensen
curtsey
Two Comments, First, I am getting Older, and I Preferred to Stand Out, in a crowd when I was Younger. As in wearing Spandex and Bright Colors and the Highest Heels. I even got “Cat Calls” and ask if “I Wanted a Date” once. Really Boosted My Self Esteem. Now, I have ventured Out, a couple of times, dressed as, sort of a “Bag Lady”, because Nobody Sees that Kind of a Person. I use moderate Makeup, Artificial Nails, low heels and Nobody is the Wiser. Second, My Finger Nails are, especially My Thumbs are Wide, so “Lady Finger” nails Wont Fit, so I use Artificial Toe Nails. They work well.
As a post op trans woman it has always been my hope that i could just blend in and just be seen as a woman, being able to walk down the road and no-one flickers an eye lid. Being able to work and no one feels the need to pry in my personal life.. it would be a dream come true. I do feel that i can pass in public but it takes alot of time to get ready, just so i can blend in. But with that being said it still happens now and again..
So i guess what im saying is that. I will be happy just being seen as everyone else. Nothing more, nothing less..
Thank you for all your advice over the years Lucille. There has been things on your website that has helped me get to where i am today. So once again thanks
Lea xXx
Thanks, Lea – that means a lot to me. Big hug!
Lucille,
It is always my preference to blend in, rather than standout when I am fully dressed as a woman in public. The key is to remain calm and confidently go about you’re business, just as any woman might. As long as you act appropriately, move properly and remember to smile, you should do just fine. Leave the guessing about whether you are or aren’t to others.
And, I appreciate everything you provide Lucille, in all of you’re femme programs which are designed to help girls like me.
Thank You XXO, Melinda
Thanks Melinda, I feel blessed to be part of this amazing community!
I would love to blend in, and stand out when I so desired (< this I can do).
I must say that the only open hostility (in terms of rude comments) that I encounter when en femme comes from young (20s) men and women. A lot of them are basically homeless bums and tweakers that hang out around our downtown.
I try to blend in as a just another lady out there. For example today, I was wearing jean caprie’s with a top and shopped all day at Macy’s and other women’s shops. Not a problem. I love just being treated like any other woman on my shopping day out!
I just really enjoy all opportunities to express my fem side without regard to what or how others perceive me as.