Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I do enjoy the fun of standing out when I go out dressed as trans, although it probably helps I live in Brighton, that has one of the biggest LGBT communities in Europe, so there are a lot transgender friendly venues I can openly dress up in.
I love to shop for womens clothing online and in women’s department stores.I try on new clothing and accessories that make me feel like the woman I want to be.Most salespeople are happy to help me with anything I need It is so fantastic being a woman.Happy holidays to you and thanks for all of your support.
I try to blend. I went shopping for some new bras in a Super Center last week and the sales staff was very helpful and pleasant. When I was younger I wanted to be noticed and often went “over the top” with sometimes unhappy results. I now enjoy spending the day as “one of the girls”.
Vera Jane
I’ve not been out yet but the desire to be able to act normally and blend in in public is growing all the time. I’m 6’1 and 12st but weathered and long face. I’m just starting with trying make up to change my obvious male face as well as trying not to walk like a builder. Good fun trying at home and in the garden (if the neighbours are out).
Has anyone had the courage to go to a salon to ask a pro make-up artist. I’m not ashamed of admitting I cross dress (a few of my friends have actually asked questions rather than snub me when they found out – you know how the rumour mill works).
So I hope we can share experiences and suggestions in the future. Thanks.
They say that imitation is the finest form of flattery. When I go out dressed, if I blend in than I know that I have been successful in portraying my inner self.
I personally see standing out as a little bit of a give-away sign, like how some femme gay guys act way more feminine that every other woman I know. so I try to do it less, even though I like doing it; I usually just try and project my personality to stand out, but with my appearance; I try to just fade into the background; At least, even when going out to stand out; I take some principles from trying to blend in first so it looks more like I’m a Cis woman who decided to glam myself up rather than being born into the world in glam; because it makes people jealous anyway, and they’re probably bound to spread rumours to undermine you if they’re really defensive.
I’ve gone out walking and at first was very much “noticed”. After some “learning” not so much. 2 weeks ago I went out by myself for the first time. I went to an impersonater show and had a gentleman try very much to pick me up. It was very flattering as I have not started hormones or anything. After the show I went to a straight dance club and had the generic lady bartender hit oon me for 2 hours.
Needless to say WOW did I have fun that evening and am definitely ready for my next trip out.
I love to attract the attension of men when I go out so I allways dress sexy. It is really a thrill and I have had nothing but positive results. It gets easier once you learn that people will accept and even admire you. So just do it!!!