Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I used to obsess about passing. However, now that I’m getting out more, I think about it less. Paradoxically, now that I care less about passing, I think I’m passing better.
Hi, First I love your emails and website, great job! I only have been out 5 times, all when I was married, my wife and I went out as women and I think that helped me a lot. No one seemed to nitce or care, and I did always dress more modestly (think soccer Mom but a litte sexy lol)
Have not been out alone since divorce, but she urges me to all of the time and sooon, I shall!
Love to all
Tammi
To blend in is to be accepted as a woman.
To stand out is to be desired as a woman.
There are times when the latter (desired) is the objective, but the former (accepted) should always be satisfied for me.
I do both it depends on how I feel, the weather and the situation.
I am 59 but I still love wearing mini skirts and shorty shorts but not in the winter LOL. I “NEVER” go out with out wearing makeup and
always looking my best. I am a Woman (preop) but still a (single)Woman and that is how I live my life.
When I am feeling flirtatious, trying to catch the eye of man I dress accordingly when I’m not I usually dress in a nice top and jeans though I get hit on by men more when I dress in jeans and a nice top. As for shoes I never wear flats (gag.
Lexie
when i go out which is not often enough!!!!!!!!! lol i want to turn heads the thought of men and women checking me out as i pass by is a big turn on !!!!!!as long as i dont talk to anyone besides my fiance im fine i think i got the look,walk and mannneriisms down good. as well as makeup!
thank you
vanessa
Hi ladies. As I develop in becoming a woman I have never changed my view on how I look. At 55 and 6’2, I stand out just being tall. I dress according to my age group and have been told that I don’t need the alterations needed to pass as a woman. I love myself for who I am and who I will become. God is looking out for me and others admire me for my courage.. Cannot wait for that day to come to have my SRS.
Oh, this one is too hard to “vote” for…
I think I like to do a bit of both. Meaning…I want to dress and look appropriate for where I’m going to be. A killer pair of thigh-high’s and that hot mini-dress could be fun to wear to certain clubs, but would tend to get you noticed in the wrong way shopping at the mall. So in that way, I like to blend.
But having said that, I like to do my best to look *good* — so in that context, I generally do enjoy getting noticed. And if someone happens to “read” me, it doesn’t really bother me.
I am an old BBW and that is what I have accepted as who I am. I still want to stand out by wearing clothes that are appropriate, but usually just a little more dressy than current styles. I dress my age but always try to be as attractive as I possibly can be. This usually draws attention because I am usually a little better dressed than many around me. I cannot count the number of times I have been told by others how they like what I am wearing or have been asked where I bought what I was wearing so they could get something similar. Always taking the time and effort to dress and look the best you can in today’s society will draw appreciative attention.