Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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cuando era pequeñita tendria siete u ocho años, yo ya me habia puesto la ropa de mi mama desde dos o tres años atras,tenia cierta afinidad por lo que hacian las mujeres en mi casa ,eso les llamaba en algo su atension, cuando querien do ayudar a mi abuela en la cocina ella me dijo saquese de aqui julietita esto es solo para mujeres, y desde entonces adopte el nombre de julia que me encanto me gusto que se refirieran ami en esa forma aunque intento ser una especia de retroalimentacion negativa para que considerar hacer cosas de niño,
perdon me equivoque esto es para la seccion de donde adopte mi nombre disculpas
I would be happy to just wear a skirt in public. Unfortunately, nowadays this alone makes a woman stand out.
I just want to another woman bothing special. Took me time to get where I am today so my dress is comfortable and cute.
I have learned that not so flashy clothing does make me blend in better on morning walks etc. Also, appearing to be pregnant also helps remove peoples “doubts” of whether I’m female or not.. 🙂
I remember when I first started to dress up and go out in public I would wear the most extravagant dresses and heels. I would beat my face as if I was going to a wedding for party when in fact I was only going to the mall or grocery store. Although I enjoyed the attention but got tired of being asked where I was going for where I was coming from. That made me realize I was overdressed 4 the places that I was visiting. My overall goal was to blend in and be just another woman in the crowd. Even though I am 6-2. I love heels so when wearing them I just stand out that much more. Not because of my beauty butt because of my size. That I didn’t mind so much either because I accepted the fact that I was tall and that I would stand out in the crowd because of my height. But what I didn’t want is to stand out in the crowd for any other reasons. Once I learn to put on a pair of tennis shoes or slippers when I went to the grocery store, to the park, to the mall, or any other Common Place people didn’t notice me as much for my outfits and I didn’t stick out like a sore thumb. I know now how to over dress for the mall and grocery store in other places without looking like I was coming or going to the prom. Being comfortable is more the goal than me blending in with standing out and if I so happen to fall in either category so be it just as long as I’m comfortable
I tend to stand out, which is fine. I dress better than most of the cis around me and find that I get more smiles, compliments and men holding doors for me. I love wearing goth or steam punk fashions, bright colors and strange styles. During the summer I wear sheer tops, with a cami, slit skirts and knee high sandals. My nails are flashy and I keep my makeup subtle so it brings out my true self. I find that when I am smiling, the world smiles back!
I have never went in public because I don’t think I look femme enough. What do yall think.?
I am transgender (2.5 Years) and about to have planned re-assignment surgery. (4 weeks and can’t wait)
In the early days I was self conscious and thought everyone was staring at me. WRONG, that was my thought not other people. Be confident in yourself, get out of the house and be yourself. Do not worry about what other people may think. I went to work as female 18 months ago and I now have so many friends (Female) that are interested in my transition.
I am invited to parties and social occasions and they are disappointed if I cannot go.
The other point I would like to say is that I am happily married (40 Years) and I am now closer to my wife than I have ever been. I am 67 and believe that it is never too late.
Stand out don’t be part of the wallpaper and enjoy life