Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I like to stand out. Like Lucille says, What is the point of making all that effort if nobody notices. I get reconsidered as a male all the time. Do I care? No I don`t. I also get lots of positive comments. This is a picture of an outfit I wore out all day at a busy beach town on the Isle of Wight.
I prefer to blend in, I think it’s important but standing out sometimes has it’s place ie:going out, parties, or something like that but I don’t want to be seen as a drag queen (nothing against drag queens) it’s just not me
While not 100%“passable” just yet, I tend to dress a bit nicer than the average ciswoman. I always do my hair nicely. And I always wear makeup with a subtle natural look. I’m very slender, but also 6’1”. I think that combination is what garners any extra attention I might receive. Most people will meet a smile with a smile. I don’t care if I’m “clocked.” If someone can see that I’m trans, that’s fine in my book. I think I look hot no matter what.
I always try to blend in—although sometimes you want to stand out! Been a full time girl since ’14, and have been getting more casual with the time. Besides being way more comfy, you are just another girl in the crowd. You can be VERY stylish, and sexy with jeans/shorts, and a cute top—and flats or sandals. Observe how the girls in your area are dressing, and take your clues from them!
I stand out whether I like it or not but I try to blend in with the way I dress and I have help for this. Am I passable? I think so and lately get to be referred to as a lady which I prefer by far to ma’am! I must look like a very muscular woman but this is fine with me. One of the first things which one may notice about me is my mass of curly-kinky dark hair which is almost like black hair over a tanned body. I have been called Italian which I like as I am an Italianista which however, my “connazionali” or fellow Californians seem to choke on the word. Womanhood definitely is for me although I do not entirely understand why but as an athlete I like to use my muscles a lot. Few ever get to know me because of my European personality but for those who click with me we get along well!
I had a revelation recently. I regularly go to a lady who runs a dressing service. I always take loads of dresses and skirts etc to try on. She said, ‘Why don’t you just wear your Doc martin boots, a pair of skinny black jeans (I wear padded knickers), a black vest top and a girls leather biker jacket. She tied my (Wig) hair up and lent me a messenger hand bag and said just go out like that! I actually really looked (probably not under close scrutiny) like a casually dressed woman. I was floored but very happy!
Nic look …
Trying with a smaller image. I usually end up standing out even though I try to blend in.
Wow!
Hey, thanks a lot. I was about to go out to a club that night. I know that jeans and a simple top would be much better for passing but usually my skirts and dresses seem to whisper “choose me! I’m that much sexier …”
Hi, I always want to go out in dresses and unfortunately most women wear tights or leggings these days, so I would stand out, however I like to look pretty and have guys stare at me but I always think women see through me so they make me uncomfortable.