Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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My goal is blend in, but for now I don’t care sometimes coming out even without the make up once I feel good in myself. My city is very liberal so most people just don’t care who are you and is more about how I feel. Now I am legally changed my name is much easier to socialise even I still don’t pass.
Blending in is the goal. At 5’11”, standing out is easy.
At the age of 70, makeup is a bit more challenging. I do try to blend in on a daily basis when out shopping at the grocery store, for clothes or cosmetics at Sephora. I have no problem putting on a dress and heels for special events like banquets or fundraisers.
I tend to blend in wearing nice and tasteful dresses. I am quiet and shy so it matches my personality. Especially in public privately is a differant story
My goal is always to blend in. I love to be accepted by females (and I have total support from the females in my family, especially).
Although I downplay my femininity at work, I am certain that my female co-workers have the measure of me. They have asked me what would have been my choice of a woman’s name, if I had been born a woman.
most of the time blending in is better for this trans. but once in a while when socializing with other trans and admirers standing out is to be desired. we can get a bit competitive with our girly friends sometimes.
I went out last night for the Pride after party and I think I rocked it, but I was kind of upset no one noticed the Prada’s on my feet (not even my fellow ‘gurl’s). Sure it was dark and what not but my clothes are like extensions of myself. So is my fashion. I know not all girls are into showing off and such. I met a nice cis girl and she was super drab, almost like she was hiding but she was happy as a pea in the pod. Her friend on the other hand was so alt it hurt my mind (in a good way) to be chatting to her.
I think it depends on your ‘girl’ personality type if you like to be noticed or not. A shame is if you like to be noticed but hide because you have a hang up about who you are.
I am a girly girl and couldn’t be more happy about it. I was an emo girl once upon a time and hiding in a corner would be cool, as long as I wept and laughed over poetry and ‘stuff’ (you know what I mean).
Any way, So what type of girl are you? Here is the fun part, we get to experiment with everything till we are happy and then some. And it takes time oh believe me, I was a goth, nerd, emo, jock, gaming geek, alternative, dom, soccer mom, bosses wife, etc. I personally thinking I am going to try cougar next. But wait I still can be and am all those things. Guess being a woman in this world is complicated. I would just be a simple guy but what is the fun in that… Wait am I still on topic? Yes, I like to get noticed, most of the time. 🙂
I just love to blend in.I love being en femme and being feminized .To be this way and to be excepted by Females and everyone around me is darling! Thank you very much for everything Ms.Lucille.Femforever.