Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I am very pleased when I manage to “blend in” as once did the mistake of wearing a nice skirt and blouse while all other females in the motorway restaurant were wearing jeans – got a few lifted eyebrows so now look what others are wearing (apart from very tight sports trousers); personally love pencil skirts with either blouses or T-shirts.
My biggest compliment was once I had booked a hotel room for 2 (as bigger room) and the reseptionist asked when my husband would come!!
Since I am out and about I dress age appropriate while trying to follow trends. I want people to accept me as a woman. Of course like most of us compliments are always welcome and I accept them graciously. In social situations I try to standout among the women present. I am a happy girl who thoroughly enjoys my lifestyle.
Well, I want to blend in, but at the same time, stand out, if that’s possible. I would love for others to come to me and tell me how attractive, pretty looking, etc., I am. I don’t want to stand out in such a way that people would be staring, and asking the question, who did her make-up, where did she get that suit, etc. I want to dress and look like (with regards to make up, etc.) all the other women that I am around on a daily basis!
I too LOVE to be noticed, but only as a well put-together woman. I am blessed with fabulous legs and get many compliments when I do go out in a short dress and high heels.
This is a question I was just talking about with a TG friend, so forgive the weird rant/pep-talk combo:
I do enjoy and respect the comfort and safety of “passing”, but I also think it’s good to be visible in a positive way.
My first rule is “Elegant but edgy,” and the second is “Better striking than beautiful.” Be whatever makes you feel safe in the moment – but do it deliberately and confidently.
Stereotypes are strongest when they are not challenged, so simply showing up as a confident and compassionate womxn makes you an agent of change.
Visibility IS advocacy. Stand out, be seen, and be heard when you can. Don’t when you can’t. You’re still all kinds of awesome either way. >:^)
I prefer to blend in since I was born male. The only time I kind of am willing to stand out as a girl is on Halloween when everyone is dressing up as someone else!
I do not believe one can change their gender!!! There are only two genders! Male & Female, there is nothing we can do to change scientific facts no matter how we all feel!!!
kevin aka (Kendra)
I always thought I would prefer to just blend in. I spent 35 years hiding from my true self and trying to be the person everyone else expected me to be. I now know who I am and I dont mind standing out in a crowd. I go out every day dressing how I want and I have never been happier. We are all unique and beautiful in our own ways. Ladies your happines matters so dont be afraid to stand out life is short. Be yourself and be proud of you are.
Kisses,
Victoria
At this point I am at 190lbs I am still losing weight and going though remove body hair treatments before I can go on to the next step love honey xoxo hugs and kisses