Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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As always Lucille darling, you help all us girls become more confident in our presentation. I personally have several ‘personas’ depending on mood. I have three different color wigs, so I can wear almost anything. We older girls just ‘wanna have fun’ too. One of my favorite activities is going dressed to garage/yard sales. It forces me to practice feminine speech and demeanor in meeting many different people. I have never been ‘read’ or confronted yet, knock on wood.
Hey lady, just wanted to let you know, from one old Gurl to the next, you look fabulous.
At 73 in October, it’s not as easy as it once was, to look good. STILL trying our best though.
Pics for your evaluation…T.J.
hi Lucille, thanks for continuing this series, i’m finding it very helpful. i specially liked the suggestions about hand movements You made. it isn’t something that i have thought a lot about in the past, but i will now. the “slow movements with elbows in” is easy to remember and its clear it will help me appear more feminine. and You are so right that a bit of a smile helps everything. i won’t forget! thanks again.
ps – Your photos look great! You are so pretty…
jamie
I think also that a lot to do, for me at least, how I feel about myself. When I just let go and think of nothing but but working outside or walking or shopping then I just become the image of what I am. I walk with a confidence of who and what I am. If you acknowledge me then I return it with a smile and go on with out a thought. I love little babies and may be the first to stop and admire one before moving on. True I have my flaws but ignore them as do most as they are too caught up in their own thing.
I do find that to do a lot of these hand or body movements a little difficault to do as I am dissabled with arthritis and so times need the use of a wheel chair. But I can make use of my eyes and facial movements, it all as a different meaning or making the best use of what I have.
Yours Amber xx
Ps I would like to ask you a question if you do not mind,, I have been Reading about some of the herbs that could be helpfull with breast development and one that stands out was PUERARIA MIRIFICA. I would like to hear your thoughts on this.
Amber x
As for Puraria Mirifica I use this cream one year and together with drinking boiling hops I could enlarge my breast during one year from 83 cm to 89 cm,this cream is also very good anticancer meaning. For the best results use the technics of Chi Massage wich describe in Lucille’s book “From Flat 2 Fem Breast Enlargement Programme”.
Hi Lucille and Girls, I thought i write i my 1st post on here as i would like to thanks you for all your help and advice which ive gain from reading this forum, any feedback on my photo would be appreciated.
Hi,Lucille.
Thanks for all your help. & its worth the time for msny who do have lack of confidence in them selfs .
I know for many its quite a task to be mixing with others .
As a thought .
I have many friends who i know very well. so when they comment on some one its a help ,in this case.
While i was talking to others who i know & most saturdays at our market i do see & talk with many people , While i was 4 weeks ago . my friend said to me while i was talking with different friends she was watching how i interacted with people . my mannerism’s,
just the all of it if you like being a woman, & as i was leaveing i said hi to her & she told me .
I only see a woman , meaning its not my look its my whole being of who i am ,
My advantage is im intersexed, yet dont have that female / woman look about me concerning my facial detail. for me its not about how i look or dont .
Im allmost 64 , 11 aug. yet , i am a woman / female .
So in many ways i,v never had any problems with my self as a person .
Many of women, dressers, trans ,if not most would look far better than i will or could , yet, my saving grace is im a woman in my own right, & accepted as one.
…noeleena…
Hi, Lucille
Who we are without your charming tips and tricks! In this photo session in lady peasant dress I’m practicing 2 elements of your advices – a smile and S-curve, showing the winning places of my body: long arms and fingers and ideal proportion with hips and waist- 1.33. As for breasts A-cup suits me. My smile is adressed to genetic women. I’m interested in men only when we are playing soccer or cards. We live together with my genetic girlfriend as 2 girls in our Femland. We invented the new game. It calls dressball. Every new dress it’s a goal. To this moment I’m winning 32-27, but today I will receive from Germany the new amazing dress of Gothic Queen in dark purple tones with parallel laces lines and the score will be 33-27!
The tips and advice from Lucille and others here has helped me quite a bit. I am noticing,(others noticing as well) that I am getting alot better presenting myself as a woman when I go out. Ever since I had a friend turn me to this site, I have got more tips and tricks to being more femminine. I always welcome Lucille’s tips fpr us all, and they do work!! My pic here isnt that great(a friend caught me off guard as I was getting ready to go out) lol!