Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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It is amazing that when you come to the conclusion, that you own the dress the heels and makeup and have that inner confidence and assertiveness, you become the woman. Thank you these are all great things to remember in our subconsciousness that naturally end up coming out In our Feminine complexion. Looking forward, to all of the things coming up to help in this journey.
Thank you, sincerely, Rickie Lake
All of your posture tips come naturally to me, except keeping my elbows in. They seem to have a mind of their own, it takes a lot of focus to remember to keep them in.
here’s a tip: it u r going to be in the house for day, stick on some really long fake nails. You will be force to use your hands in a very femme way to work around them. Get used to the feeling of the movements and encourage your muscle memories of them. Feel how the hand movements transfer all the way up your arms.
Lucille,
I have been crossdressing a long time, but mostly underneath male clothes. In recent years I have started buying female tops, pants, socks, shoes, wigs.
Getting more into it the past 6 months, going to the store in female clothes. Just began your flat to fem program a week ago, so hope to see some results in a few weeks.
Jim/Kim
This good advise i can use and one day i will be able to be a woman and act and walk and talk like a woman and same day evolve in to a woman and not a man in a dress
P.s If i did not thank you for your help in be a Woman Lucille than thank you
Very helpful article Lucille, but I find it a little difficult to remember evrything when I’m out and about shopping etc. I guess I’ll have to try harder.
Many thanks.
Sandra
A long time ago a very beatiful girl that I was dating said I want to dress you as a girl . I said OK! Cause I loved her & thought it would be fun! Well it went on for about 8 years . She taught me how to walk , talk & act like a girl. That’s how I became Doris.She used to take me with her & her friends for a girls nite out! All the girls said Doris was just one of the girls!I REALLY got into it We’re not toghter any more , which is sad, but I still like to dress up every once and and a while.When I put on a dress , make-up & heels I still feel so girly ! Well tha’s my story! Lov HUGS Doris
Thanx alot Lucille,i try these tips,