Your mannerisms and body language are a big part of your female image. In fact, they count for over 50% of the impression you make on people!
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman, you might be looking for ways to improve your MTF feminine mannerisms.
The good news is that improving your body language and mannerisms can be achieved by mastering a few simple dos and don’ts.
In this blog post, I share 5 dos and don’ts for developing attractive, feminine mannerisms and body language. Read on to learn more!
1. DO Work The S-curve
Curves are a classic feminine feature. Beyond a bubbly booty and ample bosom, you can use your posture to enhance the curves of your body. Create an S-curve by putting your weight on one leg and pushing your hip out.
Contrast this to a more masculine posture where the weight is evenly distributed between both legs. This creates a more square and angular silhouette.
Here are some tips for working the S-curve:
- DO keep your weight on one side of your body instead of centered.
- DON’T exaggerate this posture. It should look natural.
- DO work the s-curve when you’re seated by crossing your legs or sitting with your weight on one hip.
2. DON’T Take Up Too Much Space
A wide, open body position is considered a “power pose.” That’s why you often see men spread their legs and lean forward at the shoulders. They’re essentially puffing themselves up to look larger than they are.
On the other hand, a more closed position will make you look more feminine and elegant. It also makes you appear physically smaller.
You already know that a lady keeps her knees together. But beyond that, you should keep your elbows in and avoid taking up too much space with your limbs. (By keeping your feet tucked close to your chair, for example.)
Here are some additional tips:
- DON’T slouch in an attempt to appear shorter or smaller.
- DO stand and sit with lifted posture. Think “tall” instead of “wide” with your body posture.
3. DO Mind Your Gestures
Gestures are an important part of body language. Women tend to be more expressive with their gestures than men. Next time you’re out, notice the way women use their hands and bodies to express ideas when they talk.
To master fluid, feminine gestures:
- DON’T make jerky or clumsy movements. Keep your elbows tucked in and don’t move too quickly. Practice making slow, smooth movements in front of a mirror.
- DON’T overdo your gestures. Observe women to get an idea of the correct balance.
- DON’T fidget. Avoid nervous movements like twirling your hair, shaking your leg, or tapping your fingers.
4. DON’T Forget Your Facial Expressions
The expressions you make say as much as the words that come out of your mouth. If you’re feeling nervous, it’s easy for this to be reflected on your face. On the other hand, a pleasant facial expression puts people at ease and helps you get the respect and acceptance you deserve.
Tips to keep in mind:
- DON’T wear a stoic expression. What feels “neutral” to you may come across as grumpy to others. (AKA “resting bitch face.”)
- DO put on a pleasant face. Keep the corners of your mouth turned up slightly. This also serves as a natural facelift!
5. DO Make Alluring Eye Contact
Eye contact is a major way to gauge a person’s personality. People who don’t make eye contact appear insecure or as if they’re hiding something. People who look you in the eye appear confident and sincere.
Here’s how to use eye contact to make a feminine impression:
- DON’T avoid people’s eyes. Be proud of who you are and look people in the eye.
- DO make eye contact and hold it for a second or two. (But not too long unless you want people to think you are trying to seduce or intimidate them!)
In conclusion
MTF feminine mannerisms are a fascinating topic and these dos and don’ts are only the tip of the iceberg. To go even deeper, be sure to check out my list of 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image.
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts…
What other differences in mannerisms and body language have you noticed between men and women? Do you have any other tips to pass along?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Great ideas indeed Lucille especially for us tall girls. I noticed that tall girls are always closely observed, for one, because their height brings attention to them. I watched a girl the other day, who said she was 6’5″ tall and her shoulders were on the broad side for a woman. Every eye was on her and I’m sure they saw what I saw a woman who dressed to accentuate her height in the best way, the gracefulness of her walk, a dancers stride and the elegance, that to me only a tall girl can portray, just standing there.
She taught me to act as if there are no other eyes upon you but move with a feminine confidence that says I know who I am and nothing else matters.
I admit it is not an easy task for me to take on but something to strive for.
It is difficault at times to think of everything, I put it alike when one learns to drive but the more you do the easyer it becomes. I like to practice climbing the stairs and using the hips from left to right gives you that wriggle! I once read that in order to get the walk correct you will need to just brush the sides of yours knees together as you walk to help with the hip movement. As I belive that women are knock kneed? But it is what it’s all about I love it been as female as possible.
Thank You Lucile, Tell me more I have enjoyed your sites for years. I do practice and use much of your advice. It is certainly well appreciated.Love Bobbie-Jo Thank You
Good afternon Miss Lucille;
The trick,or should I say,is to practice,practice,best place is at the Mall’s.Strut up and down in front of Men,have one of your Best Girl frenids sit with people and ask them,is that girl hot,or what struting around.Wear high heels,show a little leg,and try to act coy.DO NOT wear things that make you look cheap!!!! Wear as little make-up as possible,Flirt,Flrit,Flrit,but not too much.Don’t be afraid.I have got more comments from men that have no idea that I am a male,changed into a “GIRL”
I Luv it,I will never,ever go back to being a male pig that I used to be!!!!!!!!
Luv
Miss Pete………
Hi Lucille,
I slightly disagree with you Lucille as I actually think that feminine body language accounts for about 70-80% of the overall look and is possibly THE most important thing to add to your feminine repertoire.
Thanks for the update as this is my obsession and it is so hard to find good information on this subject and also to unlock the mystery that is moving and walking and acting like a woman.
Claire xx
So lovely to hear from you, Claire! Thanks for highlighting the importance of feminine body language. There are conflicting reports about how much body language accounts for (I’ve read some reports that say it’s as high as 90% of communication) – but whatever the exact percentage is, it’s a LOT! I’ll definitely be talking more about this on the blog.
Hugs,
Lucille
I find that maintaining awareness of my surroundings and smiling (not grinning)a lot helps me stay ‘en femme’ most of the time. I also try to make small, fluid movements. When still, I try to take up as little space as possible. I am confident in my presentation, which keeps me from very rarely being ‘caught’. I find that most people have enough concerns of their own and are really not looking at me.
You have helped me a lot Lucille. I’m a fat girl so crossing my legs is practically impossible so I cross my ankles and tuck them to one side or the other or if possible back under my chair.
My hardest thing to remember sitting, is not to lean back on the couch and put my arm across the top of it.
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