Did you know that your body language makes up more than half of the impression you make on others?
That’s a big part of your feminine image as a crossdresser or transgender woman!
Body language comes down to four key elements: your posture, gestures, eye contact, and facial expressions.
Unfortunately, it’s easy to develop bad body language habits that can undermine a poised and polished appearance.
In this blog post, I’ll share 27 MTF body language mistakes to avoid when presenting yourself as a woman.
27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image
- Slouching
- Constantly checking your phone (this is a biggie!)
- Biting your nails
- Rummaging through your purse
- Crossing your arms
- Fidgeting
- Shaking your leg or tapping your fingers
- Not smiling
- Scanning the room while speaking with somebody
- Talking too much with your hands
- Exaggerated nodding
- Examining your teeth or face in public
- Applying makeup in public (other than a quick swipe of lipstick)
- Resting your chin on your hands and elbows
- Sitting with your legs apart
- Clanging your silverware
- Avoiding eye contact
- Eye contact that is too intense
- A weak handshake
- Clenching your fists
- Standing too close to people
- Chewing loudly
- Talking while you eat
- Eating or drinking too fast
- Bending towards your food instead of bringing the food to your mouth
- Leaning forward too much
- Leaning back too much
Phew, that’s quite a list, isn’t it? Some of these might seem obvious, but let’s be real – we’ve all witnessed these behaviors in public!
Are you making any of these mistakes? If so, don’t feel bad. (I’ve had to work on some of these myself!) Instead, resolve to improve them.
For fun, do a “body language study” the next time you’re out in public. Notice the subtle actions that enhance or detract from people’s images.
Can you think of any other habits that should be added to this list?
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts! Please share in the comments below.
Love,
Lucille
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One I’ve noticed in quite a few transwomen is walking. There is no hip sway and consequently, they get clocked. Most cisgender women walk with their hips and most men walk with their shoulders. You can have FFS and breat and hip implants making you appear feminine but if you don’t swing those hips, you stand out like a sore thumb. I’ve been living full time for over two years and I seamlessly blend as a cis woman…as I should be.
Does that go for female maskers
Hi i have a couple of things to say about the talking with you r hands …. I am Italian and we do this with out even thinking about it. so how can we go around this and still be a woman?
i AGREE with every thing else you have said. except the talking with you r hands .
Another excellent article – for me, the only effective way of posture management I have found is female example and influence. Since my early days as Christine i have had 2 important, and lovely females, in my life and they have been such positive – if at times quite hard on me – influences on my positive feminine posture. Keep up the excellent work for women like me.
I had a good start. Before I came out officially as transgender, I was always accused of being ‘girly’, some people automatically assumed I was ‘gay’, even asking me! Though I’m not perfect either, I feel these mistakes are common in us. Did you ever wonder why cis-females often make similar gender mistakes? My own sister could write her (yellow) name in the snow!
Hello,
I would concur that gender is fluid and not binary, as is the case in most humans, including mannerisms.
Although, our western society, parental upbringing, social constructs, interactions with others, how women are treated based upon culture, defines our perceptions of what is male and female.
No judgement is required. Both genders exhibit thoughts, actions and movements which swings along the male/female pendulum.
I totally agree, Kira. I don’t identify as transgendered; I don’t experience the same level of commitment or compulsion toward feminine expression that truly transgendered individuals do. Yet, I do have a feminine persona that seeks expression from time to time, so along the gender continuum I feel somewhere toward the mid-point – androgynous, maybe.
Thanks for making your point. It’s not understood by many people, and I’m pleased to see it so well put.
Ouchie! Your Honour, I’m guilty as charged… of at least four or five of those crimes! In fact, in some cases, some of my friends have alerted me to them (like the issue about putting on makeup in public — of which I actually was clueless!)
And in truth, the more I observe women, the more I agree with those 27 points.
One thing I cannot avoid, though — rummaging through the purse. It’s impossible to find all those precious things I have inside! 🙂 The only thing that I can plead as mitigation factor is that my wife is often even worse than I am, and, when in male mode, I also use a (male) handbag, and I suffer exactly from the same problem!
I am a male cross dresser. I am guilty of some of the bad habits stated in the list.As I have large breasts I have tendancy of leaning forward just to not show too much of my breasts. When I stand steady I feel my breasts more more protruding. Now I am trying to avoid this bad habit.
“Thomas”…Just enjoy wearing your Bra, like I do…”AND BE YOURSELF”.