It’s amazing how much our names shape our identities. Some names feel like a perfect fit from the start, while others never quite resonate with us.
However, crossdressers and transgender women have the unique opportunity to choose their own feminine names.
Every great MTF name has a story behind it, and I’d love to hear YOURS.
How did you choose your feminine name?
Please tell us your story in the comments below, and if you can, share a photo too. It’s always lovely to put a face to a name!
Love,
Lucille
At diferent times in my life I came across two women whos name was Bernadette but were always known as Berni and I really like the name. Plus it’s kind of androgynous.
I chose my name from my sister’s middle names.
I was born in 66. About 1970 I knew that I was different. I felt and wanted to be a girl. Of course there was no internet back then. Every 3 months we would receive in the mail various department store catalogs. I would secretly spend my time in the girl and women’s sections, but I always was ready to turn right to the boys section so no one would know. We used to watch Little House on the Prairie every week. Oh how I wish I could have been Laura. Then one episode the Ingalls adopted two children, James and Kassandra. I knew that was going to be my name someday. It took until I was 50 before beginning my transition in 2017. I couldn’t wait to finally be able to live as Kassandra. Fortunately I lived in Oregon at the time and was able to have name and gender changed in just 4 months after starting hrt.
My first real true guy love I was 15 he was 16 and he loved me for me he let me dress up be girly and be happy he was a big kiss fan. One night we was dancing and having fun he kissed me and said I’ve got you a girly name I said ok. He said Bethany Kriss Spencer.. Spencer was his last name I promised him id keep it. He had to move away to care for his mother anyway that’s my story. Bethany. Beth for short
I used to love the name Dawn when I was younger and gender-fluid.
Then a few years ago when our society and language evolved to include non-binary I just decided to use my birth name Garnet. I guess I’m just lucky my name is already gender fluid.
My choice was an easy one. My male name was Ellis and that was often miss-pronounced as Elise. The name seems to fit me and as a bonus, my ID could easily be a mispronunciation. My parents hoped for a 3rd daughter and they’d picked out the name ‘Alice’, but I didn’t think that one fit well. So Elise it became.
My parents and sister used to call me a sissy and say my name is stephanie while laughing and joking on it, i think its part of what pushed me to beleive its wrong all those years and just now excepting that i really love being called stephanie, it makes me feel complete and whole!!!!
Mine was Easy, when I told my doctor what I wanted to do with my life ( transgender) she said good for you what will I call you now, how about Edwina….. i said perfect that’s what I wanted anyway LOL