“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I try to pass every time I go out this is very important to me and my selfesteam I like to look my best and so far I’ve gotten away with it (Well no one has said anything to my face) any way this is a great topic keep up the great work xxxooo.
I would love to pass %!00 of the time. No girl should have to settle but since I know I can’t, blending in could still be fun =D I’ll always wish I had been born a woman.
Absolutely agree with Janet, so important to me- it’s who I am. Am grateful for all the posts and tips here, have really helped me and would recommend to anyone.
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people to get back on track and not
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Lucille………..
Passing Vs Not passing
Some do compare this as their holy grail.
I like many like to blend in ……. and not outstanding……..confidance is a very important key to this success aas many of your followers have pointed out
Go outgirls and just be yourself
Suse
Personally, I don’t think it’s all about looks in public anyway. There are plenty of genetic girls who would fail that test. It’s all about the presentation, I think. I strive harder to act female and present as female than I do at just looking it. And let’s not forget the confidence factor. If you’re confident in yourself, it’s much easier to pass than if you’re a walking bag of nerves every time you step into the sunlight. A bright cheerful smile and a good, confident demeanor tells the world that you’re a woman and dares anyone to say otherwise.
Hugz!
MellissaLynn
I am over 6′ tall so I can’t pass perfectly but I always try to look and act as feminine as I can. Being feminine is such wonderful feeling and although I wish I could pass better than I do, I won’t let it stop me from exploring this wonderful side of myself. Thank you so much Lucille for publishing this blog and helping us T-Girls!
Simone
Sorry all I have is an old photo of myself. I never liked being photographed. I use to worry about how I looked and everything had to be just right. Now I have to tell myself to walk like a man when I’m at work which is the only time I am not in some feminine mode. My breast are large enough to show even without a bra; my hips, which have always been slightly wide, are wide enough now to make anyone passing look twice and I have noticed that these changes in my body have changed my balance and the way I walk. I usually wear a pair of coveralls that fit just right to show just enough of the curve of my hips, a hint of my breast. I love to confuse people. Some talk to me as a female, others keep to the middle not knowing which way to go. Mostly my family and co-workers identify me as I really am. Since I was 2 years old I have always wanted to be a real girl. I would love the surgery and all that goes with it but I have learned that 80 per-cent of the time I am a real girl and that always gives me reason to smile.