“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Although it is always the Holy Grail, to pass un-noticed almost, I do enjoy every aspect of my feminine self, whether it’s just trying makeup and nail polish, without dressing fully, or testing perfume or eyeshadow.
Just enjoy everything
Love and kisses to all
Jacqui XXXXXXX
I have a long way to go but I do not let this stop me I have a copy of yor woice training and I work it every day it is only early days but I think I am making progress your helpful hints and tips also help me .thank you for taking the time to help us all
It makes me smile to dress. I am very part time but I do my very best. It takes me 3 days prep to go out for one night. I like to think that I pass (on a good hair day,lol) but it is not that important to me anymore. I will always be a guy in a dress. If I am happy with who I am and how I look, Then my soul smiles. That’s all I can ask for.
Allison, you are beautiful! You look very pretty and natural in this picture.
You’ve either got or you ain’t got it.
(and if ya ain’t got it you can get it on the net) Who cares what anyone thinks anyway.
Be true to yourself ,
It’s whats inside that matters.
Thanks for all the help.
Unfortunatly having a family does not allow me the luxury of trying to pass or blend , my children don,t know and my wife allows me to only wear lingerie in the bedroom which is fairly understanding of her.I do long deep down to be every bit a woman and have had these feelings for most of my life but have tried to push them aside. If i was able to be feminine outside i would want to be as natural a woman as possible.
All you girls look every bit the woman and should be proud of yourselves, thank you Lucille for being so understanding to our needs.
Love to you all
Gayle
I’m a crossdresser and passing would be nice but blending is more for me. I need to be able to switch back and forth, be in girl mode or boy mode. As I become more experienced with female mannerisms, makeup, etc…, then I think this will be possible. But just as a teenage girl take years to learn how to be a woman I’m still learning.
Thank you Lucille!
i got my photo shoot done that was a big break thru i still see my flaws but not everone can see them and i might get a coment that that is a tall women they just do not suspect this happened last time at my hairdresser who knows me but says nothing
Dear Lucille,
I could not agree with you more! In my teenage years through to my mid 30’s it was easy to pass as a female; but with the passage of time it is not so easy! None the less I dress to suit my age, and the feelings I have when dressed are still precious to me, my whole persona changes; even ladies that I know quite often comment how they enjoy my company more when feminine.
Really enjoy the help and encouragement you give to us all!
Love Keith / Mandy