“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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All i can say is just do what you feel, You will know what you can get away with and what you cant ps we are very speical people and with that comes a cost. God Bless. Stacy
Hey Lucille, Hi there dear. Yes I follow the idea, that I don’t care if people can read me or not. I am comfortable with who I am and express who I am in all situations. And yes people accept who you are because of that thinking.
If you are coy and worried you can be read, you will be read !
But if you be yourself and show it with confidence with your head held high. People will accept you. I am self employed and many old friends that are not friends anymore told me that people will think your weird and this and that. Very bad things they said that made me withdraw in fear. But I overcame that and proved this to be true. People are looking for – if your real with who you are, not how you look ! This is the determining factor that will have them change their minds on the spot. Like when I am in a store and see an employee looking at me in that strange way, I go up to them and talk to them and show who I am, they then change their countenance and see I am truly a female. It is proven.
Another thing Lucille, I have a Tgirl site for support and help. And I am asking you if I can put a link to our site here for additional help and information for my members? Can I do this? And if so, do you have a banner I can use?…Thanks love and have a Merry Christmas and happy new year…! Kellie xoxo
Thank you Dee, here is a newer picture of me…
kellie wow! you look really girlie -what a whole lotta work. good going . dee.
Clarissa Hollar, I did not mean to block you it was by mistake, please forgive me! I really appreciate your friendship.
I’ll try to re-add you if I can find you on FB lol. You should be able to see me now lol.
Hi Jenny,
It’s ok no biggie =) I figured you had it blocked for some reason or maybe it was an accident =)
For me, it’s been about balancing my inner and outer femininity altogether. I always want to pass as a real woman. Going out places as a female, I always work on keeping my confidence and attitude positive. What really helps me a lot is having many supportive female friends, who not only see you as your male self but your female self as well. I am grateful for that.
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very sensitive feeling cause by a
member of the family that cause a
big wave of Neg level feeling by be
a rude person and said ” Son,or what
everyhere you are? (Male, Female )?
” if you fall down on the ice,I hope
you break your legs into a mllions
parts ( shatter legs all over the
ice ) and some of the other tenants
hear this remark Qute made and me to
shink into a cannon and hide in the
closet and – feeling of been a f or
m and also end up “kissing the bus”
You know what means? but I hold on
just for your as teacher,mentor, and
drill Sagt. kicking the butt, say no
we have no we have hope to now,you
can do it, ( Boot Camp Style. Thank
this teacher for that pressure not
to give up the program !
I wish I pass as a woman maybe I can at some point.
I think I pass most of the time, I think if I was extremely overdone I wouldn’t care if I passed or not, It’s the blending in and avoiding stares that worry me. My voice is a dead giveaway though, I’m getting surgery on my voice next year (and FFS) Had a guy come up to me and my partner last night (at a very noisy Mascarade ball) greeted us as ladies and then when he asked my name (Penny) he heard my voice and said “so what do you do for a job my boy?” kinda ruined my night.
I’m comfortable with myself but tend to lose that confidence when someone calls me a boy or just stands and stares. Then i feel like a snob if i don’t talk at all. about a week ago i was at the supermarket and i heard someone yell out “excuse me miss, you dropped your bag” I turned round and picked up my bag and hurried off. Didn’t have the confidence to say thankyou.
I’m 22 and I’ve only been fulltime for 2 weeks now and I’m already alot more confident than day 1 started. I still have alot to work on. Considering you’re hypnosis cd’s.
-Woman in training
i have never worried about what other people think its all about how comfortable you are in my opinion and if this is a problem for people then its their issue not mine