“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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As much as I love the look and feel of women’s clothes and cosmetics, I’ll never shave off my beard.
I used to worry about passing as a woman and I spent 30+ years trying to live in the role of my birth gender because of this. I am now not really bothered about passing and I am just living as me and I feel much more confident and happy that I ever thought possible. I’ve had alot of positive comments about my picture, even from men so maybe I am getting there.
Totally agree xx
I’m 19 6′ 4″ I’m prescriped hrt but I have so little money I can’t get it regularly I can’t pass mostly because of my height/mannerisms and my voice I can’t work as a male it would emotionally crush me but as a transperson its hard to present an image of professionalism at all I’m caught in this limbo of gender politics and sociology I want to go back to school but I really don’t want to be dependant on my grandparents who are supportive but I can’t really speak to them anymore in person without feeling a void
Today someone almost mistook me for a girl when they glanced at me (and I haven’t even started feminizing myself yet)
i’m very comfortable being transgendered – a woman in a male body! passing takes too much psychic energy, my opinion. blending is really the best way to go for me – physically and mentally and emotionally! people around me are very accepting and encouraging, i don’t think this wouuld be the case if i was trying to pass as a female.
Oh, I like to say I won’t even pass as a transwoman any more. Certainly can’t pass for a male by any means.
I came out as a transsexual last year, age 34. I gave up the thougt of always do my outfit so complete that i would pass as a girl all the time. I dont, but i dont care. I feel beutiful and thats the important thing for me. I tell you, it is not easy to stop careing what other people think, but it is possible. I was terribly nervous the first time i went public with just half the outfit, it was obvious that a was male in other peoples eyes. But i did it anyway.
What i didnt expect was that people around me, at work and my friends, would be so supportive. I thought i would annoy them but that didnt happen. Instead they have encourage me to wear whatever i want. They see me as the bravest person around.
So you all nervous tg:s, it is possible! My picture of how it was going ti be for me coming out was not correct at all. whore heals to the mall last weak, the ultimate test, couldnt care less of what people thought of that, it felt good for me, and does it feel good it will show, as self confidence.
I recommend you to try. One small step at a time, to face the unpleasent feelings it gives. You will grow as a person and one day you will be as confident that you can wear whatever, passning ot not.
This has been such a turmoil in my life I feel that I am going insane. I look back and I’ve always had the desire to be a girl. And I’ve been so ashamed of myself. Guilt and shame have ruled a lot of my life. Now I’m married ” at 46 and am now 51″and my wife is so supportive. She is the most understanding person I have ever met. I am truly blessed. She helps me with my clothes, make up, wig, everything and I am too embarssed to let her see me in them. I dress while she is asleep and take everything off before someone sees me. My son is 19 and very “macho” and proud of it. I’m so afraid if he knew it would crush him. He has me on a proverbial pedestal. And my stepson is 12 adhd bipolar. And VERY impulsive. In a small midwesttown of 2000 people I can’t let it out. Is there anyone out there feel the same? Any advice!?
Mi esposa me ha sorprendido en dos ocasiones con su ropa interior con baby doll, y esta decepcionada de mi, no se como
decirle que me gusta y q me apoye por que cada dia me siento mas mujer, pero todo mi rol es de hombre tengo una hija de 12 años, y trabajo de hombre de tiempo completo, por dentro me siento mujer, por fuera para todos, soy un varon normal.
saludos