“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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for those whom wish to transition but have an excuse such as “my work” , as the above story goes, the one who knew who i was despite the fact i was in full girl mode. His reaction was ‘I didnt know you had boobs and a female like body. The point is expectations, when i was a man in his eyes he didnt expect me to have breasts so he never notice i had them. thats where blending comes in just be what your expected to be and you’ll blend in like boobies on a man.
PASSING OR BLENDING they both are fun but could get boring. To me its about belonging . Today was another point proven , dressing the way you feel and belong and going to a place you know you will be spotted as you these people know you before you came out. and now they see you for the first time. I was excepted even when i didnt but should have passed.
It’s my belief that a new time is coming for those who who dare to be who they are despite the fact they weren’t born that way. call it the new birthright. I would not believe years ago where the public view is today. I certainly wouldn’t feel safe doing what I’m doing now back then.Now we can belong to any group or gender and feel much freer doing it
ANNIE
I am heading for 66 and have been dressing since 13 and going out since 16. I have always dressed to blend in, i am out to all my siblings, wife and children. I have support from my siblings but not my wife or children although my daughter n law likes to go shopping with me. As far as dressing to suit my age my sister went through my wardrobe and we had a purge day, kept all that was more age appropriate and could color coordinate to make several outfits. Afterwards we went shopping. My wife would like it to go away but also accepts it is here to stay. The strangest part of the purge is that my wife went through donation bags to see if she should rescue anything for her self or if i should kept it. Weird kind of support. At my age with a slight belly that can only be contained so much I find myself wearing more looser tops from the breast line down and some with an elastic pull at the hips.This gives room for the belly yet looks sexy and breaks the straight line body look up.
I’ve lived full time for the past four years and no one yet has questioned me at any time. Once when my two best friends (both crossdressers, both in drab this time) took me grocery shopping (I had no Transportation at the time) I was shopping the cheese and butter counter, in the middle of a line of female shoppers, they walked right on by me without seeing me. Talk about blending..!!
I see; therefore I am. I will never stop helping others understand how adorable I am.
In the photo I am in my pool, and catching some sun while enjoying a warm afternoon in Las Vegas. I’m not wearing any makeup. I’m 68 years young, and I’m a happy, confident girl.
I have realized over the years that 100% passage is unrealistic, but if I can get to 90%, all good. I am more comfortable accepting that nothing is “perfect”, and have also accepted that this is ok. This is two personas in one; and to have that gift in this life is a blessing. You don’t really need “society’s approval.
I try not to obcess about anything. Here in picture I am without make up.
You have a great complexion!
Use noxema with pumice stone twice a day, hot water wash, plus cool water rinse afterwards. Use alcohol and lotion to smooth skin.