“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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May I ask why not? Was it too long? Or what?
Thanks Julie
Hello,
I’m a Trans Woman.
I have been on Hormones over two years, had Breast Augmentation this past Feb and scheduled for SRS this November. What a busy year.
I used to care if I pass or not. Today I am just being me.
Be who you are, not who the world wants you to be. 🙂
*Kisses*
You make me so proud. You are cute you know.
I’m a 34 year old Trans female and have only been ‘out’ for about 8 months and yeah I do worry about ‘passing’ but it’s not important as this is the happiest I have ever been in my life.
I no longer hate myself and my main goal is to be fully realised and not noticed in public.
I constantly think I’m being stared at or made fun of but I don’t let it get to me, I just keep carrying on the best I can like so many of us do.
As the years slide by passing as a genetic woman has become more difficult and less important. I still prepare myself in the manner of a 1950’s woman to go out in public, but at 68 I don’t stress if I don’t achieve my ideal look. People will accept me or not as they chose. I am happy going out and presenting as the woman I am internally. B
I used to be consumed by the need to pass. But, I finally realized that no matter what society thinks I know I’m a beautiful, confident woman!! The only person I need to pass for is me!
Beautiful, more pics please
Great picture would love to see more, wish I could look as nice!
Passing without being selfconcious would be great. Blending in and looking normal in a crowd is the only way to exist! Thank you Lucille.