“Passing as a woman” is the Holy Grail for many crossdressers and transgender women.
But is it really a goal worth pursuing?
If you’ve been afraid to show your feminine side for fear of not “passing,” it might be time to rethink your priorities.
I believe everybody has the potential to pass, but let’s face it… it’s not always easy!
It could take years to master all the subtleties of walking, talking, and presenting yourself as a woman. You might even require surgery to be truly passable in all situations.
That means that unless you plan to live as a woman full time, trying to become 100% passable just isn’t practical.
Rather than getting hung up on passing vs. not passing, I suggest you make it your goal to “blend in” instead.
Blending in means you look feminine and harmonious enough not to stand out in a negative way – even if you aren’t 100% passable.
Most people don’t scrutinize everybody around them, so unless there’s something glaringly off about you, you are unlikely to attract a second glance.
Does this mean everybody will think you are a cisgender (genetic) woman? Probably not. But it doesn’t matter.
The happiest crossdressers and transgender women I know don’t care whether they pass or not. They care about being themselves.
Passing is great when it happens, but there’s nothing wrong with being seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are!
As long as you choose the right environment and present yourself well, you are likely to be met with acceptance.
Now I’d love to hear from YOU!
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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yo muy joven pasaba como jovencita, me encantaba, posteriormente sentí que estaba mal hecho pasar por mujer, y trate de olvidarlo y no hacerlo mas, sin embargo nunca me pude retirar del todo, y llego a ver épocas en las cuales vivia casi al cien por ciento como mujer, aunque me atreví a salir, procuraba que no hubiera mucho acercamiento con la gente, y pasaba desapercibida, En fin yo siempre sentí que era una mujer, pero nunca tuve el valor para hacer algo, ahora que soy una persona de 61 años, decidi que tengo que ser la mujer que soy pero he tenido problemas físicos, engorde mucho, y otras cosas, que me hacen sentir un poco mal, pero creo que ya no logro parecer tan femenina como hace unos años, sin embargo lo voy a intentar.Ya en otras ocasiones he escrito y tambien he recibido consejo de ustedes, por su atension gracias.
Buongiorno MISS LUCILLE.
So che e’ quasi impossibile passare per Donna
Al 100% per100%.
Ma io mi sento Donna e ne sono fiera!!!
Faro l ‘ impossibile per essere femminile il piu
Possibile.
Buona Domenica
E una grande riverenza.
MISS LUCILLE.
Well everyone that knows about me thinks I could pass no problem, but I don’t think so, but it’s ok
Hi my name is Rich but my female name is Vanessa. I feel that I’m happy and comfortable with who I am. I’m a male at n female clothes. I have been wearing high heels and short shorts with a blouse and beret or hat of my choice and I love how it makes me feel. I certainly wouldn’t mind getting a full make over to see what my potentials are but I don’t feel it’s necessary. I realize that everybody’s goals are different and they come with their own challenges but I feel that you have to be happy during the process. I stopped caring what other people think and started to release that stress and experience happiness. I was surprised how well I was accepted others just having my own acceptance and inner glow. I made so many new girlfriends this way. I hope hope this helps some of you girls out there. Be bold, be confident and most of be your unique self. After all there is only one of you in this world. Peace and Love ❤️❤️❤️
Just a small comment on the topic, I am transexual, (Have had the surgery) Until I had the surgery I felt very insecure and wanted to be passable so as not to stand out or be noticed that I might be different. Now that I have had the surgery I just let things slide. I do not really care what others think, it is how I feel that matters. I think age has also a big part in it, I am now 67 and had the surgery 12 moths ago. I came out as transgender and lived as full time female for 2 years prior to the surgery. I have cross dressed in secret since as far back as I can remember (about 4 years old). Love to hear if others have had a similar experience.
Hello Lucille. I think this is a wonderful topic. I was excited that so many ladies took the time to reply. I read every word. I responded that I was happy to “blend”. To me, “blending” means fitting in with all the other women my age who happen to be out and about around me. Honestly, I am not sure if I pass. However, when I am out I feel as if I blend in as a woman and that makes me happy. I think it is acceptance as a woman all us girls seek to some extent. I would not be happy with myself if everybody knew I was a man dressed as a woman. As a younger lady, totally passing was the goal and nothing short of that would do. As I get older, my desire to express my feminine side and pass is as strong as ever, however, my focus is more on self expression and less on what other people think.
Yes it is very important for me its a hard engough for us and iam proud to be a women
Hi Lucille I would really like to pass like a woman. I been shopping women clothing and shoes makeup and it makes me feel good but my wife don’t go along with it she does not know that I been buying women clothing.she does not know that I want to become a woman so I’m putting it on hold for a while.