Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? This is something a lot of crossdressers and transgender women think about.
Is passing really a goal worth pursuing?
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether or not I think passing matters in this blog post. (Spoiler alert: It doesn’t.)
But now, I’m curious to know what YOU think:
Do you care about passing as a woman? Or are you proud to be seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are?
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi to all,
Yes, it is important to pass as a woman for me, sometimes I do when things comes right,especially makeup. I’m a CD and I try to look as best I can as a woman. Still need more practice but I’ll get there. Just being happy with yourself helps a lot.
Gaby.
Absolutely.If I look , act and feel like a beautiful, sexy, kind, etc, woman that is what I want to pass as.
On another subject I read so much disturbing news about the higher suicidal rates of trans genders and this dissappoints me.Be happy with who you are.Self acceptance comes first.You can also be private about it.Just like your money and other areas of your private life does everyone have to know every thing about you.So everyone life is a gift.Enjoy it.Do not ever contemplate suicide.Get help if necessary.
Next I do not understand all the negativity about Kaitlyn Jenner.People are calling her a phony, a publicity seeker., a money hungry person.Look if she wants to act like he does accept it.It is her life .
Lastly thankyou Lucille and staff for a great web site.Thank-you to all the open minded people who share in the content and ideals that this web site offers.
I’ve only been out in public a few times with one being a dinner with my crossdressers group and the other a couple of outings at a transgender conference. I went out for the first time without other crossdressers when I was out of state for a convention last week. I sought the help of a young woman who escorted me around for the morning. I used the ladies room three times that day, but once had a problem when a woman yelled at me to go use the urinal. That really upset the woman that was with me. Eventually, I would like to blend in more.
sorry about some of my spelling in the last comment i made, that is why i’m posting this again with some add information hi i’m 31 tuning 32 this year, i’m a cross dress a and would love to be a lady-boy by going onto hormones, passing as a very good looking girl, i have only ever gone out in public with stocking and flat shoes, and i mostly did it behind close doors as i was just to scared to go out, as i would think what would people think/make fun of me, but i got to the stage where i just got sick and tried of doing it behind closes doors all the times so i have just really opened up to my family and friends about it all, and i now go out as a cross dresser more at day time and mostly keep it to night times, i have been wearing some make up, i did go out 3 times in a dress and high heel up the road and back then i only did it for years behind closed doors, but now i go shopping center and other places around town as a cross dress a and feel fantastic about my self for coming out with it all for real, now i just wont to hurry up and get on hormones and be a lady-boy full time, as in wear bras and lady things all the time and not be judged or look at by same people funny, but for now i just cross dress, yes i have seen a Councillor about it and then i would like to see a doctor to get on hormones, i pray and hope when i do get on hormones that i become one full time in 1 year or less, as i really hate my man body more now. ans when i go out wearing lady things i don’t really care and worry about the nasty or negative people say about me, as i have over come what people say about me and if they can not live with it then i say who cares and just go out and do it and be my self, so i hope some of you or all of you get back to me with advice and i hope i can make some MtF transgender friend on this website. thank everyone for listening to my story about coming out. i’m proud of my self for coming out and being me, again i do not care what other think, as it’s not going to stop me from cross dressing or becoming a full time lady-boy, i also hope to one day get name change to a nice lady name and yes i have tried liking girls and having sex with girls, but it has not worked for me as i have always wonted to be a lady-boy full time and cross dress and was to scared to tell anyone, but i’m right now and can go out as one, but still wont more by geting on hormones and being a lady-boy full time, as can anyone tell me if i can get b cup boobs on hormones, f i can use the lady toilets all the times when i’m full time?, thank everyone
Which toilet to use?
That’s a hot subject. There’s a huge amount of negative – and, in some cases, outright violent – feeling by some to trans people using “the wrong toilet”.
It’s not very simple for all of us, unless we are completely passable and confident enough.
I would be happy to use the ladies toilet if I was wearing a dress or skirt and was reasonably feminine in appearance. Perhaps that’s all that people need?
My upper torso is decidedly feminine naturally (I usually have to wear a bra), but because I usually wear pants in public and my facial appearance is male, I don’t use anything other than the male toilets.
I don’t have so much of a need to try the others, because when I enter I usually have something on my mind that demands most of my attention.
Passing has always been very important to me, and thankfully I seem to for the most part since being on hormones. But you’re so right Lucille, having the goal of blending in and being accepted is most important, but it’s still a downer when I occasionaly don’t pass. I still struggle with my voice, and am sure it’s what ‘outs’ me more than anything. Thanks again Lucille!
Marian
I’m lucky being a natural blonde – and I have a couple of women in my life who are so supportive of Diane. For the past 10 months or so I have been going out with them and my confidence is really on the up. I want to pass so much and in seeking to achieve that have so much from my female friends.
First off, thanks for all you do for us girls Lucille! Passing is a process, takes time. But so worth the effort. Agree with the comments it is a mindset. In my case, thanks to my female side, I enjoy going to the health club so I can look my best. Not to mention the health benefits! To me then, for those who want to look their best, be patient, the more you try to pass, the better you will look in time. Look at how far you’ve come girl’s. Who among us didn’t start this journey by putting nylons or a panty on? Now look in the mirror compared to your early attempts. Bet you look and feel better, give it time, embrace those moments you look great and know you will continue on your journey to be the best looking girl you can be!
At this moment, I am slowly drifting into womanhood. I wear only female clothing and have found that most people seem to see what they expect. I started HRT a month and a half ago and I’m now at the point where I don’t care as much what people think. My friends and family are all supportive and we all pray that, after living a very screwed up life as a lost man, I can be happy as a found woman. I have been maam’d, sir’d and called names but go on knowing I am happier now than I have ever been.