Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? This is something a lot of crossdressers and transgender women think about.
Is passing really a goal worth pursuing?
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether or not I think passing matters in this blog post. (Spoiler alert: It doesn’t.)
But now, I’m curious to know what YOU think:
Do you care about passing as a woman? Or are you proud to be seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are?
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I always seem to pass as a woman, I don’t have to work to hard at it, but I gave up worrying about if I pass or not years ago, I just enjoy who I am.
Hi Kathy honey I think you look amazing its no wonder you always seem to pass sweetie I love your outfit and you keep on enjoying who you are I hope to get started myself again very soon Love M.J.
Hi Lucille,
I haven’t got a problem passing in Europe, but ironically I had a problem passing as male, as I do not have an Adam’s apple, and facial features that are more female than male. Now I’m femme 24/7 and it feels like the most natural thing in the world! I’m 5 foot 6, with a 38 inch chest (B cup), 36 inch waist and 39 inch hips, and wear a size 7 1/2 women’s shoe. I translated my measurements, and it comes to a US size 14 most of the time, unless you go to the China shops here. Medium in Europe is large in China, so you have to watch out for the size differences.
I am also understanding the differences in men’s and women’s physiques, and when I put on my first dress the hourglass magically appeared, and I was very happy with that. For what it’s worth, men’s clothes never really fit me, as it was a battle to find something with large(r) hips, and different torso. For women’s clothes, B cups are common, and shoe sizes 6-8 are as well, so I fit right in. When I went to the market, there was a large selection of B cup bras and a much smaller rack of C and D. I don’t know whether it is the environmental estrogens in the states or something else, but the women here run smaller in the chest on the average.
I also got a different hair style that hides my widow’s peak, and looks much better, with a blonde dye job. I never had long hair before, and I’m LOVING it! I suppose it will lose it’s novelty after a while, but I’m enjoying it while I can, with tresses shoulder length. I guess imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, and Lucille’s hair was what I modeled it after.
The proof of the pudding was how the males treated me–as a woman rather than a guy in a dress. Due to low T most of my life, I hardly ever shaved, including my legs, and now after a few visits to the electrologist and Braun’s Epil Silk Pro, I only have to maintain the stray hairs left once a week. My GF is jealous, and says she shaves twice a week–LOL! I will be on supervised HRT soon, and the doc says that I might wind up being a C cup. If that happens, fine, and if it doesn’t I’m OK with that as well.
My voice is a little deeper than most women, but when I call the states I get addressed as “Maam” before I tell them my name, so I guess I’m passable there as well.
I just want to thank Lucille for helping me on this journey, and look forward to her emails.
Eliza
Loved reading your story, we seem to have a lot in common, I too am 5’6″ my waist is also 36 but I’m trying to shed some weight, I had to switch to wigs about a year ago as my hair really started to thin really bad, but I still get mistaken for a female when I go shopping and yes, I too have no Adams Apple.
Hi Lucille
Thanks for all the advice you give to all us girls because of you and your course of makeup I buy from you, now I know a lot of information to pas as a woman because passing is the most important thing to me to complete my transition.
By the way Lucille I been doing makeover sessions with Monica prata in new york she’s very professional and caring I recommend her, she’s excellent.
XOXO JOANNA
Its always nice to be complimented on how i look .
but i dont try and dress to pass i dress how i want and wear what u feel good in.
Im proud to be me and in the immortal words of twisted sister ……..”I am and i’m me”
its not whats inside …..its what i do that defines me ….xxxxx
hugs xxamyxx
You know, “Passing” for me is not a priority. Mainly because as a transwoman, My focus is on getting myself comfortable within my own body. For most that generally means that my priority is to have the right parts. Everything else is moot, really. As comfort and confidence build, then the “Passing” or blending will happen on it’s own especially as I take better care of myself. Acceptance will occur, while not everyone will accept me for who I am, eventually enough people will accept me for who I am and I can live the normal life as the woman I was always meant to be. I already have my Family behind me and that has helped me more than anything. I know that there are a lot out there that can’t or won’t have their Family behind them. To these people I say, if blood can’t be there for you, then choose your family instead. You can find plenty of supportive people out there anywhere. I’m proof of that because outside my blood family I have a lot of other people that know about me and we live in central Mississippi. A place not really know for acceptance but it there is a lot more acceptance out there than most believe. Sorry for rambling. But I feel that acceptance from others as well as acceptance of ones self does more wonders for Passing or Blending that any finishing school or beauty class ever could.
Thank you.
love it when told by womwn that I look just like a woman, or….when driving, I get a look from a male approvingly.
Also, love it when TG friends complement me and/or appear jealous.
It is very important to me that I pass, but I have agency and when I go out I am going to be myself whether I get clocked or not. On the other hand, I still wonder if people, especially men, are looking at me because I look like a man in drag or because they like what they see. To a great extent, it has to do with my lack of confidence, which I have struggled with since I was very young — I don’t remember ever feeling confident, in fact. However, my cs and trans girlfriends have told me that I worry about nothing and that the men are looking at me because they like what they see. That serious look of concern on their faces, my friends tell me, isn’t one of distaste. It is the look that a lot of men have when they see a woman they would like to “screw”. Plus, I am almost 60, and I have been called a cougar more than once.
I look pretty darn good and if looks were good enough I’d pass … except I’m 6 foot tall before the wig and pumps, so I really do literally stand out.
But it’s the voice if anything that will give me away. (Even then I’ve had cis-women surprised that I wasn’t a real woman.) I have the walk, mannerisms, coy smile, great legs, barely perceptible adam’s apple. I am accepted and treated as a woman wherever I go in public. But my voice, even though a tenor, is difficult to get by even those who might be hard of hearing. That, if anything, will give me away. I go in expecting that I am not fooling anyone, and I will never be disappointed. (But I have been very pleasantly surprised!)
So with this knowledge, I am happy if I pass and okay if I don’t, as I am still accepted by men and women alike in whatever social situation I place myself. Mind you, I typically don’t dress for the everyday-woman setting, but rather a night out, dinner or party evening and for that I dress classy-glamorous. Dressing appropriately for the social context is an important factor in passing.
Wanda