Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? This is something a lot of crossdressers and transgender women think about.
Is passing really a goal worth pursuing?
I’ve shared my thoughts on whether or not I think passing matters in this blog post. (Spoiler alert: It doesn’t.)
But now, I’m curious to know what YOU think:
Do you care about passing as a woman? Or are you proud to be seen as the classy crossdresser or transgender woman that you are?
Please take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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Although I’ve known since very young, way back in the day in the coal mining regions in the 50’s I learned to hide it REALLY well. Either that or end up in the bottom of some quarry. So my entire life I lived a very well kept secret, and have only recently come out. Living and developing as a male (Army basic and Advanced Infantry Training have a tendency to change skinny young men into MEN), with a physically active life, I have the voice of a strangling bull and the skeletal structure of an ape and I have to accept that there is only so much that makeup and clothes can hide. So I accept that I’ll never be “passable” no matter what I do. so I’m quite content to make myself as presentable as possible and go with it. Except in those occasions where I’m doing male work around the house I’m full time Jennifer, but that doesn’t mean I always have to be completely made up. Many times I go to the store more as a feminized male, women’s clothes, 3″ wedge shoes, jewelry, earrings, a women’s hat but no wig or makeup. When I go out, like to a club or dinner or a movie, I go all the way, and although I’m not passable I am known as a very sharp dresser. Women come up and ask me all the time how I walk around all night in 4 or 5″ stilettos. At my age, I’ve finally given up what others think of me any more, I will look however I want to look, wherever I want, whenever I want, as long as I know, I’m going to look the best I can. And I’ve found that people don’t particularly expect us to look passable, we’re so hard on ourselves. If we’re confident, courteous, smile, have patience and answer curious peoples questions, (we’re all learning) treat others like we want to be treated, nobody cares, and they accept us just as they do anyone else who passes by them.
Well, since I have been old enough to drive, 3 out of 5 times going thru a drive-thru window ai get “thank you maa’m!,or miss. Always had long hair & a pretty face, which when I was young took it as a curse, but now that I’m older I’m thankful! Things like being mistaken for a woman my whole life, is one of the things that made me try crossdressing.. Now I know I’m very lucky because I really don’t have to t have hard to pass, but that also makes it easier for people I know to spot me out & around & that Terrifies me!!
I also present as who I am, Kristine, at the office. I live and work as Kristine and my co-workers address me as Kristine. I don’t make demands, I just explain who I am and how I came to be, they respect me and I them. I am so glad we have made such strides in society where we are totally free to be who we are.
I present as female at work, 4 days out of 5, sometimes 5 out of 5. Everyone still calls me by my male name because it’s just easier. When I’m dressed I try to present as best I can as female. I have been out with two female friends for dinner and the waiter addressed us as ladies, which was lovely. I went into town after work one night and had a few curious looks but otherwise no problem. The shop assistant gave me a big smile which made me feel good.