Do you think it’s important to “pass” as a woman? Many crossdressers and transgender women wrestle with this question.
Is passing really something worth striving for?
I’ve shared my thoughts on this topic in this blog post. (Spoiler: I don’t think it matters!)
But now, I want to hear from you:
Do you care about passing as a woman, or are you proud to embrace your identity as a confident and classy crossdresser or transgender woman?
Take my “Passing Poll” and share your thoughts in the comments!
Love,
Lucille
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Being able to not just pass as a woman, but being accepted as a woman is my dream. I know that it’s rather unlikely to happen, as most of society is intolerant of men who dress as women, much less men striving to ascend their gender boundries. People need to understand that we are merely trying to present ourselves as we truly feel, and wish to be without fear of resentment, or even hate, maybe even jealousy. I love being femme, and hope you all feel as I do, and this how I hope to be able to walk freely around!
It’s probably the best time ever to be trans, with people like Caitlyn Jenner coming out. There are also several TV shows: Becoming Us on ABC Family and Transparent on Amazon . . . The world is changing, so hold on to your dream.
And you are well on your way m’dear
im glad to just to be able to wear panties, skirts bras and clothes that I feel good in.
Of course I want to pass without problem.
While blending in is a good stance as an intermediate stage of the transition, the ultimate goal is to pass as a genetic woman.
Not because I need other people to accept me, wheter known or strangers. I need it, because every time someone threats me like a man is a blow on the soul. Some people will not accept me, and some people will do, that’s unavoidable. But I don’t need people to accept me, I need them to respect me, as a woman. There’s people that will not tolerate me as a “man dressed”, passing is fundamental to not be a target for such people.
Also, there’s another point, which is the personal side. I don’t like when I see a man on the mirror, I don’t like to see a “man dressed” on the mirror, I want to look at a woman. That’s an entirely different matter of that of how I feel inside, after all dysphoria kicks in when the outside doesn’t match the inside. I feel I’m a woman inside, and that’s precisely why I need to match my physical being to that woman, being passable not only means “to pass in other’s eyes” but also at one’s own eyes.
You don’t know the big mix of positive feelings you have when you start looking feminine once you start passing at your own eyes.
Of course, I don’t mean that passing as a woman is a synonim of aiming to be a top model (and dress accordingly), it doesn’t mean to be over-feminine, it means to be as natural as possible, so no one will notice you were born with the wrong body. You will still know you were born different, but it better to carry on when people dosn’t nag you about it.
I feel feminine, but my body is still too masculine, and I hate that, but at the same time I’m trying to get a personal style, so I look slutish only when I feel like it, and look nerdy when I’m in the mood. I want to pass as a woman, but at the same time I’m trying to be myself in all my body expressions.
I forgot the pic 🙂
I adore women and am glad if I am like them and I am in perhaps ways which I don’t like such as in having interstitial cystitis, occasional hot flashes and on the bad side of some women’s nature, not being able to keep a cool head in many situations. On the other hand, I am much more verbal than most men and more literate than some so I might get the professor title even though I never graduated from high school! I come from a beautiful family so being beautiful is just natural. Some women just love my company whereas others find me bad match but then this is just human.
My goal is to be a passable as I can be, I do not always succeed, as age is creeping up on me, but I work at trying still. On those days when I can’t completely hit my mark, I stop and look and say I am pretty no matter what. Besides, it is basically for me anyway.
I understand where Michelle is coming from, I feel much the same.
TBH I start every day being the best feminine example I can be. OK some days are better than others as with any female. I now live 24/7 as Heather and that alone boosts my confidence no end.
Love your Blog and it’s helpfulness.
Love to all that read it.
Heather XXX
When I dress I just try to look fem, not worried if I am going to be passable in anyone’s opinion or not. However, from comments I get it seems to happen more than I have ever expected it to. I’ve traveled a lot around the world and have noticed that women vary as much as men in looks and some look more manly than I do but act very fem and classy than the idea of what a passable woman should be. So when I dress I think of this and just try to fit in as a female. In the end I am happier than if I spend hours prepping and the rest of the night worring if someone is going to notice a manly feature.
Yes… my goal is to pass as well as possible. Ideally, I would prefer to be completely invisible, dressed pretty much as in the picture below. Most of the time I don’t get a second glance, but possibly people on the streets are simply too polite…
Passing as a woman is great, but that im not going to all this trouble to look and be feminine to put on a show. I do it because I am a woman, and to be honest most people get it when I go out dressed as a man. Being a woman means its a part of who I am, that I.cant change and have to learn to respect. Now there are entertainers and people who find confidence and strength in how well they perform as a crossdresser. Thats all good if youre an act, but being a woman, which I am proudly is not an act, and its not supposed to be one.