I’m often asked how to minimize the look of broad shoulders. The good news is that there’s lots you can do to downplay your shoulders and feminize your upper body proportions.
But first things first… Don’t feel bad about the size of your shoulders!
Many cisgender (genetic) women have broad shoulders – including some of the most beautiful models and celebrities in the world.
That said, here are 10 tips and techniques to minimize your shoulders while creating an elegant and feminine look.
1. Find a Flattering Neckline
As a general rule, you should avoid square or horizontal necklines. Instead, opt for necklines with rounded or vertical lines to help soften and slim your shoulders. For example:
- Scoop neck
- Halter tops
- Thick shoulder straps
- Bateau neck
- Square neck
- Strapless or sleeveless tops
- Spaghetti straps
2. Wear the Right Size Breast Forms
Your breast forms should be large enough to balance out your shoulders. However, they shouldn’t be so big that they add excessive bulk to your upper body. Here are some guidelines for choosing a cup size:
- If you have a small frame – choose a B or C cup.
- If you have a medium frame – choose a C or D cup.
- If you have a large frame – choose a D cup or larger.
3. Wear Darker Colors On Top
Dark colors have a slimming effect, so an easy way to balance your proportions is to wear dark colors on top and light colors on the bottom.
4. Choose Your Sleeves Wisely
Sleeves can have a big impact (good or bad) on the appearance of your shoulders. Here are some suggestions:
- Avoid sleeves that cut horizontally across your biceps.
- Avoid puffy or ruffled sleeves.
- Look for sleeves with a slimming diagonal cut.
- 3/4 length sleeves are universally flattering.
5. Avoid Shoulder Pads
This tip is obvious. Shoulder pads are the last thing you need, so don’t be afraid to cut them out of your tops and jackets.
6. Distract With a Printed Bottom
Drawing people’s eyes away from your shoulders is a great distraction technique. Bring attention to your lower body with a printed or embellished bottom.
7. Wear Skirts That Flare Out
Skirts that flare out at the bottom help balance the width of your shoulders, creating a more feminine silhouette. Look for gathered, flared, pleated, and/or a-line skirts. Avoid strait skirts and fitted pants.
8. Choose the Right Jacket
When it comes to jackets, you should avoid broad collars and double breasted styles. Instead, opt for single breasted jackets with a narrow collar and lapels.
9. Know Your Best Necklace Length
Long necklaces create vertical lines that help slim the upper body. Avoid short, chunky necklaces and chokers.
10. Find a Flattering Hairstyle
Yes, even the right hairstyle helps. Here are some guidelines:
- Hair that falls above or below your shoulders is most flattering.
- Avoid hairstyles that fall at exactly shoulder length.
- Straight hair emphasizes the angles of your body and can make the shoulders look wider.
- Full, wavy hair helps soften the shoulders and balances broader body proportions.
Never forget that you can look beautiful and feminine at any size or shape. The secret is to distract from so-called flaws while playing up your assets.
Do you have broad shoulders? If so, what are your favorite tips for looking your best when getting dressed?
Please share in the comments below!
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My shoulders were very rounded and muscular from exercise and activities I had been involved in. They were always a concern when dressed in femme. It took awhile but hrt and less strenuous activities shrunk them down. Now women’s clothing fits my body right but I’ll still keep these tips in mind.
Personally, I usually experience that the physiology of transwomen is more appealing than that of cis women. I love square and broad shoulders, but not too muscular. I love slender, ong muscles and smaller natural looking breast. It’s interesting that many high fashion female models in fact are taller than average, have squarrer shoulders, are slim, mostly flat chested, yet are very feminine and make the envy of many other women. I have noticed that as with cis women, transwomen first want to please a female audience instead of a male audience…and often don’t appreciate the judgement of males when beauty is the subject. I really prefer the general ratio of proportions of transwomen…
Many famous women are secretly transgender and that’s why they have broad shoulders. Study male and female body sex markers and take a good look at celebrities. I find it unfair that they do not come out as transgenders but want to look as they support LGBT community. This is a flat out lie and hypocrisy.
Love the techniques and practical advice. I feel more confident about myself now.
This was soooo informative! I learned a lot. Though I slightly differ on dress style everything else was great info
Also just wear a nice scarf
My first time dressing and putting makeup on
I wear tank tops and short sleeve shirts a lot…..but do get into a long sleeve shirt every now and then…..lol