Are you ready to unleash your inner woman and discover a whole new world of self-expression?
Crossdressing can help you break free from gender norms and embrace your true self.
In this blog post, we’ll explore the top 10 benefits of crossdressing that can transform your life.
There’s a lot to be said for embracing your femininity and all the perks that come with it!
Top 10 Benefits of Crossdressing
1. Embracing both sides
Crossdressing lets you bring out the best of both genders and incorporate them into your own personality.
2. Motivation to look good
When you’re crossdressing, you naturally want to look great, right? That’s why it can inspire you to take better care of yourself, stay in shape, and prioritize self-care.
3. Better understanding of women
Crossdressing helps you see things from a woman’s perspective, which can make you more understanding and empathetic towards them.
4. Finding a community
When you embrace crossdressing, an added bonus is that you can tap into online or local communities. These communities can help you feel accepted and supported.
5. Fidelity and integrity
Now, I hope you’d never cheat on anyone, but there’s an interesting twist here. When YOU are “the other woman,” it can reinforce your commitment to being faithful.
6. Discovering your true self
Crossdressing is an amazing journey of self-discovery. It’s a chance to dig deep and uncover parts of yourself you may not have fully explored.
7. Unleashing your uniqueness
Normal is overrated, right? Crossdressing makes you stand out from the crowd and be an intriguing, fascinating individual.
8. Embracing differences
Crossdressing teaches you to accept and appreciate those who don’t fit into society’s norms. It broadens your perspective, promotes inclusivity, and shows you the beauty of diversity.
9. Stress relief
Crossdressing offers a fantastic and harmless way to relieve stress. It’s like stepping into a different role and enjoying a fulfilling activity that helps you unwind and take care of yourself.
10. Boosting creativity and courage
Crossdressing requires creativity, resourcefulness, and a dose of courage. It’s all about stepping out of your comfort zone, trying new things, and embracing the unexpected.
Final Thoughts
I hope you are now convinced that crossdressing can be a healthy and highly beneficial part of your life.
Do you agree with my list or have any other benefits of crossdressing to add? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
Hi Friends, finally a chance to release my secrete life to others. I have been a transgender for all of my life. Sorry, I wish that had never started this.Good night. Lena
One of the greatest benefits to me is that since taking hormones 18 months ago I have lost a huge amount of excess weight . I am 62 and used to weigh 83kg with a slight tyre midriff !! Now I weigh 65kg which is more like the BMI I am supposed to be AND I look and feel 100% better not least the other side effect of taking hormones is that I dont have a hairy torso or hairy legs anymore . I can go out dressed , looking and feeling nearly 100% femme !! You are right about taking more care of ones body -ie lots of pampering – body lotions and anti wrinkle creams to keep looking young . Lots of people now show an interest in me and its much easier to engage with females to chat
Jenifer
Hi Lucille and all us girls,
I want to post my thoughts on this a little more thoroughly as there has been a lot of negativity. Lucille, I love your blog and this question has brought up a lot of issues! I think it’s wonderful that a genetic girl is helping us non-genetic/intersex/whatever girls to express ourselves. I have gained a lot from your blog, including the courage to finally realise that I can AND SHOULD transform myself into the person I really am. So now I’m on a computer I can post a pic of my latest attempt, quite a bit more “honest” and different to my first pic. If you count “honest” as without wig – since changing our appearance is a big part of what we are, perhaps honesty is just about having fun with looks!
So, I’ll try to answer questions as best I can.
1. It allows you to integrate the best of both genders into your personality.
Perhaps, but it is very difficult in our society to actually develop our feminine side, which can make us unbalanced, and thus very unhappy. Also, if we value the feminine more than the masculine, then the masculine that is forced onto us by birth is actually quite damaging. I feel that genetic females are, at least in The West, given far more freedom to express whatever they want than males, including their masculinity. This is very sad and commonly leads to misunderstandings of the “opposite” gender. Gender is, I feel, more of a continuum than a duality, which means we really do need to embrace crossdressers as well as tgirls here.
2. It motivates you to stay in shape and take care of yourself. (A girl’s gotta look good, right?)
Absolutely! My skin is in far better condition than most males, even before hormones, and that’s because I cover up when outside and have always taken a modicum of care even when trying to be a “real man”.
3. It makes you more empathetic towards women.
It makes one more empathic full-stop!
4. It brings you closer to the people who support you.
I haven’t experienced this yet, so I can’t really tell how relevant or correct this is.
5. It’s easier to be faithful when *you* are the other woman (though I hope your empathy towards women would prevent you from cheating in the first place!).
Well, I wouldn’t cheat as man or woman, and I know many men the same, and many genetic females who are quite happy to cheat. I’m not sure lack of empathy for your partner is the domain of genetic males.
6. It allows you to get to know yourself in a deep and meaningful way.
Well, we can get lost delving into our psychology as I have done in the past, and get ourselves fully confused. Does this apply to g-males as well as g-girls? But yes, questioning the status quo is the realm of evolutionary development, so I agree with this.
7. It makes you an interesting person. (Normal is boring!)
Oh yes, it reminds me of that old Chinese curse “May you live in interesting times!”. Sometimes I just want a quiet life, and would be happy to blend in and forget all about the pain of the past. But yes, many people do value my quirky nature, pain in the ass though it can be at times.
8. It gives you more compassion towards others who don’t fit the norms of society.
I would fully agree with this. I am so supportive of other minorities because I fully understand the pain they are going through, if not the details. And it’s mostly so unnecessary it makes me angry!
9. It offers a healthy and non-destructive way to relieve stress.
Much of my stress wouldn’t exist if I could be who I was without having to worry about what others think, so I’m not convinced that this is a real benefit.
10. It makes you a more creative, resourceful, and courageous person than you might be otherwise.
Perhaps, but it also means that one has to deal with the reasons that create that necessity, and for many it is an unhappy process and we have lost people along the way who can’t deal so easily with these pressures, or who don’t have the support networks created by these online blogs, for example!
Hope that wasn’t too negative Lucille, I’ll try to post my “positives” later on to make up for the negativity 🙂
Hi Andrea and thanks for your lovely compliment! I was told just before by my ex that she was convinced I was wearing foundation my skin looked so good (I was in boy mode) so two great compliments in an hour was just amazing! It really makes a girl feel good.
I’m really working hard at both hair and skin at the moment my hair was poorly looked after for years and is badly split, but I oil weekly and condition 2-3 times a week (I won’t use shampoo or very rarely, usually when I buy it by mistake ha I can be such a ditz). I also use a serum to shape but it’s so flyaway…
For my skin I am using toxic clearasil to degrease and close pores – oddly enough recommended by a bloke who I’m pretty sure knew nothing about my secret life but who knows? I use moisturizer to shave and savlon antiseptic to calm the skin after followed by a moisturizer. It’s an inexpensive organic baby moisturizer with heaps of light oils like lavender avocado and citrus, it smells lovely too!
I think it would be great to have posts from Lucille about skin care and hair care there is so much to know and I’d live to do better! 😉
Love,
Pauletta x
Pauletta,
U sound a very considerate and thoughtful girl, and I agree with so much in your original post which was written so eloquently.
I agree too that dressing en-femme is fun too, it is lovely to put on clothes that look and feel nice and so easy to avoid looking like a slob that so many men do. I just wish I could do more with my man-face which let’s down the finished femme article.
I wouldn’t be able to comment on point 4 either, nobody outside this site knows who I want to be… and thus there is nobody to be supportive. One day I will tell my only real female friend, who is understanding and a great listener… and see if she is a friend at the end of it.
Thanks,
Andrea
P.S. your hair’s lookin’ good!
Hi Pauletta,
These are all excellent points! Thank you for sharing!
Love,
Lucille
Okay here are my own top reasons for being transgender:
1. Dressing up is FUN!!!
Contrary to my ex-girlfriend’s initial beliefs that my dressing up was purely about sex, I questioned her as to why she liked dressing up as much as I do, and part of it was to be attractive to a partner, and part was just to express herself. I agree with that. I want to have fun, and I also want my partner to find me attractive, so dressing up has more than one purpose. When asked why I didn’t just want to dress well as a man, I replied that I didn’t want to look “gay” I wanted to look like a girl! There’s that continuum again.
2. We take care of our bodies, and are aware of it’s needs more than most men who are actively discouraged from being aware of their body’s needs.
3. Testosterone makes things difficult when dealing with children! Since taking hormones I have found it much easier to deal with my daughter’s tears and tantrums, whereas before my nerves would be fried so much more easily. This is especially important now I am single.
4. I am finding relating to other people more easy.
5. People are already treating me more gently, as I would wish, than before. I assume that this is in part due to my new demeanor, but whatever the reason it is most welcome as I have felt difficulty in dealing with the rough and tumble aggression of male interplay all my life.
I think that’s my top five, I am off to the zoo now with my daughter so if I think of more I will post them here. Thanks Lucille 🙂
First and foremost, Lucille… Thank you so much for your vision and your conviction to help this community, you are a kindred soul.
Second…. I have been wearing labels for all my life and find even within this community that when it comes down to it, I’m just a girl at heart who likes everything women like, but so happens to be a military man. Talk about opposite sides of the spectrum. I knew I was different when I was very young, wearing all my sisters cloths and going out whenever I could find the chance. After awhile it became obsessive and I felt the need to reel myself in and be a man, so I joined the military to convince myself that it was just a phase. But like most all of you know the more you try to tame this beast the more the b&^%ch trys to get out. Nicole has had her way in my extremely secretive life, the doing away with “don’t ask, don’t tell” although I am not gay has aloud me to kind of blend into the big picture. My wife is cool with what I do and we play sometimes but mostly I’m on my own when I need a girls day out. This facet that Lucille has brought to the table has done wonders to boost my self confidence as a women and has made it fun again to go to extremes and have fun with who I am. My top ten things I like about being me are:
1. There is nothing like a complete circle and I am sorry for those in this world who only see half the puzzle.
2. It has allowed me to let down my guard with my wife and has pushed our relationship into a depth most people will never know.
3. How the fear of public is overcome by the simple fact that I will never see any of these people again so who cares what they think, then again who cares what anyone thinks, it’s my life and I have the right to be whatever I want.
4. The girls I have met in this community are the type of friends that I want, genuine, sincere, fun, something in common, although some have a lot of drama most are just plain out “out of control” awesome.
5. People like Lucille, who come along and give you a push back in the right direction, thank you so much sweetheart you rock!
6. Playing GI Joe and Barbie is so frickin cool, there is so much fun on both sides of the coin.
7. People that know me call me metrosexual, which is a cool way for me to just laugh off the fact that I just got my nails done.
8. I have been able to experience going to ballet as a girl and playing football as a guy, that one is hard to juggle, but doable.
9. Cloths, cloths, cloths…. I don’t know exactly why most of us have this thing for pantyhose, but I’ll be damned if it doesn’t automaticly transform your though process the minute you put your legs in…. God I love lingerie, yum…. I am a skirts and dresses chic, for as much of a manly man as I have to be at work, when I flip it I am bout the most girly girl, pink foo-foo drinking lady you are likely to meet.
10. Because as a Christian I feel like God has given me a gift to be able to see people in a real way, and connect to “Real LOVE” in a way that has allowed me to love others as I love myself. And if this is a sin I wish more poeple commited it, maybe we wouldn’t be killing each other and treating each other like such shit.
I serve my country proudly fighting for your freedoms and mine, and as much as I would love to be a girl more of the time, my hearts fire is fueled by you knowing that there are people like me outthere, no matter how “off the chain” that will guard your lives and treat them as my own.
XO ladies…. give yourselves a hug, you earned it.
P.S. I didn’t care for the negative posts, please don’t add the Jerry Springer twist to a perfectly put together idea…
Nicole,
Thank u for replying to my post, and for what u said.
U are so lucky to have such a supportive wife, and especially to have a stronger relationship.
U look great, I expect u always pass!
Your hair looks great – can I assume it is not natural (despite it looking so) as u are in the military, and if so where did u get it? Also, you have some cleavage! How do u do this?
Andrea
Hi Nicole,
Thank you so much for sharing – and thank you also for your service to our country.
Love,
Lucille
I enjoying crossdressing because I get to explore my feminine side.It is a great stress reliever.Of course I only do it when I’m alone at home.Crossdressing is great enjoying the best of both worlds male and female.
One benefit I noticed transitioning is more so this year then the last 2 is people treat me with more respect and are allot nicer to me like ladies first kind of a thing holding doers open fore me little things like that and more complements on what I wear to how cute I am plus it mates me more happier with my self to hear that some times being born trans isn’t fun but its the little things that makes living worth it.
That’s so great, Christy. BTW, I just have to comment that you look adorable in this pic!
Ghristy i have been following your transition for years…i have such a crushon you you just get sweeter looking… Laura
Am I a cross dresser, a transexual, a T-Girl wanna-be… or what?
I know I used to fall fully into the cross dresser category – apologies for repetition of previous posts, but my history is as follows:
* For years since around 13-14 I cross-dressed in secret with my mothers clothes, nipping into my parents bedroom (or into the airing cupboard) when they were at the other end of the house and taking what I fancied wearing to my bedroom where I would dress while they had an afternoon nap. Sometimes when I as unwell and they were at work I used to dress up too, and loved the freedom to put dresses, skirts, and blouses on.
* Then when I was in a relationship, that progressed to marriage and then divorce (for unrelated reasons) about 6 years ago I cross dressed in her clothes now and again when she was out and especially when she was away for the weekend.
For the period covered by the above, the objective was only to wear clothes and enjoy the feeling of them and I got a buzz out of it.
But in the last few years I have acquired a wardrobe of my own, and during this period my mental goal seems to have shifted into a completely different direction, with a goal more and more of wanting to be a passable female 100% of the time – in work, with family/friends, and whenever and wherever I go out. Every single day when I go out, particularly to work in my bland male clothes, I observe females around me and wish I could dress in what some of them are wearing; I say “some” because I have no intention to transtion, and then wear a bland pair of black trousers and a bland, shapeless black cotton shirt the whole time.
When I get home and my daughter is not with me, the first thing I do is shed all of my male garments and wear what I really want to (including wig, and also make up and jewellery if I have the time left in the day); I love wearing an above the knee chiffon skirt, hose, and a light blouse in the summer, it feels so natural and free rather than the constricting male clothes, and I love wearing colours with decoration or in nice materials rather than dull male white/grey/black clothes the whole time which make men look so drab and dull.
All the time I underdress (not in fancy, lacy things but pretty polyester knickers), partly as a tiny reflection of where I would like to go in life, but also because of comfort – I hate bulky boxer shorts, Y fronts, etc.
I quite often adopt a femme appearance in my garden; my closest neighbour, who overlooks me, is around 75 metres away so I assume he can’t see exactly what I am wearing, or if it is indeed even me… though sometimes I don’t care if he knows or not, as it would almost seem a relief for someone to know, and hope any reaction is not unduly negative. Occasionally I go out in the car after dark, and love the feeling of being away from home… though sometimes fear being stopped by the police, even though I am doing nothing wrong or illegal.
I love shopping for clothes and shoes, and also like the way my nature is softening and I have more time for others, and make time more for conversation with strangers.
But where does this leave me? Where I am I going? Am I still just merely a cross dresser (like “little Joey” as Christina labels it) or something else?
Many thanks for any replies; wish I had a photo to put up, will sort this out soon I promise.
Andrea
X
P.S. Sorry I wrote so much… perhaps I really am turning into a girl blabbing on and on!!
Girl, I would say to you, please please please don’t try to label what you are, it’s going to make you unhappy in the long run. Listen rather to your soul and let it be filled with whatever it is that feels rights and genuine.
Although I have taken the garden thing a step further like the time I was in college and took a second job as a female, I think you should just take that freedom and understand it is yours…. God Bless
Hi Girls!
I think Lucille is absolutely right; we have the best of both worlds! As a TG woman I have to wear a coat and tie at times (yuk!) but then I come and put on something soft and colorful and my complete mood changes for the better. The next day at work I can wear some subtle femme clothes with some makeup and perfume the day is so much better! We TGirls can go between both worlds, male and female. However, I much prefer the female world! I truly belong there. Thank you Lucille for those fabulous points.
Love
Jocelyn Claire
Jocelyn,
What kind of job do u do where u can work one day dressed in the dull male office clothes and the next day femme clothes with make up and perfume?
Andrea