Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to feel more confident as your female self?
Maybe you didn’t get the chance to learn important feminine skills growing up, like how to do makeup, put together outfits, or understand female friendships. It can feel like you missed out without someone to guide you, like a mother, sister, or friend.
Though you can’t turn back time and have that imaginary big sister to guide you, there’s still a lot you can learn from cisgender women in your everyday life.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 6 valuable lessons you can learn from cis women. Let’s dive in!
Lesson 1: Style and Fashion
Looking to women for fashion inspiration is a fantastic idea. They can give you ideas on how to pick flattering and feminine clothes and accessories.
Pay attention to stylish women who catch your eye and notice what makes them stand out.
What kind of clothes and accessories are they wearing? How casual or formal is their style? Are there specific colors or prints that attract your attention?
These are all valuable lessons that can inspire your own unique style.
Lesson 2: Makeup Techniques
Lots of women have gathered a ton of knowledge and skills in makeup application over the years.
By observing and learning from them, you can get some great ideas on how to use makeup to enhance your own femininity.
The next time you see an attractive woman, whether it’s in public, online, or on TV, pay attention to her makeup.
How much makeup is she wearing? Is her look more natural or dramatic? Is she emphasizing a specific feature, like her eyes or lips?
Lesson 3: Body Language and Gestures
By watching cisgender women’s body language and gestures, you can gain valuable insights into feminine mannerisms and behavior.
Learning how to move, sit, and gesture in a more feminine manner can help you present yourself authentically and confidently.
Pay attention to how women carry themselves. Do they cross their legs or place their hands on their hips? How’s their posture? Are their movements soft and subtle or big and bold?
Lesson 4: Self-Care and Grooming
Having self-care routines, like taking care of your skin, hair, and grooming, can really help you achieve a polished and feminine look.
You can learn a lot from women’s self-care habits and develop routines that enhance your own femininity.
Take a look at the self-care practices of women around you, whether it’s your partner, girlfriend, sister, or mother.
You can also check out women’s blogs and magazines to discover more about skincare, haircare, and other self-care routines that you might want to try out.
Lesson 5: Communication and Emotional Intelligence
Women are often really good at communication and emotional intelligence.
Learning how to express yourself clearly, listen actively, and handle emotions can improve your relationships and help you connect with your own feelings.
Take note of how women interact with others when you’re out in public or watching TV shows or movies. Observe the words they use and their overall manners and demeanor.
Lesson 6: Confidence and Self-Acceptance
Cisgender women have often dealt with societal pressures and expectations, but they’ve learned valuable lessons in embracing their unique qualities and building self-confidence.
You can find inspiration from strong and confident women all around you, whether they’re people you know in real life, public figures, or even fictional characters.
In conclusion
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman looking to embrace your best female self, there’s a lot you can learn from the women around you.
At the same time, I encourage you to hold yourself to a high standard. Some of these women might later look to you as an example of strength and beauty!
Now, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing cisgender women? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille,
I have been studying the mannerisms of women for quite some time now. I find it to be most helpful in teaching me how to present myself as a woman. One of the things that was very noticeable to me was studying the way women walk depending on what they are wearing. A woman in jeans and tennis shoes has an entirely different walk than a woman in a skirt or dress and heels. The same woman in both scenarios has a completely different walk.
You are an inspiration to all of us girls, Lucille. Thanks so much for all you do.
Terry…(or Terri)Lace
Hi Lucille,
You always manage to hit the nail right on the head with regards your advice on ways to help become more feminine and get better looking as a woman and this thread is absolutely spot on. In my opinion watching women is paramount in helping oneself to become more feminine and it is something I do endlessly.
One can unlock all the many subtle secrets of female body language and style and movement from just observing girls. The analytical questions you suggest we think about as we watch women just make me want to get out there and get as good looking as the real girls are.
Fantastic post Lucille!
Claire xx
Thank you, Claire! It’s always so nice to see you here. (And honestly, you have many of the “real girls” beat already!)
Honestly, my significant other & I discuss what we see when out! My S.O. helps me realise that appearing modest and ‘toned-down’ a little is more ‘tasteful’ & ‘classy’. For me that is good advice as an older person (who is in a “girly” pubesent phase). At home, I dress youthfully (and sometimes disgracefully) as that matches my inside true-self. But to dress my age when out is more important, we feel. It is about maturity, style and as other commenters have said it doesn’t attract unwanted attention. Sometimes I see “eye candy” or ‘drop-dead’ gorgeous, super models and I wish/fantasize they could teach me their skills / techniques; other times, I see genetic girls who I could give lessons in style and presentation to. Living in a world of individualities, maybe its best to find our own personal tastes, but be very open to suggestions and positive comments. I always ask my S.O. to be my guardian ‘Angel’..to give recommendations. Mostly, getting to know and follow retail personel advice helps too. Thanks Lucille and contributors for many wise pieces of info!!! Love Jaine.
That’s The First Thing I Did Was Study Woman and Researched Everything
Before I Ever Started Dressing in Public or Around Other People.
Researched Transgenderisum Before I Found Myself…
Hi Girl. Just want to thank you for your tips as always they are right on looking admiring and learning all together thanks a bunch
Have to agree with you on this one, my favourite thing is to go downtown and sit on a street café and observe every passing woman, plus the ones sitting nearby, while enjoying a nice flat white.
It keeps you up to date with all things feminine. Yay
I have enjoyed observing people at night walking on the sidewalk at a distance and figuring out if it is a man or a woman by the way they walk. Men often walk as if to say ” I am strong and tough, leave me alone.” Women walk more gracefully and with more gentle arm motions. They seem to announce that they are just minding their own business, you can appreciate their beauty. but leave them alone.
A little Off topic but still of interest to us. … do a Google search for “men’s leggings” . Wow they are finally happening! Even a company to specialize in them, and I am not talking about athletic ones. I have been switching this winter from my skin tight them jeans to lots of leggings women’s of course. Sometimes tucked into boots usually with a long winter coat. the reason mention now is it is a great way of feeling feminine very often and I do observe women a lot and you will see if you observe women now leggings are the most popular thing to wear.they can the as stealth as you need them to be depending on the color fit material styleor pattern. they also double for yoga and you seen lots of guys wearing tights under shorts for running you can duplicate that look with feminine shorts or masculine shorts.they are great for shoveling snow. You can get them with subtle patterns also. so maybe this post is not really off topic as my constant studying of women reveals that leggings are so popular and probably contributes to my urge to wear them. hopefully if some of you I shy about them the info you will find by doing the Google search will show you ways you can wear them. also great fun 2 with them with your padded girdles.
Hi Lucille,
I’ve been watching Women for years trying to model my self after them. I do go Out all the time enfemm. Most times no one pay any attention to me but from time to time I have a guy walk up to me and ask for my number. I think one of the main reasons i blend in is because I don’t act nervous. The main trick I depend on is have the attitude that I belong and am nothing more then what I present to be. The best way to get away with any thing is to act like you belong and are exactly what you look like
Be well and safe.
Chrissy