Are you a crossdresser or transgender woman who wants to feel more confident as your female self?
Maybe you didn’t get the chance to learn important feminine skills growing up, like how to do makeup, put together outfits, or understand female friendships. It can feel like you missed out without someone to guide you, like a mother, sister, or friend.
Though you can’t turn back time and have that imaginary big sister to guide you, there’s still a lot you can learn from cisgender women in your everyday life.
In this blog post, we’ll explore 6 valuable lessons you can learn from cis women. Let’s dive in!
Lesson 1: Style and Fashion
Looking to women for fashion inspiration is a fantastic idea. They can give you ideas on how to pick flattering and feminine clothes and accessories.
Pay attention to stylish women who catch your eye and notice what makes them stand out.
What kind of clothes and accessories are they wearing? How casual or formal is their style? Are there specific colors or prints that attract your attention?
These are all valuable lessons that can inspire your own unique style.
Lesson 2: Makeup Techniques
Lots of women have gathered a ton of knowledge and skills in makeup application over the years.
By observing and learning from them, you can get some great ideas on how to use makeup to enhance your own femininity.
The next time you see an attractive woman, whether it’s in public, online, or on TV, pay attention to her makeup.
How much makeup is she wearing? Is her look more natural or dramatic? Is she emphasizing a specific feature, like her eyes or lips?
Lesson 3: Body Language and Gestures
By watching cisgender women’s body language and gestures, you can gain valuable insights into feminine mannerisms and behavior.
Learning how to move, sit, and gesture in a more feminine manner can help you present yourself authentically and confidently.
Pay attention to how women carry themselves. Do they cross their legs or place their hands on their hips? How’s their posture? Are their movements soft and subtle or big and bold?
Lesson 4: Self-Care and Grooming
Having self-care routines, like taking care of your skin, hair, and grooming, can really help you achieve a polished and feminine look.
You can learn a lot from women’s self-care habits and develop routines that enhance your own femininity.
Take a look at the self-care practices of women around you, whether it’s your partner, girlfriend, sister, or mother.
You can also check out women’s blogs and magazines to discover more about skincare, haircare, and other self-care routines that you might want to try out.
Lesson 5: Communication and Emotional Intelligence
Women are often really good at communication and emotional intelligence.
Learning how to express yourself clearly, listen actively, and handle emotions can improve your relationships and help you connect with your own feelings.
Take note of how women interact with others when you’re out in public or watching TV shows or movies. Observe the words they use and their overall manners and demeanor.
Lesson 6: Confidence and Self-Acceptance
Cisgender women have often dealt with societal pressures and expectations, but they’ve learned valuable lessons in embracing their unique qualities and building self-confidence.
You can find inspiration from strong and confident women all around you, whether they’re people you know in real life, public figures, or even fictional characters.
In conclusion
If you’re a crossdresser or transgender woman looking to embrace your best female self, there’s a lot you can learn from the women around you.
At the same time, I encourage you to hold yourself to a high standard. Some of these women might later look to you as an example of strength and beauty!
Now, I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts on this topic. What have you learned from observing cisgender women? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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When I’m in drab, I overhear hateful comments from casually dressed (usually pajamas) women about my hair/nails/eyebrows. However, classy women typically compliment me. I have developed a theory that some women dislike tg/cd girls simply because we generally make them look lazy and less than feminine…
I have literally heard a woman berate me for wearing nail polish saying “guys aren’t supposed to polish their nails”. Her nails had ragged edges and all of her nails had chipped polish on them… I just said, “you are jealous that I make you look bad”. She was left speechless! Another woman with a perfect manicure, complimented me on “being so brave with such nice nails”.
This alone makes me happy and proud to be who I am and it gives me the confidence to keep reaching for higher bar…
Over make up should not make us feminine. So according to our facial requirement we should allow our make up. Mostly I prefer least make up.
A positive female image is one where you blend in and not out. I have noticed that it depends on race and age as to how to get away with it. The older the lady normally the better she looks. Black women have a tendency to dress up more and wear heels. Latino women that are middle aged normally have pants or tights, a loose top, and flip flops or sneakers. A lot of white women just wear whatever. My grandma once told me that “a lady never leaves the house without a dress or skirt, heels, and hose”. The glamour has pretty much gone by the wayside and we need to bring it back! Even when I go out without makeup and just wear jeans and a top I’m called “mam”. Yes, I do enjoy that and it sure helps out a lot when shopping. No one has ever asked if I was a male. Guess I’m lucky. Keep it simple, in good taste, and show off your assets. If you have it, flaunt it!
I sure will Barbara, I take this as an invite, what puppy doesn’t like treats!
Meekah.
Great post Barbara, you must also be a people watcher as I am, I always question this too, why has the glamor gone by the wayside? a few minutes out of a busy schedule to apply a bit of makeup, leap into a skirt or dress, shoes and there you have it. This goes for males also, I have seen men shopping in PJ’s!! what is up with that! is this a new trend? not so attractive.
I like being beautiful, happy and enjoy what I have now, you never know, I might come back as a puppy next time.
Meekah P.
If come back as a puppy make sure to come by here for treats!
LOL! *(Who knows? Maybe some of these women will later look to you as an example of ladylike beauty!)
It’s so true! I have numerous girl friends that, because of my influence on them, now love wearing painted nails, skirts, and even the occasional plunging neckline! Women have given me so much over the years, it’s nice to know I can give back!
Nice picture Darlene! You are so right. Women and men influence each other in the ways they dress and act. We have to be better and set examples of how to be glamorous and still be able to drop it down a notch so we don’t “stand out” as a boy in a dress.
Hi, due to my Androgynous nature I have always been a people watcher, I have to deal with male/female feelings, emotions,attitude and self expression so watching men and women has thought me a bunch about how I should behave on either mode, I can’t say that I am impressed with my observation of genders, seems to me that a large percentage of people are not concerned with their behavior, attitude and specifically looks, male or female, not saying they should wear designer clothes but something better than sweats or PJ’s while at a nice restaurant or shopping.
I have to say that trying to learn from observation of the general public is not always a good thing, TV is much better, well dressed classy people, male and fem, nice clothes, nice contours and and a good place to pick up self expression ideas that you could easily blend in with your own mode of operation and yes, always cross your legs when sitting, specially when wearing a 14″ skirt, seen it all.
May God bless all.
Meekah (Myka) Pompanov
Hi
I do try to watch other woman a lot when I am out. I am often disappointed in what I see though. I went to an expensive restaurant in the evening recently. I couldn’t be seated right away so I had to sit near the door and wait for a table. While I was waiting I decided to watch the women that came in with their dates to see what they were wearing. Iwas appauled to see that most of the women were wearing dungerees and sweat shirts!!!! Not designer jeans but the kind of jeans you wear to work in the garden!!! My god!!! I just thought that these women are certainly taking their femininity for granted and missing out on a perfect opportunity to wear something classy or nice looking.
Well anyway, I usually watch and try to imulate what the other women are doing, but sometimes I just have to go on my own judgement of appropriateness and style and do my own thing. Hopefully I might be a good example to some of these women who have forgotten their style and forgotten that they are women.
Heather
I just wonder why women are not crossing there legs any more, is it because they are wearing pants so much that they are forgetting they have a skirt on. This is what I have been seeing even the ones on the news on the TV. I love to cross my long legs and maybe show a little lace but not to show every thing wonder if anyone else see this while watching a women sits down now days.
I knew this long long time ago…Pretty
Smart huh !!!
Love all Rochelle Marie…