Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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From about age 5 up I had plenty of guilt and shame which slowly diminished from age 18 on until I finally became the shameless hussy I am today. lol It only took me 56 years but by 2010 I was mad as Hell and wasn’t going to take it anymore. I no longer cared if anyone liked it or not or if they read me or not and if anyone was fool enough to give me any static about it I would give it right back to them. So I started crossdressing and going out in public about once a month like I used to in the nineties. I was out again as Shirley on March 15th of 2012 when my life turned on a dime, in a heartbeat, suddenly I didn’t want to go back to living as a man. I couldn’t. I wouldn’t. I didn’t and have been living full time as Shirley happier than I’ve ever been since then. Did I have any problems making such a sudden change? Of course I did. I hit the family wall like a crash car knocking heads with my daughter over seeing my two granddaughters, 8 and 12 years old, as Shirley. It took a couple months and the help of a good counselor to resolve the issue. Dealing with the rest of my family and friends turned out pretty good and what little trouble there was was inconsequential.
Do you like music? Suppose it was taboo to listen to music. Would you listen to it in secret? You could stop listening to it but how could you stop liking it? You can’t. Foolish or not, it’s your heart’s desire. Joy comes from being yourself and doing it your way. Express yourself. Be yourself. Everyone else is taken.
I know. Easier said than done. I had lots of good reasons why I couldn’t and shouldn’t jump the gender fence. It wouldn’t be worth the trouble. Yes it was. They’d fire me from my job. No they wouldn’t. I couldn’t get another job. Yes I could. It wouldn’t be good enough. Yes it was. I’m 6’4” and don’t pass well so I’ll get dirty looks and static from people. No I don’t.
Wasn’t it Mark Twain who said it isn’t what you did but what you could have done and didn’t that you’ll regret? I wish I had jumped the gender fence and lived as a woman long ago. So after I started living as Shirley loving every day I remembered the words of Henry Ford and they burned into my brain because I now knew how very true they are,
“Whether you think you can or think you can’t your right!”
By the way I’m transgendered but not transsexual. I’m not doing HRT and have no intention of pursuing SRS. More specifically, referring to the definitions at Wikipedia.org, I’m a bigender or Two-Spirit because I have both a masculine and feminine identity. I’m just much more comfortable in the feminine role. Pass me a magic lamp and with my first wish I’ll have a genetically complete female body faster than you can say Miss America. That and not being TS might sound like a contradiction but it’s not.
Do carry on. Don’t miss the fun.
Shirley
I have very limited experience in truly exploring who I really am. Mostly due to not realizing what was going on with me until late in ife. I think in part because when I was younger, transgender was not just viewed as abnormal, but it wasn’t even dicussed. I had glimpse into my inner truth in my 20s when it made me feel happy when my girlfriend called the soft pastel mens briefs she bought me my panties. It really hit me when as a favor to a friend I let her practice nail care on me for her new job in a Nail Salon. She gave me a manicure and put the clear polish on and I felt wonderful to have pretty nails.
As a “man” in my 50s I have what others would call man boobs. I love having them and how it feels when they brush against my arms. I shaved all of my body hair and loved how it felt to have soft clothes rub against me smooth skin, however, the realization really hit me when I watched a show about Lesbians. I realized as I watched that I wanted to be one of them. I finally admitted to myself my true feelings that inside a woman is screaming to come out. Now I understand why so many women have felt I was their best friend. I have always loved sharing with my women friends.
Sadly I feel it is too late for me. I feel guilty that I let it be an issue and don’t just focus on my work. I also know there would be difficult consequences if I were to transition. It is hard though to see petite 5′ 2″ young women and feel that is how I shoud have been born
It takes all types to make a world. This planet needs crossdressing transgenders (I suspect universal femininity is humanity’s ultimate destiny). And it also needs the guilt-inducing conservatives because their efforts to put us down only end up inspiring us to try harder to reach our destiny. I’ve been fighting conservatism, conformity and traditionalism for more than 40 years. My mind is more into feminization than ever, still seeking to totally and permanently become a woman. But my body is not invincible – and the brutal fact is that society’s obstacles to feminization have placed my life in danger.
First, addressing my need for antiandrogens – in 1994, I had a sudden attack of extremely painful boils in my right ear which caused problems that have persisted to this day. In the last year or two, the blockage in my ear has extended into my right nostril, causing me to wake up at night unable to breathe. I’ve had a lot of medical treatment from doctors, and supplements from health-food shops. All these things have only helped temporarily. The problem seems to come back to my body’s production of testosterone and other male hormones. When I started using antiandrogens a few weeks ago, the problems went away instantly – and they stay away as long as I keep using the anti-androgens. (I use a nasal spray intended for transsexuals, and an antiandrogen cream that I apply to a cotton tip and gently massage into my ear canal.)
As for estrogen – a 2010 article by the American Association for Cancer Research (attached) says “strong data points to a protective role for female hormones against CRC” (CRC is colorectal cancer, the type I’ve got). It also says “we can conclude that estrogens are important in protecting against CRC initiation and progression.” So maybe those transsexual guys who were fortunate enough to feminize when they’re young are protected (to some degree) from “initiation and progression” of CRC. It’s too late for me to avoid “initiation” of colon cancer, but I’m in remarkably good health and can still use estrogen to avoid “progression” of this illness which nearly killed me 5 years ago.
Thw feelings of guilt are necessary deterent against doing wrong, just imagine what would happen if we would not feel guilty. cross dressing or transgender must be basically not normal something is amiss somewhere and just because people say it is ok does not make it correct , It truly leads eventually to homosexuality which by very nature does not propagate the race and the body is not designed for such life style . think more deeply and the more you think the more you will feel guilty because it is really wrong
Hi Smitha
You are correct in saying homosexuality can’t propagate the population. But I’m sorry to say you’re wrong in thinking being CD/TG leads a person to homosexuality. When I am in male mode I only think of sex with females, as most people on this site have started. When I am the inner me (female) I only think of sex with females, so that may make me a lesbian, if so, then so be it. Do you believe getting a hysterectomy or vasectomy is wrong? Is being a Nun or Priest wrong? Both of these questions lead to non-propagation of our species. So how are those right but the other is wrong?
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
Lucille
Thank you so so much for your hypno transformation program. After listening to it I made the decision to make this year the year that I would finally live my own life without fear of being “caught” wearing feminine clothes and makeup. With the support of a neighbor lady and my grown daughter I am now telling all my neighbors that I am transgendered and crossdress to express that. I simply decided that I don’t care what they may think but it was much more important to my own self esteem to show who I really am to all. It all began with the hypno transformation program.
I was always treated as the queer boy in the small town I came from. I prefered to be with the girls. As I got older I realized that sex had little meaning to me. Several years back I had a talk with my mother and told her about me wanting to be more like a girl. She was supportive and told me to go ahead. I started out by just wearing bras, sport bras and panties all the time. This helped me gain confidence in public and at work. I wear more at home than out. I have found that taking small steps and getting used to the changes to be easier to deal with. I am like most males in having a larger belly area so I am slowly loosing the weight. This combined with the fem programs herbs and techniques are making me feel more and more feminine all the time. Trust me if you do this the more belly that comes off the more my breasts show. woo hoo. Just remember all good things take time and it is never to late to start.
I do not feel guilty dressing as a female. I will be going through Gender Reassignment Surgery in September 2013. Since I knew I was not a boy I have never felt any guilt. I will be writing my autobiography after surgery so my life story can help others find hope in achieving their goals. No male who has a desire to dress as a female should feel guilt. Its not a sin. I am a Christian, born again and I do not judge. I do my best to encourage others to face the zealot Christian who is judging them for their feminine desires and tell them that Isaiah Chapter fifty five is an explanation of why no one is an abomination. I’ve been living as a female for over thirteen years. I own no male attire.
I am not nor have I ever been ashamed. Scared, yes, on those first outings, but once I was through that I have held my head high. I consider being transsexual a beautiful gift. To achieve a level of confidence in ourselves, to walk in and show the world my true self and expression, all this took me incredible self reflection, introspection, education and deeply looking into my soul. From this I came to love myself and who I truly am as a person. Tell me how many people go through this kind of deep look at themselves in the rest of the population? Very few I have found and thus I believe I know myself better as a person than the vast majority of others in this world. Thank goodness I am transsexual!!