Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I used to experience a great deal of shame after experimenting with crossdressing as a teen. This was in the 70’s, and still very little understanding and acceptance of it. I completely suppressed myself and desires as a result for over 20 years, till the truth about my identity as female (and not a crossdresser which many are),finally dawned in me consciously. I’ve been living as female ever since (9 years) and started hormones (1 yr) and soon surgery. I was relieved to finally appear as I feel inside, but experienced continued guilt (mainly about family reaction) and experienced unacceptance at times by public.
Things are much better now, largely due to you Lucille, in helping us know there’s nothing wrong with expressing who you really are. Thanks again for all your great work, and this very important survey. Keep it up!
Love,
Marian
Marian u r very inspirational and I truly love reading your article. It’s made me feel more better about myself. Especially how I really feel inside. Thank u so much. Jamie
Do I feel guilty about being a transgendered woman? HECK NO!!!!!!!!
Why should I feel guilty about being who I am? I will admit that when I began my transition (I was a late bloomer, and did not really accept my femininity until nearly 40 )I did experience some trepidation especially when using the “facilities”, but those days are long gone. To quote one of my fave songs “I enjoy being a girl”
I do not feel guilty. I embrace whom I am.
I am not convinced that this conversation should be based on whether we feel guilty or not.
Feelings of guilt usually arise because of other people’s reactions and comments particularly if those people are close relatives.
I have cross dressed for almost 60 years since the death of my father when I was 6 years old. I was brought up in a mining community in UK when there were no machines to help the miners other than the trucks to bring out the coal. It was a tough job and the people were also tough, and most people kept their “softer” sides to themselves.
Over the years I experimented wearing my mothers and sister’s clothes and on occasions I was found out and my mother used to tell me that the “men in white coats” would come and take me away. For those of you who might not understand this basically meant that I would be taken to a mental institution.
My wife tolerates my situation and understands my need to dress however she will not get involved and refuses to see me dressed.
So do I feel guilt, yes but at the fact that I am doing something that my wife cannot come to terms with rather than for the act. I also feel that dressing helps me to relax, it is basically my bolt hole when I am stressed but it is also so much more than that.
I also feel jealousy looking at women wearing their clothes particularly at weddings. Have you noticed that in summer when the sun shines you are most likely to see men wearing shorts and women wearing leggings or denims.
I am also jealous of the opportunities that there are available today for those of us who cross dress or transition, I wish that they had been around when I was in my teens and twenties, how life would have been different for me.
Christina
Hi Andrea,
Not sure if this will work but here is my email address
it will be much better than communicating through this site
chrissyelaine.carlton@gmail.com
Kind regards
Christina
Hi Christina,
Yes, will drop an update with any progress!
Am getting slightly fed up with this blog site (though will continue to use it) because there are quite a lot of girls who don’t bother to reply (even when I’ve replied to them trying to help in some way or asking a question about what they’ve written) and are more interested in just posting their views and leaving it at that; perhaps I have the wrong approach… or my replies aren’t girly enough…? I put three of my own posts in September link, one even asking in capital letters for even just one reply, but nothing.
Anyway, thank you for your continued replies and hope all is well.
Andrea
Hi Andrea,
Sorry this did not work but at least you have contacted her.
There are other sites offering these services just search on cross dressing services in Dublin.
I hope the support group helps you too and if you have not found a dressing service I am sure they can recommend one.
Have fun, and let me know how you get on.
Christina
Hi Christina,
Alas Emma replied that she no longer does a ‘dressing up service’ so I’ll have to look elsewhere.
In October I’m going to try and join a CD/TG support group called the Butterfly Club in/near Belfast, some girls there may be able to help with some info in this respect and maybe other things too. Maybe I’ll even make some new friends too!? I hardly have any friends where I live as most people I knew around here are friends of my ex-wife that I consequently don’t see any longer.
Andrea
Hi Christina,
Thanks for the encouragement, I just took a deep breath… and sent a contact enquiry via her webpage with my email address; would not be able to phone, would likely just bumble on hopelessly whereas in a message I can think what I want to say.
Will let u know of any progress!
Andrea
Hi Andrea,
Just go for it pick up the phone take a deep breath and call, you will be surprised how understanding Emma Farrell will be.
It is a lot easier to phone and if you make an appointment tell her how nervous you are she will help you.
Let me know how you get on, I am sure you will enjoy every minute of it.
Kind regards
Christina
Hi Christina,
Thanks for replying, and for going to the trouble to find the link… which I shall use… someday. She says she helps with wig shopping too, which would be good because I have 3 already and I really can’t decide if any suit me and my squarish face.
I think u have a bit more confidence than I do – I seem to be okay in big department stores (I buy loads of stuff in primark, underwear in m&s, and also the cop-out of tesco and self service check-outs) but smaller stores I bottle out – the other day I went to a Next outlet store where I broused for a while and saw a lovely, sexy, pleated mini-skirt (probably too short for me) and pair of trousers… but I left with nothing. The lady in the shoe shop was kind to u.
U are lucky to have the friend to go out with, I have nobody. I would be afraid to do the restaurant anyway, as am getting nowhere with my voice whereas I presume u are more confident about this…?
My outings beyond the garden gate are in the dark, and only a couple of times I got out of car for more than a minute, and the longest of these was a circuit to walk along the main street of nearest town which was liberating but scary though I don’t think anyone made me… probably as not daylight.
Sorry for late reply, was on my summer hols.
Andrea
Hi Andrea,
I always thought that Dublin was the transgendered capital of Europe.
I have had lessons in make up at 4 different places in UK and I was treated very well. You should try one.
Usually the people who give make up lessons will also offer a dressing service and give you some good advice maybe even take you out shopping.
I have bought female clothes in Next, M@S and Jane Norman and have asked questions of the girls who have served my. sometimes you get some strange looks but you just have to brave it out.
In one shop I went into for some high heel shoes the assistant asked if they were for me, I initially laughed it off but she said she was not bothered and I could try on anything I wanted.
I have been out a few times mainly under cover of darkness but I did go out with a friend in Manchester had a meal and drove back to my hotel dressed.
You should look on the web and maybe check out the following website.
Good luck
Christina
Hi Christina,
Thank u so much for replying & your explanations.
U are right, online shopping helps a lot (especially eBay for pretty much everything from clothes & jewellery to breast forms) and reduces discomfort experiences from paying for a pile of female clothes in a shop when dressed male… though I’ve bought loads of stuff from primark recently and wonder whether assistants starting to think it weird.
I’ve not been to any dressing up or make-up services, would likely be embarrassed (supposing I could find one) and I assume they are expensive. Blog sites such as this are great for advice (thanks Lucille), have u used any UK ones for a UK perspective? Or maybe the whole world is equally prejudiced?
I don’t know about company sensitivity, just read sad stories on this site about girls losing jobs through unacceptance. I work in dublin (live in northern Ireland), looked at my company equality section of hr handbook, no mention of trans sexuality or any other minority… though maybe I should not expect there to be. In UK legislation is there, but doesn’t mean it is followed, also does not mean UK society accepts t-girls either? Also, Irish legislation not as advanced.
Did u go to ur gp? I am too scared to for fear of reaction, but there is a lady gp so maybe I should see her… otherwise my situation will likely never change 🙁
Do u go out en-femme in UK? If so, how do u get on? I have the view that UK prejudices are high – maybe if I could pass I would not worry/fear, but getting next-to-nowhere with my voice and my made-up face isn’t so feminine either – some of the girls on this site look great!
Sorry for huge response and more questions.
Thanks,
Andrea
Hello Andrea
Sorry for the delay in replying.
It is a shame we cannot correspond directly.
By my phrase “opportunities that are available today” I meant that there are now such a lot of on line stores that will supply breast forms and shape ware as well as dressing services and make up advice and lessons. I have been to some of these are the women there are great at helping you.
It is also so much easier to get help from doctors and psychologists should you wish to talk about your feelings.
Websites like this one and other transgendered sites are available for comments and discussions anonymously. None of these were available when I was in my twenties.
Companies are now more sensitive to the transgendered community, although there is still a long way to go,and legislation is now in place to help.
I am not saying that our life is perfect because we are still dealing with prejudices in people and until the people with these phobias come in contact with family and friends that are transgendered they will continue to be aggressive. People tend to be aggressive against things they do not understand.
I hope this helps
Kind regards
Christina
Look forward to a reply Christina, thanks!
Have a great holiday.
Hello AndreaL
I am on holiday this week with limited access to email.
I will reply fully next week when I return
Christina
Christina,
What do u mean by ‘the opportunities available today for those of us that cross dress or transition’? What are these opportunities?
Would love a reply please, I am in the UK too.
Andrea
Lucille,
I am who I am, if people wish to dislike me for being myself, and stay away from me. Hey it is their loss, it isn’t what shows on my outside, but more so importantly who I am on the inside. I am a truly unique and wonderful person, just ask me and I will tell you so. I can’t say that the world will ever fully accept transgendered people like myself. But if they do their history research transgenderism dates back to biblical times. Some great people often times dressed feminine even doing some make up and wigs.
Jessica
Wow, what a great topic. For me, personally, I can’t say that I’ve ever felt ashamed of dressing, or of going out that way. There is of course the natural fear of being attacked, either by monsters who would rather cause pain than try to understand, as well as the very natural and female fear of predators who might want to do things that I don’t. But shame? Nope, not this chick! I am who I am, and my head is held high when I face the world. If anything, I might say that sometimes I’m ashamed when I have to be in boring boy mode…but then again, that’s also quite likely self-hatred for when I have to be that way… 🙂
As you spoke of in this blog, the people around you that keep telling you that you are a freak, that it is something to fix, that it is unacceptably.Have feel that i’m female since i was 6 years old and today at 59 years old ,those are stronger now more then ever.Cost and embarrassment of admitting that you are transgender,and the fact that your job is on the line to be lost. makes life so hard, and some times you think of death as a option. that’s were i’m at
Hi Stephanie
I don’t know when you posted this, I am fairly new to this site March 2017.
I am 59 now, also started feeling gurly at a young age.
I hope your feelings for your option are now gone. We gurls still have a ways to go before we can integrate into society. But we are closer now. I feel like I am chatting across time, LOL. Be well hon.
Much love ❤
Tina D. H.
Thank you Andrea L. your replywas taken to heart
Stephanie,
Never think of death as an option – it means that all those narrow-minded people out there who won’t accept us have won!
Andrea
Hi and thank you. How Timely for me. I publicly came out 2 weeks ago on my Facebook page.
I have been a member of a large international community for 30 years and a very public member at that. I was always confused and ashamed by my behavior which began as dreams when I was pre adolescent. It has only been in the past 2 years that I have turned and faced myself and began to embrace the person who for years i had run from. I began removing all my body hair and have maintained it since then. Since my FB proclamation I have gone everywhere in fem and have met with friends both male and female. For all of my life I was both the prisoner and jail keeper, no one else. It was my fear, shame and confusion that locked me up. My girlfriends all noticed that I was not completely there in our relationship. Today I am so free in my expression of my femininity and I am on my new journey of self discovery and love. Be all that you can be. You are beautiful, share the beauty.. It is a time of Global transformation and it is time to live your life. I am glad that I finally am.