Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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My wife of 27years passed away a couple of years ago, she had discovered my secret 10 years before and did not approve. I tried to stop crossdressing, but couldn’t, so continued to hide it from her.
Since her passing, I am able to crossdress more freely, although I need to hide this from our children (25 & 21 years old).
I have come to understand that crossdressing is a part of me and I shouldn’t feel guilty. However I would be so embarrassed if other family and friends find out that I hide it from them.
I am also fortunate to have met up with someone else who crossdresses, it makes it so much easier to have someone to talk with. If I can make one suggestion to any other girls it is to find someone to talk with.
I definitely feel guilt over my crossdressing. On 3 separate occasions my parents discovered my crossdressing. The first time when I was 16, then when I was 20, and again at 25. I’m now 38. My mom made all discoveries not by catching me in the act, but my carelessness in trying to hide the evidence. After the third discovery, my parents realized that I had to do it & since I was an adult they would not try to stop me. However, they would be happy if it was a hobby I kept to myself. Even with their change of heart, it still makes me feel that if I have to keep it private from them, it means I am still doing something wrong. I have not told any friends and don’t plan to. It makes me sad that I don’t have a person in my life who I feel would accept this side of me. I have joined a few TG/CD forums, but have a hard time keeping up with them.
I do not feel guilty about being transgender as I see it as this is how God made me and many others. But I am sensitive to how others feel and a lot of those that do not like transgender and cross dresser make it known up front and it hurts. So I hide it from a lot of people and that is stressful for me not living the person I am.
Hi Lucille,
I am married with children that are grown and out of the house. My wife found my clothes many years ago and did not approve. It was more the lie, than it was about what I was doing that hurt her most. To her credit, she did not judge but spoke the truth that even though she loved me, this was something she could not live with and if I chose to live that lifestyle, she would remain a very close friend, but not my wife.
The guilt is mine to own, because I am being selfish and not giving her what she thought she signed up for. She wants to be the only girl in the room and for that; I certainly do not fault her. (I can actually relate to that.)
Now here I am at least a decade later, lying to her again. I am wanting to have my cake and eat it too. That’s not fair to her. Thus, the guilt. THX for letting me share.
Boy Angie your beautiful as a blonde too, and your choice of black dresses are amazing.You have to figure out what is fair to you is really the question.The need to express our femme selves are in our make-up for some people set in our D.N.A. from birth and it is not going away.Dee
Another great post Lucille. Like one of the other commentors, I may have voted wrong. I voted yes because I SOMETIMES feel guilty about my trans behavior. I go out as much as married life allows me to do, but the fact that my wife doesn’t approve and I do have to sneak around, and the occasional odd look I get from someone in public, will unfortunately deflate the self-confidence I feel when I initially go out. I am very fortunate in that I have a very good support system of friends who are almost exclusively non-trans who love, respect, and are sometimes even envious when I am Suzy, and I also have people in retail who admire me for my ability to go out as the person I feel I am. If I have my makeup professionally done, I feel I am almost unstoppable, but when I do it myself, it’s a bit hit and miss. So, MOST of the time I am confident and not ashamed. I wish I were stronger and wouldn’t let the occasional snicker or funny look bother me!
Cute Dress, you look lovely in it Suzy
I still feel guilty about not coming out full time.
I have to adopt the male role for my job. Even though I have an office job and could easily wear women’s office clothes, it would be a nightmare because of what I know about my boss and those around him. My wife is an angel about me and really thinks I could get away with it. But I don’t believe her.
In addition, I haven’t been going out much either because I get too nervous. Even though I seem to have it down (with the exception my voice still needs work!), I get really nervous in public.
So, Lucille and all my girlfriends here, today, I feel really guilty about my fear of showing the world “I’m a girl!”.
Guilty no careful yes,for despite the world supposedly being more”enlightened”there is still a lot of vicious cruel ignorance out there.
I do not feel ashamed to be trans*, I live my life open, out and proud about who I am. There are many people who hate me for being honest with myself. I feel no shame in being a strong confidant woman and I know what is important to me, how can I teach my daughter to be happy and to be true to herself if I cannot be the same. to quote Steven Moffat, “I find it bizarre that science fiction is the one branch of television to push the idea of strong female characters. And I only call it bizarre because strong women aren’t fiction”
Verum apud te vivere, aliud nemo aliud vobis erit verum. “Live true to yourself, else nobody else shall be true to you”
Mine is 11, sometimes I make opinions about girls clothes and she says ‘what do you know, you don’t wear a dress’ and of course I am far too afraid to correct her.
You may hopefully have no issues with your daughter who will grow up not knowing u as anyone other than jasmine. I got divorced before my daughter turned 5 and she took it all in her stride at that young age.
my daughter is 20 months old so i haven’t really have not spoken to her about it.
Jasmine,
It is great that u are so confident.
How old is our daughter and how did she take our transition?
Andrea