Do you ever find yourself wondering if it’s okay to crossdress? Do you feel weighed down by society’s judgment and expectations?
Well, it’s time to shed that weight and liberate yourself! Let’s talk about why crossdressing is absolutely okay, and why you should embrace it without any guilt.
1. Self-Expression Matters
As humans, expressing ourselves is a basic core need.
Crossdressing is just one way to showcase your personality, tastes, and preferences through clothing. It’s an ideal outlet for creativity and individuality.
2. Fashion Has No Gender
Who says certain clothes are meant only for specific genders?
Clothes don’t have an inherent gender; they are pieces of fabric that can be enjoyed by anyone. So, wear what makes you feel confident and fabulous!
3. Breaking Free from Gender Norms
Crossdressing challenges outdated gender norms. It’s time to break free from rigid ideas of what’s “appropriate” to wear.
Crossdressing allows you to take a stand against society’s expectations and encourages others to do the same.
4. It’s Not Harmful
Let’s be clear – crossdressing is harmless. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, there’s no reason to feel bad about it.
Feeling guilty about expressing yourself through clothing is unnecessary and unproductive.
In conclusion
Being true to yourself is a beautiful thing, and it sets an example for others to do the same.
So, let go of the guilt, and embrace your fabulous, feminine side!
Now I’d love to hear your thoughts on this topic. Do you ever feel guilty about crossdressing? If you’ve overcome feelings of guilt, how did you do so?
Please take my poll and leave me your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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I live full time as a woman now, all legal papers changes.
I have never felt any guilt in any ways shape or form.
I’m not ashamed at all, I love being the true me. The only regret is not starting sooner. BTW I love how you used Iggy Pop as an image and quote. He is a friend of mine and has been a huge inspiration to me over the years
Because I am not totally guilt free, I had to answer “yes.” I am getting better about it, but I do realize that I am not being honest with myself and others when I don’t portray my feminine side. It’s the double-life question, so I feel a bit of guilt coming from both directions. Those I may be compromising when I do dress makes me feel some guilt, but increasingly, I feel guilt by not being more forthcoming about my true nature.
Absolutely NO guilt whatsoever. Never had guilt and I definitely never will have guilt.
I am a transgender woman, I just ‘discovered’ it too late while i already had gone the traditional path with wife, kids and house, etc. I accepted that and it may keep me from my male to female transition, or not.
I myself always felt okay, great, totally in harmony with my innermost desire to be a woman.
I know that I am a woman, just not with the ‘right’ body, and i can live very comfortable with the two of us,…the woman I know I am and the guy i have to project to the outside world.
Just absolute joy with my life,…living and working as a guy, but truly inside a woman. Always have been and always will be.
Michelle Jeannette
We all share a strand of D. N. A. with the Oak Tree, but we all also have a strand that is ours as an individual that no one else in this world has. We all also have a set of fingerprints that belong to only to us, so that makes us…..each an everyone of us…. UNIQUE!!!!! Your not suppose to be like anyone in this world but yourself. Your the only one who will ever get to live your life so don’t spend it in a lie just because some other people or to busy focused on others people life’s that they miss out on just how unique they are. If you are lieing to your wife ( who is suppose to be your best friend ) then you are having that woman live a lie she has no clue about…. and no one has the rite to embose that on anyone, she should have the rite to choose her life and her believes just like anyone else. Here is something that helped me understand things a little better hope it helps you as well.
self worth
You Are Always 100% Worthy All The Time, Unconditionally.
Self – Worth is the CORE belief that affects your thinking, feeling, and doing. This believe originates back from your childhood and past experiences that teach you what you believe you desire, what you can accomplish and what you should expect.
If you don’t feel your worthy of success, worthy of a deep and meaningful relationship, or worthy of anything you desire…. you’ll find your thoughts and action sabotaging the possibilities.
Also your worth is not based on what someone else thinks, says or does to you.Your worth is not based on there opinion. Your worth is not based on the problems or the success you have in life. Your worth IS- 100% worthy all the time, Unconditionally.
Imagine for a moment you’re in a room full of people. Could you line the up in order from the most worthy to the least worthy? How would you do that? How would you qualify who is most worthy? Even if you did line them up and assumed you were correct, someone else would line them up differently accordingly to what they believed was the most worthy.
Self-Worth is different than self-esteem. Self-esteem is your personal evaluation of yourself based on your actions. You feel good for developing a winning presentation at work, or you feel proud of yourself for who you are what you believe in. Self-Worth exist because you do. Self-esteem changes
I don’t recall if I responded to this before, but I feel I have something to say: I have seen a number of crossdressers at gay bars, etc, all dressed up and looking good, just sitting and blankly staring into space, quiet, not interacting with anyone, answering minimally if at all when addressed. I at first wondered why, because it was so possible to have good times at these places, even without being outrageous.
I gradually realized there were one or two influences at work, maybe both. One, was shame (guilt, shame, whatever…) at what they were doing. Yes, it was necessary, the pressure could not be denied. But they felt like inferior people for being that way, and ashamed of surrendering to their need. The other influence was homophobia. If they were unworthy for being what they were, the others around them must be too, and should be shunned. So they had to dress and come out to a safe place, but it was not joyous as it should have been.
Fortunately, I observed that most of these suffering ladies gradually thawed, lost their fear and reserve, and learned that their companions were also ordinary folks. It just took longer for some than others. A very touching metamorphosis.
So, any who are guilty about being any kind of trans person, you really shouldn’t be; you’re ok, even special. If you are leading a life of deception with those close to you, that may be a different matter, and I only hope that it ultimately resolves itself.
Hugs and best wishes…
Joan
p.s. Another awful source of guilt is when you are out to those close to you, and it’s hurting them, but you can’t change. Sometimes time fixes it, but not always. It’s just something to cope with somehow. If that’s you I hope for the best outcome.
Joan
Dear Lucille,
I am caught in the trap of a hardcore homophobic family, which includes my wife, children, grandchildren and all extended family. To top it off I’m old (70-something)!
If I am ever “outed” my entire world would collapse. It is complex, but virtually everything we own (house, cars, valuables, everything) is in someone else’s name.
The oddity is, my femme persona is relatively new at the behest of a psychiatrist. I make up an alibi to escape, drop into my femme alter-persona for a day or a week, only to control my PTSD depressions and night terrors. As a woman for a while, all that terror goes away for a couple weeks or a month.
Unfortunately, my wife and family would have me hanged on the county court house steps if I am ever uncovered. It is very hard keeping this deep dark secret. I love my macho man life, but need my femme self to remain sane.
Shitty Dilemma,
Ms LMM
Some guilt because I enjoy dressing up. Many things work in my favor. First, i thankfully have a very open minded gf who kinda pushed me over the edge to accept who I am. Second, I was raised to walk to the beat of my own drummer. Lastly living in a very open minded area helps.
To start, I was raised by with only females in the house. So at a young age I wondered what their clothes felt like and dressed up when no one was home. I out grew this and didn’t have another thought of it til a few years ago with a wild night involving alcohol and my gf dressing me in her clothes. Since then we shop the women’s department together with no odd looks. Trying things on sometimes draws looks but have grown to accept close-minded people. It is particularly fun to come out of the changing room and ask them what they think. Evil I know.
I had confidence before then focused on family now divorced I feel confident again but now have some guilt due to having children who are now over 18. Is how thry would feel upon my CD. My culture is eastern from Persia but I am gradually getting confidence even in fron of my two daughters to dress as shown.