Becoming your best female self is more than just your clothes, hair, and makeup. It’s also about how you talk, walk, and carry yourself with confidence.
That’s why I wanted to share some crossdressing / transgender tips that go beyond the basics.
In this blog post, I’ll share 10 dos and don’ts to help make your MTF transformation or transition a success. Let’s dive in!
1. DON’T Compare Yourself to Others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women or crossdressers will only make you miserable.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being your own best female self.
2. DO Find Female Role Models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other transgender or cisgender women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave?
You don’t want to be a copycat, but it can be helpful to incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO Invest in Great Shapewear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so it’s a great idea to invest in quality shapewear. This is even more important than splurging on expensive clothes!
Here are the essential shapewear pieces you may want to own:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher or corset
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T Forget Your Voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While you don’t need to have a perfect voice, working on improving your feminine voice can help you create a more congruent image.
Check out my blog post on Top 12 MTF Voice Training Resources For Your Transgender Voice Transition to learn more.
5. DO Dress Age Appropriately
It’s always a good idea to dress appropriately for your age, but this does NOT mean you have to look boring or frumpy after a certain age.
The key is to choose clothes and accessories that make you look your best – without looking too young or too mature.
To learn more, check out my post on How to Dress Sexy at Any Age: 3 Crossdressing / MTF Fashion Tips.
6. DON’T Overdo It
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your body movements are mistakes that can attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO Get a Second Opinion
Seeing ourselves objectively can be tough. That’s why having a trusted friend for a second opinion is important.
If you don’t have a friend nearby, consider checking out transgender or crossdressing forums, or Facebook groups. They’re great places to ask questions and receive helpful feedback.
And guess what? Our blog has an amazing, supportive community too! Feel free to share your photos or questions below – the lovely ladies here would be happy to provide feedback.
8. DO Seek Support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported.
This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online.
Being supported makes the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO Practice Your Moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine.
Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- Trans / Crossdresser Heels: How to Walk in High Heels (7 Dos and Don’ts)
10. DON’T Forget To Have Fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun!
Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the fabulous woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you liked this article, you will love my FREE Male to Female Transformation Mini Course.
I think it must be hard enough for women to maintain a feminine persona, let alone for women like me. I just keep on taking all the advice I can get as well as the inspirational posts on this site. maybe I should have transitioned earlier but I now feel I have found my true feminine self – thanks to everyone.
Hi Lucille, Thanks for all the great tips. Do you have any tips on wearing jewelry? Ear rings and neckless and so on.
Good advice – just do the best one can and enjoy the journey. Also, go at the pace that is most comfortable for our situation and goals. Don’t need to add any more stress than necessary. I will try to proceed toward my goal in a more pragmatic fashion ( as you mention above ) and basically follow the ‘to do’ list you mentioned to enhance the process toward achieving my feminine goals
Excellent point about going at a pace that feels right for you!
Smile! Smiling gives the appearance of having a higher cheek bone (more feminine), and also works wonders on the people around you.
Fabulous point! And you have a very beautiful smile.
Sarah, you are so right, it often brings a smile in return and equally has that ‘feel good factor’ that is so necessary in our transition. You look gorgeous!
Just looking for thoughts?
OMG. ..the only thought I have looking at you is. ..SIMPLY BEAUTIFUL! !
GIRL, you can Teach the class. I have been dressing over 55 yrs, & know of what I speak. ..Enjoy being You! T.J
Comments on my look. . . Please. .
You look absolutely amazing!
Gorgeous!
Dressing conservatively, and feeling good about yourself, as I’ve learned,
are most important.
Thanks again Lucille!
No. 4, voice work, has been close to my heart: I am a plain woman, tall and boyish, but I want my voice to fit my form and identity, so I have worked hard on it. The voice coaching materials offered by Lucille (via Kathie Perez) have been *so helpful* here. I have transitioned on a shoestring, and these materials have been one of my best investments…
…My voice along with my movement help explain why I do so well with other women when I change in locker rooms and model in fashion shows**.
**Here I am changing into the outfit I modeled at a show recently. 🙂
Need to see what people think on how my look is so far?