So many things go into being a woman… makeup and clothing are just the beginning!
To help you be your best feminine self, here are my top 10 dos and don’ts for your male to female transformation.
1. DON’T compare yourself to others
There’s no winning the comparison game. Comparing yourself to cisgender women or other trans women is a misery-inducing habit.
This isn’t a competition. Instead, focus on being the best version of YOU.
2. DO find female role models
While you shouldn’t compare yourself to other women, it IS a good idea to observe and learn from them.
When you see somebody who looks especially good, observe the details. How does she dress, speak, move, and behave? You don’t need to be a copycat, but incorporate some of these details into your own image.
3. DO invest in great shaping wear
The shape of your body broadcasts your gender, so one of the most important items to invest in is great shapewear. This is even more essential than spending money on expensive clothing!
Depending on your natural shape, you may want to invest in the following:
- Breast forms in an ideal shape/size for your body
- Waist cincher
- Padded panties (with butt and hip padding)
- Control top pantyhose
4. DON’T forget your voice
There’s nothing quite as jarring as a beautifully made up woman with a voice that doesn’t match.
While it’s not essential to have the most perfectly pitched voice, putting some effort into a congruent voice will have a big impact on your image. I recommend EvaF online voice feminization training.
5. DO dress age appropriately
Dressing appropriately for your age is a style must for every woman.
This is NOT to suggest that you have to look boring or frumpy above a certain age. You simply need to choose pieces that reflect the best version of you without looking too young or too old. See my 3 Rules for Dressing Sexy at Any Age for more on this topic.
6. DON’T overdo it
The biggest mistake you can make is overdoing it. This applies to all women!
Wearing too much makeup, dressing too sexily, and over-exaggerating your movements are all no-nos. These big mistakes attract the wrong kind of attention. Instead, think subtle and stylish.
7. DO get a second opinion
It’s hard to see ourselves objectively. That’s why everybody needs a trusted friend for a second opinion. If you don’t have a girlfriend you trust nearby, find a forum or even post your images in the comments section here for an objective opinion on your image.
8. DO seek support
Whether you crossdress in private or live as a woman full time, you deserve to be supported. This could mean a lot of different things – from coming out to a partner, joining a support or peer group, finding a therapist, or just connecting with others online. Either way, being supported make the journey a lot less lonely – and way more fun!
9. DO practice your moves
Your body language and movements communicate more about you than almost anything else. Pay attention to your movements by keeping them fluid and feminine. Check out these articles for more tips:
- 7 Tips for Feminizing Your Body Movements
- How to Walk in Heels: 7 Dos and Don’ts for Crossdressers and Transgender Women
10. DON’T forget to have fun
Whether you’re at home or in public, being a woman is supposed to be fun! Drop the guilt, the comparisons, and the need for perfection and enjoy being the woman that you are!
What are YOUR top dos and don’ts?
Now that you’ve seen my list, what are YOUR top dos and don’ts? Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
transformation tips?
where do i post for opinions on how other see me? tk u
You look like a woman to me but not exactly the most flattering picture in my opinion.
Mmmm, my DOs and DON’Ts?
I don’t use high heels if I know I’m staying too long out of home (unless I’m going to be sat down all the time).
I do use my make up a little heavy, since my beard is still outstanding (which is starting to fade thanks to laser), but just the foundation, and use mots with dusts so it doesn’t look too cakey. In contrast I don’t overdo the colors (lips, eyes, chins).
See if you can get someone who is used to shopping for female attire, preferably a natal woman, who had to learn from ground level. Next best is a drag queen or someone who is a living member of the transgender community. Live amongst the transgenderd. Also, if you not sure if something isn’t age appropriate, ask. 9 out 10 will be honest and tell you, even if you were to go into Forever 21 and are older, because you can find something that might suit you. Also, dress for how you look. Someone, make look young, for their age and only they know. Never, try and do it alone, shopping. You don’t have the experience. Very few can do it at all.
After you found out that you are happy been a girl and Dr say I see your happy been one whether you act like dress like one and look like you have that noted of been accepted by public as female . Even using the washroom you are accepted by other user as female ( they see a female ) this is something I found out by the reports done and at end Drs seen that but last one I went had slamp the in my face over medical over gender issues,”
Excellent advice, especially when it comes to having a role model and to have fun. My role model was female impersonator icon Lavern Cummings, pictured. I was first introduced to Lavern on television when I was a teen. I was amazed that a man could look so pretty as a woman. And after all these years, about 5 years ago, we became friends. Lavern is retired and living in Las Vegas. What a beautiful woman she portrayed when performing at Finocchio’s in San Francisco from the 60s to the 80s. Love, Carollyn
Carollyn O. :
Yes, I too remember Levern, as I was stationed at the Presidio ,S.F. in the 1970s,& went to Finochios.
Beautiful pic. …T.J.
Thanks for the posts. I am doing about half the list but I really have a problem when I go swimming which I really love especially the beach – wigs and beach do not mix and I also have to find swimwear that has pockets for my boobs as I have been swimming and my stick on prosthesis came unstuck one time and the embarrassment was not good at all. The local pool is pretty much the same as I cant wear a cap to cover the wig as they don’t make big enough ones for the volume of the hair piece.
Laurie,
I swim too, at the beach and at the University rec center. My boobs are my own (38C) so never have a problem with them coming off. As I have a wide chest I do sometimes have a problem with them slipping out of a halter bikini top though! Oh yeah, at the beach I am often topless which eliminates both problems.
My hair is my own too, sorta medium-long so I can style it either fem or masculine.
Try normal boobs, the ones you don’t have to glue, and maybe a bikini under your bathingsuit, to keep them in place. As for hair,use a short wig, or your own, cut in feminine style, most women seem bold with a cap on.
Fantastic advice!
Thank you a lot.
Valeria.
Don,t go out in heels when tiered.
Movement can be duplicated easy unless tiered. Natural girls balance from the hips while guys balance from the sholders but when tired the fluidity of movment is lost. And its a give away