If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Oh, well!
I do live as a male on daylight. And lately, I haven’t had much time to dedicate to myself as Becky. What i do, though. I do keep some pics on my cellphone, which is my camera as well. I pierced my ears, and although my earrings are far from being girly, I know why I did it and what they mean. Having my legs shaved permanently is far better from wearing tights and pantyhoses! I’m not much of a cologne/perfume person, but then: girl’s deodorant does the job! Very well!
Although I try not to be very obvious, my thin eyebrows and ear piercings… I guess they tell anyone who suspects!
I’m not too much into the half-way image. Either male or female!
Kisses & blessings to everyone!
Becky
Oh, well. You know what the topic is: stealth girl! I have never really pretended to look feminine on an everyday basis. I like more the idea of making a twist and get a total transformation. Most of the “permanent” changes I’ve done, have been mostly to look better while dressed up. But never to try to look girly the whole time!
What I do enjoy, is scents, as I already stated, shaved legs (and going after laser!). I have gone out with women’s AE jeans, but in a rather hippie & casual look. I’d say I’m more into transformation!
I don’t like to be in the middle. Either completely guy or completely girl!
OMG Becky,
You’ll have to shave your eyebrows off and wear 2 inch hoops for earrings before anyone will notice. The vast majority are practically oblivious to details such as that. The very few who do notice are quite likely to make assumptions for you like, “Oh. He must like to keep his eyebrows neat and trim like that.” Click on my picture of me as Gordon and you’ll see my medium length hair, double pierced ears with diamond studs and gold earrings, trimmed eyebrows, no beard or arm hair and acrylics nails with red polish. I wore stuff like that for years in public and at work and the only thing anyone ever remarked about was the nails which are obvious but most people didn’t even notice that. The rest went unobserved or assumed to be normal for me. Finally throw in the fact that 99.9% of the American public aren’t the least bit concerned about men who like girly stuff you just might be a little safer than you currently believe.
I hope that makes feel safer and better.
Shirley
I would like to say that for years i have either worn panties or pantyhose/tights and that i do not own any male undies. To let others know I have also went out with ladies boots on. That was the hard part. NO ONE said anything. So now i have bought a pair of shapeups and i am going to start walking alot how ever the shoes do look female but i don’t care about what others think any more. I’m going to be me.
That is so well put. I too feel that I am going to be me, if nobody likes it, thats their problem. I love showing my girly side. It gets kind of interesting for me(I drive truck for a living) but I have got a few good comments from those who have noticed
Hello everyone,
I am a 24 year old female who has helped many friends become the person they really are thanks to my female teaching influence. My friends are the ones tht have helped me progress to do the career I do today. I have made friends along the way and have helped people through their journey. One of my success stories – I have helped a friend who had no confidence in his life as Jason and after the influence I have had he now runs a cabret bar in Gran Canaria where he can be the person he always has been – Tammy. I offer – ‘personal shopping’ experience, make up tips… teaching my transvestite friends to walk like a lady and do the little things that may seem daunting like ‘eyeliner applications’ nail polish applications..Underwear shopping and even providing bra implants! Once you feel ready I will take you to the places you fear you would not settle in. Whilst my expertise is often the guideline, I do WHATEVER you feel would help to make your new ‘lifestyle’ what you want it to be. I know this is not for everyone but if you do have an interest or need any help or advice please feel free to e-mail me your interest and we can discuss further. Many Thanks. L x
Dear L,
You are a gem. It’s wonderful to know there are such caring people like you and who would know if it was not for the internet. I have been cross-dressing for many years and started going out a la femme shopping and clubbing five years ago. However, I am presently living in the United Arab Emirates, where it is an arrestable offense if done in public places. To get round that I have two lovely ladies visiting me in my apartment regularly; one is a manicurist and the other a beautician. Of course, I pay them well, but we have become very good friends. It is an opportunity to discuss Lucille’s feminization program with interested listeners. Where are you located; I would love to meet you if that were possible sometime.
Hi, I am a 42 year old transexual who hopes to go all the way some day with sex change surgery and the whole bit.Right now though, due to financial reasons I am just dressing off and on.I do feel i need assistance with my makeup and walking as a lady, especially in heels.Also other things like sitting like a lady. Hope to hear from you Sincerely,Brianna
Hi L x,
Im not sure where you are exactly , but i would love to chat with you . I have been just getting into all this girl stuff and love it, it has been a big curiosity , for years, and i should have started going full bore along time ago ! but any way would love to chat
hugs Stephanni
I’m not sure if I truly pass however that dosn’t really matter. I live my life as a woman and have for many years. I own nothing male. I’ve had GRS a few years ago. I still need a few adjustments. There is nothing better than living ones live as is was meant to be.
I really got to think back really hard to remember the last time I was in male mode. Its been 15 years plus since I went full time as female, the day I went full time I donated all my male clothing to charity and have never looked back.The only regret that I have is that I didn’t start my transition much earlier back in my 20’s instead of when I was in my 30’s
I’m not going to say it was easy as it wasn’t, I will say its something that you truly have to want deep down inside you
Fabulous Article Lucille..! I tend to wear Lingerie (or nothing) to feel EnFemme 24-7… Always polished and proper nails…but keep them short for employment and neatness… my “Gurly” side has become stronger recently with an outward appearance of Trimmed (and penciled) Eyebrows, Light Lipgloss, a touch of make-up, and a natural “A/B” cup (still developing). To me nothing feels better than to sit in my scented tub and shave my legs with soft music and candelight… getting ready for the week ahead… Wishing all of my Sisters Love and Happiness… Huggs…Marsha
your suggesation is really acceptable
Personally I feel that it is important for most of us morphological males to somehow take one’s attention away from the relative large size of our chests and broad shoulders by NOT wearing bright colors on our upper bodies and wearing flaring out skirts or dresses. This is certainly true in my case even though I have many fine features as well.
I don’t know about my passability but I am assured of my good looks and use the Women’s Room when the need arises. I still have a fine head of hair and beautiful fingernails and toenails. I don’t work and do not have to but have Asperger’s I think although it has never been confirmed. I feel uncomfortable around a large number of persons in enclosed spaces and also miss certain non-verbal clues which has kept me alienated over the decades. I have long since only worn women’s clothes and prefer a woman’s perfume too. I feel that I am rather lost in this life but with much therapy and help I am learning to enjoy her anyway.