If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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This really works for me! Take a small zip plastic bag {the extra button bag that comes with new skirts and blouses are ideal}. Put a small amount of cotton in the bag, then add perfume. I inhale deeply and let the fragrances work their magic. When in male mode I do this in my private moments at work and while driving.
Lucille, you and this site are just wonderful–Thank You.
Hi Lucille,
Like lots of others I wear panties all the time except doctors or hospital
Appointments. I have a large and varied collection some are very pretty
Others like sloggi are more robust for everyday wear.
I also clear varnish my nails, these have been noticed by lady friends
But no one has criticised me or said anything bad.
Love your blogs and all the very helpful advice. xxx
I want to be a woman so bad …im 37 and paint my toe nails . I also massage my breasts daily in hopes of growth. …i feel her inside of me ….tring to get out..
I keep my toe nails painted at all times so when I wake up in the morning it is one of the first things I see and reminds me of what I am.
Hello Lorreta , First I want to let you know have an ear piecing appt. for march 21st at the salon wearing a grey Versace sweater dress with tan pantyhose and black flats with a flower top at the toe.I am so excited it took a long time to get myself to get to this and it is coming fast have to do my toes and nails appt. is at noon.Mandy
hi there
i been in the progress of becoming a woman.
its been a year in transwoman progress
i have wear bright colors shirts and shorts and different colors of underwear and socks and red watch.
i already have full feminine traits in personality, siting with legs cross doing lots of female poses in bed.
talking female hormone pills and eat lots of estrogen and progesturone foods and drink a lot of soy milk, honey green tea, and promgrant juice.
over the next two years going though body changing month to month.
hope to stay in touch with my progress that i am going though.
from ethan of tahoe vista,ca of north lake tahoe and owner of anderson cards and gifts.
My male and female sides share pretty much everything. I keep my fingernails well manicured and wear clear polish. I also keep my eyebrows well groomed. My hair is approx. shoulder blade length with sweeping bangs and blond highlights. I wear bra and panties daily (don’t even own mens underwear) and quite often wear pantyhose or stockings with garter or just thigh highs. With all that I do to stay feminine on a daily basis and work in a mostly male profession, I have only had one negative comment about my eyebrows (which was by a man), most women say they love my eyebrows. Although my ears are pierced, I don’t normally wear earrings in male mode. I get called Miss or Mam often enough without earrings. I also go all out on keeping a very clean complexion, which includes no beard stubble.
All of this is just in preparation for going full time. Good luck to everyone in finding your own way of dealing with both sides of transition. Its all hard work, but well worth the efforts!!!
I no longer own any male under clothes, I have a pair of ladies boots that look neutral as long as my pants cuff stays below the buckle, I wear a bra or pantyhose to work on occaision, I use women’s deodorant like secret and light feminine body sprays with lavender or other floral scents. I do have a picture of me en femme which reminds me of my mom. As soon as I get home I shred the male identity and put on a house dress, skirt, or girly jeans.
Loretta,
The one time I shaved my beard and went totally enfemme I was surprised to see my mother looking back at me in the mirror. That was the only week I went out in daylight dressed and it was soooo exhilarating! Now if my wife would only go away for another week…
Hugs & smiles,
Jenny D