If you’re like many of my transgender or crossdressing readers, you might not be able to present yourself as a woman each day.
That doesn’t mean you have to lose your female side when it’s time to put on the pants!
In this post, I share 5 ways to stay in touch with your femininity – even in male mode.
1. Wear Women’s Underwear
Let’s start with the most obvious tip, shall we? Wearing women’s underwear underneath your male clothing is the easiest way to connect with your feminine self on a daily basis.
Aside from that, women’s panties tend to be more comfortable than men’s boxers or briefs. Plus, they come in loads of cute and sexy styles to add some secret pizazz to your outfit.
2. Try Stealth Crossdressing
Wearing lingerie under your clothes is a classic, but why stop there? Sneaking a piece of women’s clothing into your daily outfit is a great way to feel girly.
A lot of women’s clothing can pass for unisex, so try wearing women’s:
- Basic tees
- Button-down shirts
- Jeans and pants
Don’t forget about accessories! You could also play with wearing women’s boots or using a tote bag as a laptop bag or briefcase.
3. Apply Incognito Makeup
There are lots of ways to incorporate makeup into your daily look, even when presenting as a male. Here are 4 must-have makeup items:
- Concealer or foundation – Apply a thin layer to cover under eye circles or blemishes.
- Setting powder – Apply to shiny spots on your face, like the nose or forehead.
- Clear mascara – Use it to make your eyelashes look subtly longer and fuller.
- Uncolored lipstick – Instead of boring Chapstick, care for your lips with a clear lipstick.
4. Use the Power of Scent
Scents have a powerful effect on your brain chemistry and mood, so this is a great way to connect with your feminine side.
Wear women’s perfume instead of cologne. Musky fragrances are the most unisex, so you can wear them without anybody knowing your secret. (Check out my article on perfume to learn more about choosing the right scent.)
Another option is to burn a scented candle with a feminine fragrance in your home or office.
5. Keep Reminders of Your Female Self
Another tip is to surround yourself with reminders of the woman within.
One way to do this is through photos. Keep photos of your femme self on your phone, in your wallet, or even framed and hung up so you can see them often.
You could also carry around items personalized with your feminine name, such as a necklace, keychain, or coffee mug.
6. Try Feminizing Hypnosis
Hypnosis is a powerful way to increase confidence, reprogram habits and behaviors, and improve the way you express yourself as a woman.
Best of all, it’s the ultimate mental escape – allowing you to connect with you female self regardless of your current situation.
Try it for yourself by signing up for my free Unleash Your Inner Woman hypnosis mini-session here.
How do YOU stay connected?
In an ideal world, you’d be free to present yourself as a woman whenever and wherever you wanted. Until then, I hope this gives you ideas for expressing your female side anytime you want!
How do YOU stay connected to your feminine self? I’d love to know, so please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hi Lucille. I wear my girly underwear 100 percent of the time. I have to, I got rid of all my male underwear more than 5 years ago. If you’re careful there isn’t any reason not to wear your pretties. I’ve done all sorts of jobs from truck driving to management and no one has known. Now that makes you feel good.
Hi Lucille;
Yes, I am one of the lucky ones and where I found the strength and courage in the beginning I don’t know. I have been a full-time lady for almost 2 years now and I am hoping to be signed off for my SRS this September.
Walking like you are on the “catwalk” is definitely the best way to train your hips to move properly and after a few months, it gets to be second nature.
As for my appearance, most of the time, unless I tell them. very few people ever see me as having been a man. I work on my voice continually and rarely ever go out without make-up. I live in 3″ or higher heels permanently because even my doctor’s don’t know why it is working. I have a spinal problem that will eventually put me into a wheelchair but walking in heels has taken away all of my pain and allowed me to put away my cane for now. I know this is not a complete cure but for now, I am going to live it!
I love a lot of your information and I hope that you will always help out the new girls out there.
My love to you
I wear panties sometimes but I find it distracting because they make me horny. This is fun sometimes of course. If I keep wearing them will I get more used to them.
Hi Girls, I stay connected with my female side by always wearing nail poilsh on my toes (usually clear by Avon). I also wear a bra at home and when I go out I wear panties and usually clear nail polish. You all are right, no one cares, and I have never had a negative comment. Thanks for the advice about purfume and unisex clothes. Thank you Lucille for all of your help.
Ric
I’m not even sure I have any ‘male’ underwear left in the house anymore; Once I’d taken the descision, it seemed silly to even keep any of my old male underwear. Useually I do (when out of the house), wear jeans, shirt etc., over the bra and panties, and stockings if I’ve got them on (useually only wear stockings when its cold enough). Its obvious some people notice; my bra is often slightly visible depending what colour it is, and what colour/how thick the shirt over it, but really, I don’t mind, and quite like it in some ways. Simularly I can’t think the last time I had any male deoderant or aftershave etc., in the house, its been womans perfume, sprays etc., all the way, and scent for me is just as important as what I’m wearing, I ‘feel’ female’ when I ‘smell’ female… if that makes sense.
Then I get home, and of course can dress even more freely; Other things I find good to help reinforce my femaninity include when I bath; luxurious bath foams, again the scent is so important, candles, etc… I can sink back in the bath, close my eyes, and its almost a shock when I open them again to look down at myself as I’ve drifted so far off into my ‘female’ persona at that point…
Good article, keep it up!
Wearing compression stockings and woman spandex long underwear today w/jeans – feels good!! I also sprayed on some channel (got some in my eye) thanks for the reminder, Lucille. You are beautiful woman.
First off Lucille you have been a Godsend. I wear my bra and panties EVERYDAY! Some days I will wear pantyhose.i buy feminine style work shoes from Payless.i use use Dove deodorant and the body sprays that match. I also use a lot of lotions and body sprays from Bath and Body. Those excite my feminine senses and make me feel really girlie;D. Alot of my work shirts and pants are bought in the womens section and noone has noticed the difference and I LOVE IT! Thank you Lucille..love everything feminine, GenaRaquel
Dear Lucille,
I so love receiving your help each week. Please continue to provide it
Love and Hugs
Allen