The way you move is a huge part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel you feel a little lacking in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements.
In a previous article, I explained how to walk like a woman. Now let’s talk about how to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine.
Here are my top 7 tips for feminizing your body movements:
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I know you’ve probably heard from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in – especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be conscious of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
Why elbows in? Because it’s easy to be clumsy when your limbs are spread out all over the place. Keeping your elbows close to your body will instantly make your gestures more graceful.
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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You are a sweetheart and I think you got a wonderful site. I just wish I had enough nerve to just come out. I just enjoy being dressed up like a woman.when I was young I always love to put on my sister clothes.But nobody knew that I was doing that. I just feel so good with them on. I just keep everything to myself.
Thank you for the advice. This is an area that always concerns me. I also like to follow the examples of women around me in shops — their body language and simple gestures, including how they reach for shelf products. But how would we know if we’re overdoing it — acting like some kind of caricature, instead of naturally female?
Thank you for the hints and reminders. Yes practice is so very important. This year has been a year of working from home, occasional trips to the grocery store and Lots of Time to practice on “carrying”myself. I will admit many female attributes have become more natural. While grocery shopping bending with legs together and at the knees comes as automatic. I will plug Eva Voice app also. What a difference that has made. My voice is much more natural and the breathing and talking slower with purpose just feels right. It is the whole picture and movements, gestures, smiling and speaking are all important aspects. Once these elements become more natural and without thinking about them the true woman emerges. Thank you Lucille for all you offer us. You have made this journey fun and so much more. Lia
My whole thing is I appreciate all these tips. But for me, I just try to emulate the normal women I see every day. I do my best to just try to blend in. I am always treated as a lady where ever I go. I love it! I’m trans women now in my made seventies. It just gets easier. Here I am at the mall about a month ago. Hugs, Suzy
Suzy Q…. You always have the Moves!
We are out and about for Lunch in WA State…great weather!
Hi Dr. T.J.! Always good to hear from you girl! You always look like the classic woman out and about! These are crazy times with the Covid stuff going on, huh? But it doesn’t really deter me at all in my ventures going out. Just have to wear a mask! No biggie. Here I am out shopping as usual! Hugs, Suzy
Tip 8: FEEL feminine.
This all gets easier the more confidence you feel in your own femininity. When i am with friends who accept me for who i am, and whom i can mutually find the joy of life with, i naturally feel more “girly” and there is naturally a more flowing quality to my movements without even trying.
I am really, really sad to say this because my wife and i have a son, but one can ask “what makes movements stereotypically masculine” and i have to admit that i think the answer is a sense of defensiveness that comes from the denial of society to accept the emotional side of men. So in that sense, there is no “natural” masculine style of movement: it’s mainly a front.
I so, so hope our darling son is not afflicted by this as he grows. He’s a sweet, warm soul who is both very thrilled to be a boy – he talks a great deal with me about my transition and wants to get into my head to understand me and i likewise can see very clearly into him through the insight his questions bring. I think he’ll be OK. The millenials i think are finally beginning to “get it”: they are much kinder and opener than my generation. But i fret nonetheless.
You’ve described my experience. I agree with you. Though Hollywood has played a major role when it comes to promoting stereotypes, stigmas, role models, discrimination, stoking fears and glorifying violence. For most people, they are influenced by this everyday. Very seldom, if ever, would you see a transgendered person portrayed as someone with integrity and morals rather than being flamboyant and outrageous.
I really feel for anybody whose experience is described by what i said above – Big Hugs – I hope life is OK now. I hope the next generation of gender diverse children fares better – i do have some hope here as i think that generations after mine are decidedly kinder than we were and the millenials are truly remarkable. And notwithstanding all the trauma, i also hear more and more stories of young gender diverse people surrounded by love and acceptance from those close to them.
Selena, I agree. I think Hollywood’s portrayal of the ultimate image has set a false standard of what a man or a woman should be, resulting in people trying to attain to the ultra feminine or ultra masculine facades. I think that if people could be less judgmental of one another and enjoy the variety that life has to offer, we’d all be happier just being who we are.
Amen to that, Morgan. Actually i think it’s waaay deeper than Hollywood. To question gender really pushes the limits of society’s tolerance. Reddit trans subs where i spend some time are utterly drenched in the trauma of teens and young adults who’ve found themselves forsaken and even abused by those around them, including the people who brought them into the world, simply for trying to be who they really are underneath, be it trans, nonbinary or even just a little more fluid and relaxed in their gender expression. It’s just scandalous and heartbreaking beyond description. All they ask is to be seen as they are. And yet we build societies where that humble little need is just too much.
Absolutely Morgan , well said and may I add looking good as always .
Sitting down, standing up, gesturing, greeting others, table manners ~ getting into and out of a car
*Everybody should have a little Lucille in them ~ You are very beautiful!
Stepping out secrets, shshsh –
All your life, seeing and observing, absorbing, accessories, hair, mannerisms, make up, gestures they are all inside you now! – all of the attractive ways and what we love to talk about!
It is the confident you in us, Lucille
“I will step out with Beauty, Courage and Strength when I hear my name called!”
What a beatiful girl!
Thx for these tips. Going out on the town making these changes is probably crucial. Practice is good. I do that and it took some effort to slow down, take smaller steps, keep the elbows in, be more graceful, quiet the voice, etc. All good.
I’m really good with the knees and elbows. I try to avoid the fidgeting whenever I notice it, but that’s something that has always been an issue for me. And I have always been a fast walker (even by men’s standards). As I’ve aged, I’ve slowed down a bit, but pretty much just down to a normal man’s speed.