If you want to learn how to feminize yourself, mastering your movements is a big part of your feminine image.
But what if you feel like you could use a little help in the “grace” department?
The good news is that there are some simple techniques for feminizing your body movements, whether you are a crossdresser or a transgender woman.
In this blog post, I’ll share 7 simple tips to make your gestures and overall deportment more graceful and feminine. Let’s get started!
1. Slow Down
It’s common to speed up your movements when you feel nervous or self-conscious. This can make you appear jerky and clumsy.
To look more poised, avoid rushed movements. Every move you make should be deliberate and precise. Take your time as you sit down, stand up, gesture, and reach for things.
2. Keep Your Knees Together And Your Elbows In
I’m sure you’ve heard this from Day 1, but it’s easy to let old habits slip in, especially if you spend most of your time in “guy mode.” That’s why it’s important to be mindful of keeping your knees together and your elbows in.
When you keep your knees together, you’ll exude that ladylike elegance, especially when sitting.
Why elbows in? Well, when your limbs are spread out all over the place, it’s easy to be clumsy. So, by keeping your elbows close to your body, you’ll instantly make your gestures more graceful. Simple as that!
3. Stretch Out
It’s impossible to move gracefully if you have a tense and tight body. That’s one reason why dancers spend so much time stretching.
You too should make stretching part of your normal routine – particularly before you present yourself as a woman. Here’s a 10 minute full-body stretching routine you can try:
4. Don’t Fidget
Fidgeting makes you look awkward and insecure, so avoid nervous movements like:
- Twirling your hair
- Biting your nails
- Shaking your leg
- Tapping your fingers
- Compulsively checking your phone
Instead, practice the art of graceful stillness! You will look confident and in control of yourself.
By the way, fidgeting isn’t the only body language mistake to avoid. See my post on 27 MTF Body Language Mistakes to Avoid for a Flawless Feminine Image to learn more.
5. Study Graceful Women
There’s a lot to be learned from studying poised, elegant women. Pay attention to the way they move and carry themselves in public.
See the video below for a fabulous example of the ever-graceful Marilyn Monroe. Notice how elegantly she sits and stands, how deliberate her gestures are, and how she never fails to keep her knees together.
6. Take Dance Classes
If you’re really serious about becoming a graceful, elegant woman, then I highly recommend taking dance classes. The grace and coordination you’ll learn through dancing will carry over into your day-to-day life.
Any type of dance class is helpful, be it belly dance, salsa, or ballet. If you’re shy about showing up for instruction en femme, take salsa classes in “male mode.” You’ll still get some awesome hip movement training!
7. Practice
Finally, remember that being graceful takes practice. I recommend practicing your movements and gestures in front of a mirror. Or, better yet, record a video of yourself so you can evaluate your movements objectively.
Here are some specific movements to practice:
- Sitting down
- Standing up
- Gesturing as you speak
- Greeting other people with a hand shake or air kiss
- Table manners
- Getting into and out of a car
What do your movements say about you?
You might not be able to change your height or the overall shape of your body, but the good news is that you have a lot of control over your body movements.
Use these 7 tips to become a more graceful, elegant woman!
Now I’d love to hear from YOU on this topic.
Do you struggle with your body movements or are you naturally graceful? Do you have any other feminine movement tips you can share with us?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. If you found these tips helpful, I have even more I’d LOVE to share with you!
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My greatest fear is appearing “camp”. Waving my arms around too much and so on. Too many exaggerated movements because I’m thinking too much about it.
My fav pieces of advice are Play to a camera and You are always “on show”.
Lisa
I have been dressing up and going out in public for a year now.My favereite is shopping,I love to try on some new skirts in the store or shoes,I went in a food store yesturday as I walked up to the front door a young girl said to me you look beautiful,I almost peed my painties,I said to her thank you with a pretty smile an walked in.That girl made my day.I am so happy she said that.Now I am having trouble with small store in town,They are making fun of me.Should I find a new store or Ignore them?I just want to have fun.
Without a greater understanding of the situation, all I can say is it may depend on how thick your skin is. If you can safely still drop in at times, and try to be friendly and gracious, you may eventually win them over. But if it’s really hopeless, life is short; go somewhere else.
Sandra :
Loved your comments. ..”peed your panties “, laughed out loud!
I love getting compliments, as in. ..” girl, you are Rock ‘n that dress !”
Nothing better than people calling you “Mam “. Love hearing. ..”thank you sweetie ” from waitress /waiters.
Follow all the 7 items, all the time, every time you are Femme. Yes, it can be hard to switch if in male drag ( no pun intended ).
Enjoy being You! T.J.
Hi Sandra,
This isn’t very lady-like, but screw the small store.
If your goal is to have fun, go to the places where they welcome you, or where you feel comfortable.
If you really like the small store because it carries items you like a lot, maybe they have an online catalogue. You can still shop there, you’d just be doing it online.
Otherwise, go to the places where you’re most comfortable.
Kisses,
Vanessa
Thank you for the reply and the kisses
Find a new store! There are a lot of merchants who value their customers and sales is what makes it. Can’t afford to be rude or unkind.
Keep looking and feeling pretty! jackie
Sandra
I know of what you say when going into stores and purchasing something. It frustrates me to no end when the clerk responds with “Thank you sir” as if they take great personnal satisfaction in having read me. I have corrected some by saying “I prefer Ms or Maam. I’m in transition” and I always get a “Sorry” reply. The next time that happens I will ask to speak to the manager about whether they want my business in their establishment. I don’t want to make a big scene aboutit but I think we deserve proper respect. Anyone else have a solution?
Dana
Dana,
I have experienced this a few times. I consider this completely unacceptable. I had never really specifically thought of it as you describe: that they get a thrill from having read us. In my case, they lose my business or at a restaurant, my tip. I had a waitress who said this as I handed her a very generous tip, so I wrote her a scathing note as I was leaving. This is completely disrespectful treatment.
Once again excellent advice. I do have one problem tho. Being 6′ 2″ It is difficult to sit and stand gracefully when wearing heels, especially when the furniture is low setting.
This is an area that I have so much trouble with. Moving slow is easy enough, though. LOL
Lucille; I know that you cannot promote websites, but here are a few ‘directions’ for your gurls…Alloy Apparel has lots of cute things for tall girls. Glamour Boutique has great prices on corsets, breast forms, and wigs, and discount stripper is a great place to pick up those ‘special things’ including shoes in extended sizes. I love to wear tight skirts and leggings/jeggings with heels and these places are great for accessorizing. BTW if ya’ll are ever in the Dallas area, go to La Vida at the Irving mall…GREAT prices and really cute and sexy stuff if you have time to ‘run the racks’! Kisses always and good luck, Anita!
Anita,
Thanks for posting aand letting us know about La Vida, a for places in Dallas to shop..any other great places in the area please let us know. (enjoyed the links you mentioned as well)!
I suppose one has to practice these tips a lot so these movements become more instinctual without a lot of forethought. Things can happen pretty fast in the real world and movements should appear relaxed and natural. Need to avoid unwanted attention, that’s for sure!
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Lucille, I hope you have a good laugh at this!
But your pointer about not plonking or plopping into a seat or
chair gets a bit hard when you’re past 60 and your legs aren’t the best from a road accident, even male mode I try to sit down
gently, the few inches from the seat-your butt suddenly becomes concrete and your butt hits the seat > boom !.
Is anyone else likes this?.
Hi, Laurie
I’m in that same category, but so far I can keep a minimum of grace when sitting; it aint easy. But people don’t expect as much from overweight old gals, so there is a little slack allowed, tempting to give in, but don’t.