Stepping out publicly as a woman is a powerful way to validate your female self.
In fact, I recently published a poll asking “How often do you go out in public as a woman?”
I was happy to see that the majority of my readers (transgender women and crossdressers) go out at least occasionally.
No matter how often you do it, I’m sure you can remember your first time presenting as a woman or crossdressing in public.
Since this is such an important gender-affirming step, I’d love to hear about it!
When was it? Where did you go? And what was your experience?
Please share with us in the comments below!
And if you’ve never been en femme in public, I’m sure you’ll find lots of inspiration in these stories.
As always, thank you for reading and participating!
Love,
Lucille
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My first time out was many years ago when I used to take the chance to put any clothes on that were to hand. Then I would walk around the local park but walk quickly away if anybody got too close. Now a few years on I can afford a large wardrobe and when I go out I make sure I have nice matching but not extreme clothes, nice make up and nice wig. I now go out as regularly as I can but haven’t ventured into shops yet. I have been picked up by guys on a couple of occasions and made out in their cars and even had oral sex with them. I suppose thats image reinforcement for you. Afterwards I could meet anyone and not be nervous.
“Sheryl”…Sweetie…I Love Having Oral Whit Men When I Am Dressed As A Woman !!!
The first time I went out cross dressing I went with no makeup. I drove to Walmart and on the way in someone told me I was looking good. I was impressed that I passed that well without makeup. Will be doing it again.
I never actually took a photo of myself. But most of the time I consider myself conservative dresser. Most the time jeans and shirt every day. I wear a bra if i feel like it. Though the 1st time I meet a john( for the lack of a better word). I was wearing a matching set. Nice pink plumper lipstick, some perfume. Had my wig fixed up. It was fun. But the actually the frist time I walked into a store too purchase a set of clothing and under clothes. It was quite empowering, though sometimes women would look at me crossways while browsing the women’s section.many time I purchased a birthday card right along with them.
Well, I’m afraid my experience wasn’t as positive as others’ here… I wore a long, brunette wig, a feminine long sleeved blouse, a flowered print skirt, pantyhose, matching heels, and a purse draped over my shoulder. It had a long strap, and placed it around my neck (left side), and it hung on my right side around my right hip. I was careful of my actions (doing my best to be feminine) and didn’t say anything to anyone (voice). It was scary. Felt incredible, but scary. I was in another state, and had gone into a store. I walked around a bit, used the ladies room, and left. As I made it back out to the street, some guy had just left.. his window was down (on his pickup), he shook his fist at me and shouted, “HEY! FUCK YOU!” I live in an area where there’s a lot of Ku Klux Klan. That’s a real scary thing. Apparently, I didn’t pass.
Hannah…OMG, that was terrible. I can surely relate. I hope that didn’t shake your confidence. Some people just can’t mind their own business.
I Would Love to Cross-dress Full Time
One Summer Many Years Ago…… I decided to take some time for myself and dress full time for three days. First I got dressed in a jeans skirt and white blouse, panty hose and boots. I had made an appointment at a nail salon that would do my nails, this was of course nice being dressed and the gal doing my nails knowing it, we just talked girl talk. I got in the car and drove for 2 hrs. and stopped for dinner at a Denny’s. No one seemed to notice. I continued my drive and checked into a motel, it was late, the clerk was ok. The next morning I got up showered shaved my legs and got dressed for a day of out in public. I started with breakfast at a restaurant, went fine, nice waitress. I then went shopping but did not fine anything. Then I need to go to bathroom, so I stopped off at the community center in town and went in and found the women’s locker room and went in. I was full of women who were in all states of dress, some getting ready to swim, some taking showers etc. Found an open stall and did my thing and left. Very exciting to say the least. I believe the key was that I acted like I was supposed to be there and looked passable. What a trip though!!!!! I went to dinner and a movie and then to bed. I slept like a baby. The next day I decide to go shopping a picked up pair of jeans and long sleeve tee shirt to wear to a major league baseball game that I was going to. I went to ticket booth, bought a ticket and sat in the stands, used the ladies rooms had snacks from the concessions, again a nice day. But it all had to end and I returned home to my male side. I will do it again.
Don’t get me wrong but I’m a heterosexual man that likes to cross-dress. My first night out dressed to the nines makeup and all. Well I you got all dressed up and in my apartment. Side note I’ve been cross-dressing at that time off and on for about 10 years. When I got the desire to leave the apartment, so I got the courage where’s my car, which was scary that afraid my neighbors might see me.
I drove down to the local adult bookstore not knowing where to go, and was afraid thought I would come across the wrong person or people, and there was a gay bar next door it made me feel a little safer.
I went into the bookstore and walked around a little just checking out the store and the message board. The guy behind the counter spoke up and said the message board is free for women. What and exhilaration I felt not knowing physically I was passable. What an awesome feeling. Then I spoke telling him that was nice to know. My voice was my voice couldn’t hide it. The female co-worker walked over to me.
The female co-worker commented on how nice I look. And we chatted for a minute. Then the the guy game over and commented I’ll real I look. The three of us chatted for a minute and they both suggested all I needed to do what’s the change my voice a little and I would be totally passable.
They introduce themselves ask Tim and Debbie. Told me to get off in 15 minutes and asked if I would like to join me for a drink. Was hesitant, but accepted. I continue to chat with them and walk around, then I noticed other men in the store checking me. Being straight made me a little nervous and self-conscious. Debbie noticed this and ask for my help putting things on the top shelf behind the counter(I’m 6’2″) which give me a safe place to be. Later I found out unconsciously to me but to Debbie it was all about the show. You see I was wearing a short dress and her asking me for help was just a show for the patrons.
The first time I crossdress in public. I was about 30 years old. I had been private crossdressing for about 5 years. I decided as a birthday gift for myself. I would spend the whole day as a woman. David had gotten 29 birthdays now it was Danielle’s turn. So I got by early did my makeup and got dressed. I did shopping and use the ladies room. It was scary and exciting. I can’t wait to be able to do it again.
Love
Danielle
The first time I went out in public as fem was this March, at the age of 49. I have dressed as female since about the age of 8, but only in the house. I found that I increasingly found that I couldn’t hide myself anymore, so I dressed in something not too over the top and drove to the town centre and walked around for about 30 minutes, looking in shop windows. It was great, most people just ignored me, I had about two people glance at me and no neg comments. On my second trip I was even handed a free nail magazine outside a shop. It felt wonderful!
Sophie