Choosing the right words to describe your gender identity can feel tricky. For transgender and non-binary people, finding a label that fits is personal and important.
Using respectful language matters. Outdated or offensive terms can hurt, so it’s okay to set boundaries about how others address you.
At the same time, you are more than a label. What matters most is how you choose to define yourself, no matter where you are on the gender spectrum.
Do you have a label that feels right – like crossdresser, transgender woman, non-binary, or something else?
I’d love to hear your thoughts, so let’s continue the conversation in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
In an ongoing transition I have been encouraged to use a transwomen ID and since I love my cisgender women partner I am apparently a trans-lesbian.
Hi. This started off as a difficult journey. At the start I was put on medication for a male problem. This medication has changed my whole life, giving me real breasts, less body hair, beautiful nails and more besides. Three years ago I would never have thought things would change so dramatically. I am awaiting an appointment at a transgender clinic to see what my options are. In my mind I am female. My body is gradually reshaping and I really enjoy lingerie. So my gender is to me, not as defined so I would class myself as gender confused and perhaps non-binary. Thank you for to your support and the blogs you post.
For a long time, I wasn’t sure how to “label” myself. My mind and appearance aren’t always agreeing, so non-binary probably is the best fit. Which has led to many purges, anxiety and bouts of dysphoria. Like a tug-of-war. I’ve been on hrt for 6.5 years. It has helped calm my head. I had hoped that the gender struggle was over for me, but apparently not, as my male side again has the need to re-emerge and dominate. I’ve stopped hrt and I have the option of starting again but at this time, I have no plan. Thank you, Lucille for your help and advice. And thank you gang for your kind comments. Aloha.
Hi Morgan, thank you for sharing. I think it’s great if you can embrace the fluidity – there is good on both sides!