Have you noticed that all stunning women have one thing in common – besides their killer looks? It’s CONFIDENCE.
Confidence is also half the battle of passing or blending in as a woman. That’s why the best MTF advice I can give you is to develop your confidence!
Of course, I understand that it’s easier said than done. That’s why in this blog post, I share 3 ways to feel more confident as a crossdresser or transgender woman – starting right now!
1. Stop Criticizing Yourself
How can you expect to feel confident if you constantly put yourself down?
Most of us are so used to criticizing ourselves that we don’t even realize we’re doing it. It’s a bad habit – but like all bad habits, it can be broken.
The first step to stopping the cycle is to interrupt your thoughts. If you catch yourself beating yourself up, literally tell yourself to STOP.
Next, find a way to reframe your thoughts into something more positive. Remind yourself that you’re doing the best you can with what you have. Look for progress rather than perfection.
This might sound like simple advice, but it works if you actually do it.
2. Step Outside Your Comfort Zone
Confidence is like a muscle. If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it. And just like your muscles, it’s something you can develop and improve.
One of the best ways to develop confidence is to take action. You’ll never build confidence if you stay in your comfort zone and do the same things you’ve always done.
So get out there and try something new! Take a few risks! For example, step out with painted toenails, book a makeup lesson, or join a crossdressing or transgender Meetup.
Once you do, you’ll be amazed at how confident you start to feel in situations that once terrified you.
3. Celebrate Your Successes
Appreciating your accomplishments is another great way to increase your confidence.
It’s easy to focus on the areas that still need improving, but don’t lose sight of how far you’ve come.
What risks did you take today? What did you do well? No matter how small, start to recognize these and celebrate them.
More confidence boosters
Confidence is one of the most important feminine qualities you can develop. These tips are a great starting point.
If you want to learn more, here are my favorite books for building confidence:
- Taming Your Gremlin by Rick Carson
- Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers
- You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay
Now let’s hear from you…
Where do YOU fall on the confidence scale? If you consider yourself a stunning, self-assured woman (and I hope you do!), what confidence boosting tips can you share?
Please leave your comments below!
Love,
Lucille
P.S. One of my favorite confidence boosting tools is hypnosis. Want to try it for yourself?
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I have good days and I have bad days. I really wish that I could dress as I want all the time but I’m just too chicken to come out to my employer.
Starting on HRT last July did a lot for making me more comfortable in my own skin, but getting the confidence was a tough hurdle beforehand.
Over the years, though, I’ve become less concerned with “passing” (not easy being 6’3) and more focused on just giving a positive, feminine impression. I don’t really care anymore if anyone picks me out as trans, just gonna make them take a second glance.
Its called the law of Attraction
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I have been out and about and as far as l know no one knows or no one is saying anything to my face. The world is just starting to accept us and l for one is enjoying every moment.
I’d say that “confidence” is *more* than half the “battle,” and my self-confidence, my at-ease with myself, is possibly my greatest asset as a transgender woman: I am “gracefully trans:”
Being Gracefully Trans…
…Is being comfortable being transgender…
…Without apology…
…Without complacency…
…Without letting fear paralyze me…
…Expressing myself in kindness…
…With gentleness…
…With firmness…
…With joy…
…Becoming who I am…
…All I am.
Beautifully said!!! I love this so much. Do you mind if I repost it on my Facebook Page? (I will give you credit of course.) Thank you!
You’re *very kind* Lucille, yes, of course you may re-post it.
Being a beautiful and gracious person on the inside has been my greatest priority, and I had faith in a deep truth that however I changed in my physical appearance and gender presentation, that these would in some measure be colored by my inner person…
…I transitioned gradually and gently through androgyny over the last six years, and many, many people saw me go through these changes, and early-on I sensed that it *could* be a graceful process, and I wanted that very much, in part because I want cis folk to understand that we trans folk are beautifully human just as they are, and I wanted to encourage others among us with similar needs to begin to work through their own gender journeys…
…I never tried to convince people I was a woman, but more and more, with greater integrity and fidelity, I *became( myself: a woman. It’s an inside-out thing. Eventually, people who had seen me change through the years decided “she must be woman.” And when I recognized what had happened, I realized I was “home,” and I relaxed fully into my identity, celebrating it by changing my legal name and permanent gender marker…
…At the same time, I am a woman whether I have the name, the pronouns, the affirmations, the clothes, the hormones, the surgeries. All of these support the woman I already am; the female person I always was. Recognizing who I am allows me to be at ease with imperfect self.
Here is where I originally wrote “About Being Gracefully Trans” on my blog:
https://gracefullytrans.wordpress.com/being-gracefully-trans-2/
Blessings & Joy!!
T’is a pity most women don’t know what a kick it is to be female.
This post couldn’t be more timely! I just spent the entire day en femme out at the mall and two restaurants. I considered the time an opporunity for me to take a risk and see how people treated me.
The result – I was treated as either normal or super-nice! I didn’t receive any snickers or sideways glances at all.
Thank you for your part in encouraging all of us, and providing blogs and resources that help us blend into society.
I have 0% confidence going out. I live in a small red neck town in the south. Wouldn’t go over well with many of the locals that I rely on for work.
I have been known to walk out to the mail box in my robe forgetting I was wearing my falsies and a night gown.
Ten or twelve inches of satin below the terry robe gets some long looks from the neighbors.
Every day when I get home I lay out a dress, fresh bra and panties and decide how big or small my breast will be today; Shower then it’s girl time till I go to work again.
A friend of mine is going to teach me to put on my make up as soon as I can get some. And I’m shopping for wigs.
I hit a milestone today… After 50 years I finally made an appointment with a psychologist to talk about my TG issue and start HRT, I guess after a few visits.
Kinda wish I had done this 38 years ago.
Thanks and girls, Be Happy!
I go out as a female all the time. I have even had guys flirt with me,and have been asked out on dates at least 3 times. I don’t think most of them even knew I was really male!! So things like that really boost my self esteem.And I agree with Lisa,it’s great being a woman! I would also like to wish Lucille and all the “girls” out there a very Merry Christmas and a GREAT New Year!