There’s more to speaking as a woman than just feminizing your voice. The words you use (and how you use them) are equally important!
It doesn’t matter how good you look or how “passable” your female voice might be… If you have masculine speaking habits, you’re going to send mixed messages to people.
Here are the main differences between masculine and feminine communication styles:
- Men tend to be more direct and “task-oriented” in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of achieving results.
- Women tend to be more “circular” and detail-oriented in their communication. They use their words for the purpose of forming relationships.
So, what’s the secret to achieving a distinctly feminine style of speech?
In this blog post on transgender voice tips, I share 3 ways to successfully speak as a woman. Read on to learn more!
1. Feminize Your Vocabulary
Men and women have very different vocabularies, so it’s critical to incorporate feminine words into your speech. Here are some key distinctions:
- Women tend to use more descriptive adjectives. A woman wouldn’t tell you about the “pink dress” she just bought. She’d tell you about the “adorable fuchsia Diane Von Furstenberg wrap dress” she just maxed out her credit card on.
- Men and women often use different words for the same thing. For example, a guy might call the lower abdomen the “gut, whereas a woman would be more likely to call it the “tummy.”
To expand your feminine vocabulary, listen to women in real life, on TV, and in movies. Read women’s magazines. Look and listen for words you don’t use and incorporate a few new words or descriptive phrases into your vocabulary each week.
2. Talk More
Studies show that women speak three times as much as men. While this obviously isn’t a universal truth, it’s something to consider.
Are you one of those people who answers questions with one word? If so, practice expanding on your answers. Include more details and/or how you feel about the situation. (Yes, talk about your feelings, girlfriend!)
Of course, this does NOT mean you should drone on and on about yourself. Women are also typically good listeners, so make sure you listen as much as you speak.
3. Ask More Questions
Finally, since women use their words to form relationships, they tend to ask more questions. Men tend to tell rather than ask. If a man asks a question, it’s to get down to the point.
Practice asking more questions the next time you have a conversation with somebody. Not only is this more feminine, it makes the other person feel validated because you’re showing interest in them.
Want to learn more about the differences between masculine and feminine communication? Check out the video below to dive deeper into this topic.
Let’s discuss…
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts and if you agree with my observations.
How important is feminine communication to you? Do you struggle with this or have you mastered the art of girl talk?
Please share in the comments below!
Love,
Lucille
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Hello Lucille,
I sometimes have this problem when I talk with some of my gay friends I try to speak feminine, but sometimes the man voice seems to kick in at times. I enjoy speaking feminine it’s who I am and I still need to listen a little more to find where my mistakes are comming from and being a tg is all I wnated to be. Thank you Lucille your the best.
For me is absolutely normal the following. I’ve bought a beautiful dress in the tones of green. Why is it green? Because it’s in fashion now. I saw recently a clip of Blackmore’s Night when Candice was in a long dress of these tones. But what’s a pity that she has sung a song Greensleeves only in short version! But she loves cats like me and I have two. They adore Proplan and Velkis. It was raining when I enter the shop and I’ve forgotten my umbrella. So I had to buy the new one. In the colors of my new dress. Оh! About a dress! Well, it’s a charming green dress with puffy short cut sleeves, laces in the zone of chest and till floor in the length. 95% viscose, 5% elastan. And my new dress requres the new emerald high heels. I will note it in my wish book. And I love my dress very much. It’s a very feminine!
I love that you referenced Blackmore’s Night, I love that band! You are the only person I’ve ever heard mention them. And I love your entire comment too, very feminine. 🙂
Real ‘food for thought’ guidance, Lucille. I have much less of an issue knowing how to describe things in ‘girl speak”, than pitching my voice (& intonation).
Thank you as always.
Aside from the difference in communication styles, the physical difference in the size of men’s lungs and larynx create a lower pitch and resonance. I have worked with Kathe Perez’s online course for voice feminization and being able to achieve a passable feminine voice has been quite challenging. When conducting business on the phone, you’ll often find out how you come across; people will tend to call you sir or m’am. Sometimes anxiety is a factor too. For example when waiting in line at the drugstore and they say, “May I help the next person,” and you walk up to the counter, it’s easy to become self conscious and this makes it harder to relax and maintain your pitch. Sometimes I just want to get the surgery because life would be a lot easier, but I am still hoping to be able to train myself.
For me Kathe is the best in voice feminization. After her Beyond the Fundamentals I called up my Mum and asked a computer store. She answered: Lady, it’s a wrong number.
You called your mother and she thought you were a woman?? Okay, that’s pretty amazing! So it sounds like you got a lot out of the Beyond the Basics course. I haven’t checked it out. What benefits did you get that weren’t in the 30 day CC? If you want to write me directly : reachme33@gmail.com.
For me Kathe is the best in the world in voice feminization. After her Beyond the Fundamentals I called up my mother and asked a computer store. She answered: Lady, it’s a wrong number.
Yes I tend to struggle with speaking like a woman.
Excellent post!…i especially enjoyed watching the video and bookmarked it on Youtube–it was very insightful. Thanks Lucille!
i have problems with the vocab and the voice itself i kinda got away from the circular thought padderns and ways of reasoning.
Wow, Lucille, this is deep and quite intriguing insight into our feminine journey.
I find it quite difficult trying to cultivate a feminine sounding voice
so should I concentrate on sound rather than anything else for now? I’m not really able to concentrate on two fairly demanding areas at once. I suppose this shows I’ve a long way to go on my femme journey. Love. Joanna & him xx .