Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I am a dress nice and be as presentable as can be, but am not the type to want to draw undo attention to me self. I like it most when I am not starred at and can go and have a good time and be noticed but not noticed at the same time.
Hugs Dawn
I voted to stand out because I believe that most women want to stand out in a crowd but, because some girls are more subconscious about themselves they want to blend in with the crowd. When I say blend in I’m talking about becoming one within. Meaning being excepted as a female and most females I know want to stand out for the good things and not their short commings. Diana
I voted to stand out because I believe that most women want to stand out in a crowd but, because some girls are more subconscious about themselves they want to blend in with the crowd. When I say blend in I’m talking about becoming one within. Meaning being excepted as a female and most females I know want to stand out for the good things and not their short commings. Diana
I try to be my true self when i go en femme. that means being outgoing, cheerful, bold, saucy, confidant, open, and honest. only a few traits do I keep in male mode, in particular the honesty.
admittedly yesterday 10/28/2011 my workplace had a costume party and I went completely en femme to work and was noticed by every one of my co-workers to the point most thought I was a normal woman. the only give away was my voice because I had to use my normal voice for answering calls. I ended up being talk of the workplace(to the point I even overheard two GGs said they were jealous) and even the top manager in my area saw and was impressed.
Tough question, Lucille, I want to blend in and be noticed at the same time, as a woman. I just don’t want to be noticed to the extent that men hit on me. I don’t like men. I know when I go en femme now I rarely see a sideways glance so I guess I blend fairly well.
I voted for ‘stand out’ on the poll, but the real truth is quite a bit messier than a simple two-choice poll leaves room for. I’m rather introverted, and too much direct attention leaves me feeling stressed and uncomfortable, but at the same time I’m also fairly anti-conformist and don’t want to just ‘blend in.’
Maybe the easiest way to put it, is that I want to ‘stand out’ in the way that the lead character from MTV’s “Daria” stood out.
I tend to stand out because I belly dance in public. When I’m with the ladies, I tend to sit and listen and observe to learn some pointers. I tend to be a supporter of what the other ladies are achieving and to encourage them.When I’m not dancing ,I try to blend in. I do get alot of positive feedback from people. People tend to callme miss or maam even when I’m really grunging.
I prefer to just blend in. Although I generally do not have an issue with “Passing” in public but I’m not seeking attention or competition to stand out. I’m happy with just being me.
Just being able to be ourselves is great. It’s certainly the most important thing to me.