Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I have had it both ways . One evening I saw 2 guys drag a body out of a car near a gay bar that I had just left . I called the police and told them that I would wait for them and I was dressed as a woman . That night I blended in
so well that the officer didn’t believe me when I said my first name was Michael .
I like being noticed, I like the smiles I get from other women, I’m a kind of happy person, I like to smile, people smile back lol. If my make, clothing etc is perfect then the I smile more, people notice. I like it alot 🙂 xx
I want to be passable therefore you blend in and at the same time can standout if you want to , for if you are wearing a hot outfit and done up to the nines you want to be noticed but if you are not passable there is way to many rednecks and bigots out there yet, at least here.
Have a great day Wilma
I have been out for about 20 years. When I first started being out as myself I tried very hard to blend in, I was working as Michelle in a public service position I had to blend in because I had to reflect the best for my company. As I became more comfortable in my feminine role I wanted to be noticed and, slowly, changed my presentation from being almost invisible to being more open and visible and attractive.
My advice is to start slowly and become comfortable and as you feel more confident let yourself become more visible and outgoing.
Of course I love positive attention! For me, it is important to dress feminine and sexy, and getting admiring stares and being chatted up is so good! I absolutely refuse to dress down to blend in with all the other drab women, I love my 4″ heels and short skirts!
As the Transgender woman that I am, I do tend to ‘stand out” and in a way I dress to show the confidence that I have as being who I am.I do “pass” very well though I am somewhat older than most. Also, I am a more “Staturesque Woman” so it happens and i just go with the flow. For me, “passing” is something that is enhanced by how I dress and portray myself, but it truly comes from within. Of course, make-up does help a lot, Hee Hee Hee!! Life is grand when you can be and are happy. It shows!!
I don’t really want to blend in but standing out is good if I stand out for being a woman and not “a guy in a dress”. This is also dependent on mood and surroundings. Around where I live I dont worry so much about safety but I was in a more redneck part of my state the other day. I chose not to wear makeup and tied my hair in a ponytail and wore a baseball cap along with jeans and a tank top. Pretty much Northwest Casual. I still got ma’am’ed everywhere but certainly didnt stand out.
It was a nice confidence booster, though, that I sftill came across as female when I wasnt remotely trying. 🙂
I rather blend in for while until I feel very confident when I do go ENFEMME publically (haven’t been yet). When my confidence is good, I feel that it would be time to stand out in Suttle ways but in a very classical (demure ) approach only. Thank you so much for letting me voice my opinion.