Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I am a cross dresser and transgender. In away I like to leave them guessing if I am male or female. One thing amongst all things that give things away is a persons walk males have to tune there walk to be more feminine. Sitting also lets things out of the bag even though you may look the part.
In my case these have become finely tuned it’s only when I stir at somebody that things callasp. Even then my face cannot always be evaluated because the makeup is just right. So! Walking into two major high street stores who have cosmetic counters as standard his it a he or a she? Your makeup lovely?
Being 6-6, I stand out no matter what I wear. I would LOVE to have the OPTION of ‘blending in’ but the reality is, as a girl at 6-6, that is almost impossible. I DO believe in dressing my age however and leave the ‘daring’ for home and my lover…
Kisses to all,
Twinkie
Hello Twinkie D. I agreed with u on that too, like totally even, I’m standing at 5’5”.
Here’s my take I like to blend in when I want to be left alone and not wanting attention. But there’re times I want to stand out also as a noticeable young lady but not looking like a street walker. Thank you so much for asking.
Culturally, things have changed so rapidly for the TG community over the past 20 years. Each person should be accepted for who they feel they are and I believe it’s incumbent for said person to dress and act the part. I try my best to be an attractive, sixty-ish modern woman. It’s about me feeling good and being pleased with how I look.
Hi Deanna, I agreed with you. If I’m looking good I’m doing it for myself and not for whomever. It’s all about attitude and confident. So yah for sure, Deanna I agreed with you on your comment.
I voted “Stand Out” in the survey but I do want to clarify. Most of my ‘out dressed in public’ ventures are shopping; buying groceries at WalMart, browsing in high end boutiques and anything in between. As most women do their shopping in what they consider ‘comfortable’ clothing (jeans, exercise wear, etc.) I would have to dress similarly to “blend in”. If I dress that way I would just feel androgynous and not feminine which is what I strive to be. So even though I wear conservative dresses or skirts and tops, makeup and heels I think most people would still see that as “standing out” in most shopping situations.
Attached picture is me last summer dressed as I generally am when I’m out shopping.
At 69 years, and 6’4″ I am not passable. I preferr to blend in as as much of a well dressed, traditionally dressed woman as I can. I try to project that same feeling in my actions. Sandy
i never really go out to make a statement at all. i blend in more if people notice great. let them notice how happy i am. do i seek the attention of them no. i think if someone pushes the attention on them self might be wanting a mate or looking for someone to get that attention. i think its more easier to blend in then seeking the attention of others people will notice you better if you blend in and you will get that attention a lot better.
i my self is going though the process of male to female or MtF
If we were talking of back in like the 50’s or 60’s, then yes we should try and blend in. today, if we dress nice, wear skirts/dresses rather than jeans that look like they belong in the rag barrel, standing out I think is much better.
I much prefer to look like a lady and not like someone who does not care about how they look.
It’s important to pass or blend in when presenting self ad frmme6