Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I find that as I get older, blending in just gets better! At 74, I just try my best to look like any other lady doing her thing. Now that I’m retired, l live pretty much every day now as a woman. I love it! Here I am the other day going out to a restaurant with a friend of mine. Have fun out there ladies!
Hello All,
I’ve never been one to stand out on anything except job performance, leadership, doing my own thing, being a parent. As for “presenting” as a woman and to blend or stand out, I prefer to blend in but perhaps carry myself while shopping or getting my nails done or just out for a walk with enough zeal that people notice me and do not consider me in a negative light in any way. If I go clubbing, that’s a different story, but everyday Crystal, I’m just me, try to look my best and be attractive, exude confidence in that I’m a woman who should be treated respectfully. I guess for those who are flambouyant are what I guard against. I don’t want to stick out like a sore thumb, but stick out enough that perhaps a cute guy will want to associate with me or make some new lady friends. Be approachable by being humble……that’s me……
I prefer to blend in and not to attract too much attention. As I’m now in my transition period, I passing well at work. I have noticed that everyone seems to be pre-occupied these days and occasionally will glance my way.
I dress conservatively, and wear white blouses that show my D cup breasts and bra. For me, that shows my femininity as a woman. I also prefer dresses that are V neck for the same reason. I just want to be me and present myself as the most feminine woman I can be.
Blending in is always a good choice but if one can find a way to pick and choose where a girl can stand out, do it. In short, no so much about being the belle of the day but rather being the belle to those who have noticed you 🙂
I prefer to blend in especially during the day which means dressing like other women. The biggest secret is confidence and having a femme voice helps me pass most of the time especially in social situations. Its lovely to wear fabulous dresses and be glamorous but you will get read in the shops .
Over ten years into transition and simply learning to accept and love yourself just the way you are leads to self confidence…then you just roll with dress style according to the event or venue. Dress up, dress down, just allow yourself to be “you”. I prefer blending in as I’m not especially attractive or feminine. Hormones have helped plenty, but at age 69, I’m not going to get any prettier! Lol. Father Time is undefeated…(Smile). So you pretty much see the “soccer grandma” look from me unless it requires “more”.
Honestly a great question, but I have to stick with blend in. My fear isn’t being “made” in public, it’s the fear of being “made” and then sent to the hospital for broken bones and a damaged head. To much hatred exists and peer pressure leads people to doing dumb things. That kind of uncertainty outweighs any notion I have to stand out (which does exist).
I’d love to blend in. Unfortunately the ravages of puberty have delivered me into a 6ft 4″ body.
This doesn’t and has not hampered my late and gentle transition at the ripe age of 45. But I am realistic about this.
I still conduct and present as the woman that is buried beneath this enormous frame.
But I will never pass.