Are you afraid to step out as a woman for fear of not “passing?”
Instead of fixating on passing, my advice to crossdressers and transgender women has always been to try to “blend in” as a woman instead. (Read more on that topic here.)
But lately, I’ve been wondering… Is blending in REALLY the ultimate goal when presenting as female?
After all, why wear cute outfits, style your hair, or apply makeup if no one notices?
I think it’s a natural feminine desire to want to stand out and make a statement. Does your inner woman share this desire?
This is an interesting topic, and I’d love to hear your thoughts:
- Do you enjoy getting positive attention when presenting yourself as a woman?
- Or do you prefer to blend in and attract as little attention as possible?
Please take my poll and share your thoughts below!
Love,
Lucille
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I’m in my 80s so clubbing in a bodycon dress with 5″ heels is somewhat out of the question. Blending and being accepted as a (relatively) conservative woman are my goals, and successful most of the time. The times I’m unsuccessful — well, who cares? I’m just me; those who care about me are supportive, too.
I like to blend in. I have always gone for a more conservative look so as not to bring that much attention.
My goal is to feel feminine but not stand out. I want to be accepted as a woman, and as such try to dress appropriately for whatever “event” I am attending – movie, shopping, walk in the park. I’ve been told I do blend in, or pass, but there’s always that nagging voice in the back of my head saying “They know you’re a guy in a dress, don’t you feel foolish?”
standing out (as a Female) -has always been my thing—sometimes it’s worked well-other times not so much– from as young as I can remember I was facinated with “Girls” what they wore ect— grew up with 4 brothers & the old man was army/ex army & at home had super masculinity all the time—but mostly I had female Friends—even in grade school girls would dress me up– my late wife had fun with my dressing & we used to go out as two women–she died suddenly now I’m mostly worried about paying the bills on one income & keeping my job so don’t have confidence to go out dresed much–Have been hoping to find an open minded boyfriend- so I can go public & feel safe-
This is my ‘blend in look’. Fairly smart but dressed down. I go out and about like this, sometimes with longer hair and often wear a skirt with opaque tights etc. In summer i wear a dress with trainers. I only wear heels in th evening or a low heel when wearing boots. It works very well for me; never had any trouble!
I seem to blend in without problems and I have made many tg friends as well as male and female friends.
A third option of both would have been my vote. There are days where I just want to walk by unnoticed and usually I just do whatever I can to go unseen on those days. Funny enough I do that so well people try to walk through me as if I’m invisible. But then there are days where I want to be seen and I want to bask in how naturally feminine and beautiful I am, which has taken me a long time to admit because being trans always made me feel unnatural and unattractive. But now because of my natural feminine shape, voice and appearance I do like having people see me and I do enjoy going out in a cute outfit. I honestly need to do it more often. So yeah my answer is both.
I voted to stand out but not positively or negatively. Just to be myself but changed, which is not a contradiction. I know I will radiate and embrace radically different displays and roles from whatever conceived of gender presentations there are in this vast diverse world of ours. Interactions with this woman – anticipated welcome to the realm of alien encounters!